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I’m so sick of people, and I just need to vent to others (or just to a safe abyss) who I know understand, because no one in our real life would, and if I have to hear the overpopulation of homeless cats be referred to as “the cat problem” one more time, I’m going to scream.

It is not a cat problem. It is a people problem.

People made cats an invasive species all over the world.

People refused, and still refuse, to spay and neuter their cats.

People advocated the culling strategy even after research confirmed it only exacerbates the issue by creating a vacuum effect, and that there was a more effective, more humane, and more affordable alternative.

People adopted that cute little kitten and then abandoned it the moment it wasn’t cute anymore or became too inconvenient.

And people are the ones threatening and trying to stop those of us who give so much of our time, money, energy, emotional labor, and space in our homes actually trying to fix it.

It’s not a cat problem. It never was.

Cats didn’t put themselves in this situation, we did. These cats are victims of circumstances borne of human error, ego, callousness, carelessness, ignorance, and apathy.

We created this problem. Only we can fix it.

But some humans are so hell bent on not only evading this responsibility, but actively sabotaging those of us who are trying to do something about it.

Last November, I finished TNRing a massive colony for some folks and could finally start focusing on the two new colonies I had stumbled upon over summer.

I set out traps to start trap training them, and by the end of the week, I had very unexpectedly relapsed from a chronic illness and couldn’t even feed them (boyfriend had to take over).

By January, I was in the hospital. I spent most of January - May in the hospital. During the summer, I was still bed bound, tethered to an IV pole and air tank, receiving home infusions every few weeks, and on over 40 prescription pills a day.

And that colony I was just about to TNR over winter? They went from 7 cats to now over… well, I couldn’t even tell you (most are black and indistinguishable), but I’m guessing over 20.

But a couple months ago, I was finally mobile again. I was on blood thinners and oxygen during a pandemic with a virus that really does not bode well for those two things, but hey, I could finally TNR!

So, we TNR’d our first two from the colony, and trapped 5 out of 6 of the new kittens from the last two litters. They were a bit older and more intensive to socialize, however, all but one has come around now.

But in the two weeks I was trying desperately to trap that last one, I resorted to withholding food (something I only rarely ever do when trapping), and as I headed home one night after checking yet another empty trap, I saw him - in my headlights, laying on the ground, his broken body flailing around.

I jumped out of the car. It was Thursday, the male we had TNR’d weeks ago, the one we were closest to in all of our colonies.

He died there in my arms, as I held him and bawled my eyes out, collapsed in the middle of the street as cars drove around me.

These cats never come into the street. They always stay in the woods. And I couldn’t help but feel that the only reason he’d left the woods was because he was searching for food since I didn’t feed them that day.

We had him privately cremated the next morning.

A few days later, an unknown neighbor drove by as we were feeding and screamed obscenities to us.

So now we get up at 4:45 AM every day to try and avoid whoever that was.

Not long after, at another colony, we see a sign posted on the fence - “Please stop feeding the stray cats. If you continue to do so, I will trap and relocate them.”

I wrote back kindly explaining what we were doing with the cats who were there long before we were, and described how the colony had already gone from 8 cats down to only 2-3 (with one pending adoption once we TNR and socialize, as a neighbor really wants him) by spaying all the females there, adopting out the kittens and two of the adults, who we socialized. I told them we strive to work with neighbors and encouraged them to please contact me with any questions or concerns. I taped the note on top of theirs.

Two days later, the notes were gone. It’s been two weeks, and I still haven’t heard from them.

Do they understand now and are they okay with it?

Did someone else entirely remove the note, so the original person never saw?

Are they still planning to trap this whittled down colony?

I have no idea. But I think about it every day.

Then comes last week.

We notice an ongoing diarrhea problem (previous stool random samples came up clear) with the cats/kittens in the house getting worse, so we send out some more fecal samples.

Turns out, one of our populations (10 cats) has coccidia, and another (9 cats/kittens) have giardia. Never a dull moment.

Later in the week, we find a colony at a gas station. Turns out, they’re in trouble.

An employee at the gas station had been feeding them and was threatened with her job to stop. Management has supposedly called animal control.

We are these cats last hope. Not only must we take the three kittens (and possibly a newborn litter), but we must also take the four adults and relocate them to our house colony.

We have 24 cats and kittens in the house (most fosters), so the only room to contain the four adults in will be the bathroom. We’ll integrate the kittens with the ones we trapped a few weeks ago.

In the meantime, we are feeding and trapping. But unless the employee who was feeding them is working, we can only feed them after the gas station closes after 12 or 1 AM.

So, we feed (and trap) at 12 or 1 AM at the gas station, then get up at 4:45 AM to feed our other colonies, then spend the day disinfecting the house in between work. It is as much of a cluster:censored: as it sounds and more.

Then yesterday, I noticed an entirely new cat at one of our colonies too. Luckily it’s likely a boy given the ginger coat, or at least I hope.

But then this morning happened.

We were feeding one of our normal colonies, and I heard it. “Mew, mew, mew.”

My heart dropped into my stomach. My vision tunneled, and I felt a sudden need to kick up a liter on the air tank strapped to my back.

How did we miss it? We were looking for this, it’s why we trapped the female we did here last month.

Another litter, still young. Who knows where, they sound young enough that I probably won’t see them for at least a couple weeks.

But for whatever reason, it was the straw that broke the camel’s proverbial back.

I had a meltdown today, followed by a pretty comprehensive shut down.

I don’t know how we’re going to get through this.

If this problem people created wasn’t already bad enough, the fact that people are actively - and sometimes aggressively - trying to stop me from fixing it, and also forcing me to shoulder the responsibility for at least 7 more lives just because they and their customers can’t be bothered with the sight of cats, well, that’s just the nail in the coffin here.

And if any of you have actually stuck around to read to this point, I know you understand. I know you do.

I feel so alienated from other people these days. Even friends and family, who I can’t breathe a word of this to, lest I must tolerate everything I’ve said here being written off and minimized by “crazy cat lady” rhetoric for the hundredth time.

People don’t get it. People created it, contribute to it, make it worse or just look away from it. But they don’t get it. They don’t even try to.

And as always, the buck stops with us. The very tiny minority of us who care and take responsibility for others mistakes.

The problem is with the cats,
and we’re just a bunch of crazy cat ladies.

I suppose saying those things is infinitely easier than actually doing literally anything about it.




Here’s a little cat tax to end this depressing post on a happier note:


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Five more lives saved. 🖤
 
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We do understand. I could tell you stories of myself and of so many others. Every time I am confronted I tell the person, “If you are not part of the solution, YOU are part of the problem.” I put it squarely on their shoulders. I am working to solve your problem. A little respect please. My family uses the cat lady phrase with me once. Only once. I explained that I fel this was currently ,” my calling.” A job put before me that others tossed out for me to see. Ignoring a problem won’t make it go away. I always suggest to anyone making remarks that they walk a mile in my shoes. Join me! Become a kitty hero! I need you! They need you! Some have joined me! Just be sure to take care of you when you need to. Sending you purrs and love. You are not alone. Look at those faces! Reward time! :redheartpump:
 

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I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a rough time.

:hugs:

I think everyone who has done any TNR or rescue will understand exactly how you feel. It's not just people who try to care for feral cats that face these problems. I know people who try to rescue unwanted dogs or horses that are faced with the same kind of thing. An overwhelming number of animals in need, an exasperating number of people who don't know or care enough to do anything and a minority who seem to get some satisfaction from being cruel and spiteful to those who are trying to help. Anyone who does anything to protect the vulnerable, be that people, animals or the environment, are subjected to abuse from that kind of person.

Ignore them. It isn't directed at you personally. Those people are filled with hate and will direct it at anyone they come into contact with, but what they really hate is themselves. Focus on the good you are doing and the lives you have saved.

It's heart breaking to lose a feral that you've been feeding and caring for. I've been in the same position and it's only natural to think about the "if only" and to blame yourself. But you did what you could and it's not your fault when bad things happen.

You sound like you're totally overwhelmed at the moment. Are there any other TNR groups you could join forces with to help share the load?

Don't worry about being called a Crazy Cat Lady. They used to burn us as witches and they don't do that anymore, so that's progress, right?

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We do understand. I could tell you stories of myself and of so many others. Every time I am confronted I tell the person, “If you are not part of the solution, YOU are part of the problem.” I put it squarely on their shoulders. I am working to solve your problem. A little respect please. My family uses the cat lady phrase with me once. Only once. I explained that I fel this was currently ,” my calling.” A job put before me that others tossed out for me to see. Ignoring a problem won’t make it go away. I always suggest to anyone making remarks that they walk a mile in my shoes. Join me! Become a kitty hero! I need you! They need you! Some have joined me! Just be sure to take care of you when you need to. Sending you purrs and love. You are not alone. Look at those faces! Reward time! :redheartpump:
I would love to have the guts to say “if you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem!” Any time an issue about the cats comes up, I try to be as non confrontational as possible, for fear of what will happen to the cats if I’m not.

I actually really like “I’m working to solve your problem”! I usually default into describing TNR in a very distanced way, but I like the idea of making it more personal by explicitly emphasizing that I’m helping you. I think I might try that next time!

That’s awesome that your family respected you and what you’re doing enough to not “crazy cat lady” you again! In the very beginning, I used to try and use humor to deal with it and respond “That’s cat QUEEN to you!” but the more suffering I saw, the more agitated that I became with all that suffering and all my sacrifice - me and the cats - just being written off as some silly, sexist joke.

It’s not funny. It’s not okay. The suffering that I’ve seen these cats go through is not okay. Statistically speaking, almost every cat under this roof would not be alive today if it weren’t for us stepping in, let alone those cats still outside.

I have really tried hard to get people involved, but everyone around me are dog people. Not that they help with dogs either, except for one. Sometimes they’ll adopt instead of shop and then feel they’re entitled to an award for their good deed :lol:

Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against adopters! I’m speaking specifically about people who want a pat on the back for adopting, all while dumping in people who do the actual rescuing.

I have had a few people on Nextdoor express interest in fostering and TNR, but so far they’ve all flaked out on me, and then - of course - call me the moment they hear about a cat in need.

I just wish there were more people to share this burden with so it didn’t always feel so heavy.
 

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I only use that phrase with those who cannot be friendly. 95% of the time they can be won over or satisfied that they do not need to interfere. Recruiting others to be a presence really helps. Just being seen as a grouo , rather tha the same two people appearing. You could try getting sort of a uniform. A logo shirt/hat makes it look more official. People tend to avoid an organization as more powerful. It seems to say, we have supporters. For those who want to help but not physically, ask them to just give in any way they can. Buying a bag of cat food is easy.,Stress that any help is appreciated.
 
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I'm so sorry to hear that you're having such a rough time.

:hugs:

I think everyone who has done any TNR or rescue will understand exactly how you feel. It's not just people who try to care for feral cats that face these problems. I know people who try to rescue unwanted dogs or horses that are faced with the same kind of thing. An overwhelming number of animals in need, an exasperating number of people who don't know or care enough to do anything and a minority who seem to get some satisfaction from being cruel and spiteful to those who are trying to help. Anyone who does anything to protect the vulnerable, be that people, animals or the environment, are subjected to abuse from that kind of person.

Ignore them. It isn't directed at you personally. Those people are filled with hate and will direct it at anyone they come into contact with, but what they really hate is themselves. Focus on the good you are doing and the lives you have saved.

It's heart breaking to lose a feral that you've been feeding and caring for. I've been in the same position and it's only natural to think about the "if only" and to blame yourself. But you did what you could and it's not your fault when bad things happen.

You sound like you're totally overwhelmed at the moment. Are there any other TNR groups you could join forces with to help share the load?

Don't worry about being called a Crazy Cat Lady. They used to burn us as witches and they don't do that anymore, so that's progress, right?

:lol:
You’re definitely right, it is an all over rescue problem in some ways.

At the sanctuary I work at, we take pretty much everything but marine life. From cats and dogs, to opossums, to lemurs, to rhesus monkeys, to lions, to cows, to llamas, to pet rabbits and reptiles. There will never be enough people for the amount of animals in need.There are certainly more cat rescuers than for small companion animals or wildlife.

But cats are the only thing I am actively and routinely disparaged for.

My best friend from childhood is a dog rescuer. She has 30 something dogs in her house (including medium and large breeds), which is smaller than my house with 24 cats/kittens right now.

But whenever this comes up between our mutual friends and family, she’s never called crazy. It’s “I don’t know how you do it.”

The attitude for cats is just… different, even for some people who have cats.

I am totally overwhelmed!!! I don’t have much time to do it, but every spare minute I have has been dedicated to contacting rescues and sanctuaries all over Texas. I’ve contacted about 60 so far.

The San Antonio Feral Cat Coalition has never been helpful. I’ve contacted them multiple times a year since I first joined this site and was thrust into the world of cat rescue.

Ha! Thank goodness they aren’t burning us anymore! I have over 30 black cats in my colonies combined, and 8 in the house! I don’t think I would survive that horror, lol

That was one refreshing thing about this new colony - no black cats and everyone looks distinct! :lol:
 
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You could try getting sort of a uniform. A logo shirt/hat makes it look more official. People tend to avoid an organization as more powerful. It seems to say, we have supporters.
It’s funny you say that, because I actually have two!

One of the all-volunteer Facebook rescue groups I’m part of actually had shirts made for this very purpose (and to raise money for our emergency fund) to essentially help seem more “official” for people asking questions on rescues, even though we’re not an actual organization or rescue -


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Whenever I get yelled at, I always wear them in the following days just in case the person comes back :lol:

Or if I know I’ll be trapping or kitten searching in a super public place.

But I don’t have enough to wear on a daily basis! I wish I did!
 
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I think that could help! Great. Maybe get some extras of some sort? I think it looks very official. Maybe put the county and state and then rescue emergency grouo. Maybe wear an ID badge around your neck too. It all gives a more official look snd may fend off some.
I’ll contact the admins just to make sure it’s okay with them. They’re very aware the shirts help, so hopefully they will understand and not have any problems with it.

We were hoping to start planning to apply for 501c3 status once our colonies were all fixed, but it just keeps getting pushed farther and farther back :(
 
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Yes many of us can relate and it’s frustrating.
Thanks for all you do!
Based on my user name I don’t mind the crazy cat lady although I will say people don’t take what we do seriously when they call us that.
Yeah, it’s not the words themselves, it’s the fact that it’s almost always used to dimini the cats and the work we do.

I do understand many people mean it in a lighthearted way sometimes, but it comes off completely tone deaf.

Taking care of these cats isn’t fun. I love them, but it isn’t fun. It’s stressful, and emotional, and it’s hard work. And there is always a cat in need.

I also don’t like when people pretend I’m a variety of “cat lady” who just decided to adopt a bunch of cats because I wanted them as pets.

I’ve never “chosen” a cat in my life. Every single cat I own and every single one that’s come into our house was forced on us through circumstance, because they needed help and they had no one else. I manage to get some into rescues now and then, especially stray kittens or super young feral ones, but otherwise we’re their last chance.

I’ve never just made a decision to have a cat, or was able to just pick and choose which ones I wanted. We keep the ones who aren’t adopted, that no one else wants, that are usually on hospice care, or have other high needs medically and/or behaviorally (including litter box issues).

So yeah, it’s the intent and/or implications behind “crazy cat lady” that get to me. It almost always feels like it’s minimizing what these poor animals go through, while also completely disregarding how absolutely freaking hard it is to do what we do.

When I used to hate cats and worked with a dog only rescue, plenty of people would look the other way from a dog in need, but they never acted like they do with cats. They saw it as important work and - most significantly - that the dogs were worthy of such efforts. There was just so much more compassion and understanding.
 

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Not to get off the subject a little here, but I hope that you are able to do what you are doing without putting your health in even more jeopardy. One of all of our worst nightmares is that we won't be able to take care of our animals for some reason of illness or accident and it sounds as if you were very close to that. Your boyfriend must be a very good person as well to step in and help.

Previous posts had a lot of good ideas in them.

The idea of a shirt or ID is a very good one. You might be surprised how many people you immediately back down if they think that an organization is behind you. People are not going to go home and google "cat rescues in TX" to make sure. Taking the moral high ground is also a tactic to try. You are solving the problem, taking if off the hands of those who are clueless as to what to do or who only have very bad ideas of what to do. Whenever I have been in a situation where I needed to rescue from an unfriendly place, I have always taken the approach of "you people are really lucky that I showed up when I did, being the cat expert that I am." Like they know any better? A small groups is also something to consider. It does not even have to be real animal people, just a couple who could look a little bit useful and who understand what you are going through.

People bluff about what they are going to do. Not that some of them might not get out there with intentions of harming a cat personally, but most who threaten to trap and relocate are never going to get off their rear ends long enough to do what is really involved with trapping, baiting, moving, etc.

Like you, I have never actively procured any of my animals. All the cats literally just happened in all those crazy ways you find desperate animals. Once, I was actually going to go to the animal shelter and look for a friend for Jamie, but then a litter was born under my neighbor's house....so saved the trip to the pound on that one! My current dog I more or less did agree to adopt, but only because someone in the GSD network I belong to called and asked me if I would take him if they could get him out of MO and to CA. Even then, I knew nothing about him and he could have been an insane inbred killer for all I knew, so it was right on the midpoint of finding and adopting.

https://www.cnn.com/2019/08/21/health/crazy-cat-lady-study-scli-intl/index.html
According to a UCLA study, the stereotype is completely invalid.
 

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Hello moxiewild moxiewild it has been quite a while since I saw you last on this site. I am so sorry to here about your hospitalization, and that you are struggling with your health. Just that alone can put a lot of stress on you. I commend you for all you do to help the cats, in spite of having to deal with ignorant, indifferent, and hateful people. So sorry about the poor kitty who died in your arms.☹ Also, regarding how the cat population in that small colony blew up while you were sick. Kudos for saving lives, especially young lives!!! I hope the cats who have the parasitic infections get better soon. I had saved one kitten who had everything wrong with her: a bad URI (Calicivirus, Feline Herpes Virus, Microplasm),an eye injury that healed funny, and Giardia. I had to go through multiple rounds of antibiotics until the kitty was put on the right one. I also had to put the kitty on 3 rounds of Panacour because she had one stubborn Giardia infection. In the end she got healthy and was taking to an out of state no kill who found her her forever home. What you are going through is on a much larger scale. You have a very big heart and you are accomplishing a lot, but I think you need to find some helpers. Bless your boyfriend for helping you when you were sick--he's a keeper! It is just that because you are dealing with health problems it may be hindering you from doing what you are use to doing. Please keep your health in mind and know your limitations. Also, dealing with the daily grind is much more emotional draining when you are not well, so naturally you feel stressed out with the situations you are facing. Once again,, I hope you can find the right people to help you out .

This week I vented on this site as well. That lady (hoarder/other feeder on my block) keeps dumping her cats on me and not only that other people have been dumping cats on my block.😡 I have to feed these cats in front of my house because of territorial backyard cats. People actual come on my block to see the cats and they know I feed. I am disgusted that the word is out. I wish there was a more "secretive area" I could feed, but no I am stuck. The other feeder I had a fight with knew I couldn't feed in my b.y or anywhere else, so she keeps dumping cats on me. That way all eyes are on ME and not her. I also found out from my family member, that before the other feeder left the neighborhood she asked my f.m. if they could feed the cats (my f.m doesn't feed, so it was a sneaky way of trying to offload those cats on me.) 😡 My f.m is a nice person and they thought she was a pushover, but she actually said no, so they left them in the care of the other feeder who I had a huge fight with. I think the fix was in from the start--- one way or another they were going to dump those cats on me. Now I am feeding ALL the former feeders cats and some of the other feeders as well---on top of other cats dumped by neighborhood jerks who know I feed and think I am am "the crazy cat lady" of the neighborhood so I should be able to take care of cats that they don't want around anymore. It is times like this I share your sentiment--PEOPLE ROYALLY SUCK!!!! They don't want to be inconvenienced in any way. They "create" or have problems worsen while never making any attempt to do the right thing--EVER! Then they show you animosity because YOU do the right thing by practicing tnr and feeding starving cats. If these people do want to remedy the situation it's "their solution only", not tnr and continuing to take care of the cats. That is why your posted notices dissappeared. The cat situation in my neighborhood was started by ignorant people who never got their pet cats who they let outside-- spayed and neutered. When a female got pregnant--she got kicked to the curb. Male cats would come around (some with collars on) sticking around long enough to knock up the females and then disappear. Instead of ragging on people like me and you, why couldn't these fools do the right thing in the first place and on top of that keep their pets indoors. The ignorance and lack of concern is staggering!!! Rant away, I 1000% agree with you. It is just so frustrating and disgusting. :frustrated:

I hope you feel a little bit better all around. Hang in there--you are saving lives and making a difference. You got more class in your little pinky than these haters have in their whole body. Thank you for what you do!!!!Stay strong!!!🙂
 
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Getting a 591 started might bring you some physical help through other humans. I hope so! Look for helpers!
fionasmom fionasmom I found that study too! Thanks for posting that link! I didn’t choose to rescue either . I just couldn’t turn my back on abuse. I have kept the, so called, “unadoptable!” They are not that, they are wonderful!
I strongly suggest to others to try and put aside funds for the cats you are guardian to. I have trustees lined up and am building for their futures, just in case. Recently I was talking to an attorney and was on the subject of the cats and an indisputable will. He suggested that as long as “You’re not a crazy cat lady” it should be okay.:headshake: When I worked for the environment, rescuing endangered plant species in the rain Forrest it was quite risky but , no one would have called me crazy plant lady! Unh!

Let’s just read your post again!:clap2:

Not to get off the subject a little here, but I hope that you are able to do what you are doing without putting your health in even more jeopardy. One of all of our worst nightmares is that we won't be able to take care of our animals for some reason of illness or accident and it sounds as if you were very close to that. Your boyfriend must be a very good person as well to step in and help.

Previous posts had a lot of good ideas in them.

The idea of a shirt or ID is a very good one. You might be surprised how many people you immediately back down if they think that an organization is behind you. People are not going to go home and google "cat rescues in TX" to make sure. Taking the moral high ground is also a tactic to try. You are solving the problem, taking if off the hands of those who are clueless as to what to do or who only have very bad ideas of what to do. Whenever I have been in a situation where I needed to rescue from an unfriendly place, I have always taken the approach of "you people are really lucky that I showed up when I did, being the cat expert that I am." Like they know any better? A small groups is also something to consider. It does not even have to be real animal people, just a couple who could look a little bit useful and who understand what you are going through.

People bluff about what they are going to do. Not that some of them might not get out there with intentions of harming a cat personally, but most who threaten to trap and relocate are never going to get off their rear ends long enough to do what is really involved with trapping, baiting, moving, etc.

Like you, I have never actively procured any of my animals. All the cats literally just happened in all those crazy ways you find desperate animals. Once, I was actually going to go to the animal shelter and look for a friend for Jamie, but then a litter was born under my neighbor's house....so saved the trip to the pound on that one! My current dog I more or less did agree to adopt, but only because someone in the GSD network I belong to called and asked me if I would take him if they could get him out of MO and to CA. Even then, I knew nothing about him and he could have been an insane inbred killer for all I knew, so it was right on the midpoint of finding and adopting.

https://www.cnn.com/2019/08/21/health/crazy-cat-lady-study-scli-intl/index.html
According to a UCLA study, the stereotype is completely invalid.
 

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fionasmom fionasmom I am so sick of this situation! :sigh: I suspected this lady would dump more cats on me, but I wasn't expecting other people in the neighborhood to dump cats onto my block as well. I am worried about winter. These are uncertain times and food shortages are happening right now. This is going to be a tough winter this year. I will just keep looking for help. I love the cats and do care about their welfare, but once again I am so sick of this problem. I really hope there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Hope all is well with you. Have a good evening. 🙂
 

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I suspected this lady would dump more cats on me, but I wasn't expecting other people in the neighborhood to dump cats onto my block as well
Oh, tell me about it! As soon as word gets out that you're the local animal lover cats and kittens start mysteriously turning up in front of your house. At least three of my current cats came to me that way.

People think it's fine for you to foot the bill for spaying, neutering, vaccinating and feeding their unwanted pets. It's the same as mugging you and stealing that money from you, in my opinion.
 

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People think it's fine for you to foot the bill for spaying, neutering, vaccinating and feeding their unwanted pets. It's the same as mugging you and stealing that money from you, in my opinion.
I agree. They just don't seem to care that you are scraping by to feed the cats who have been coming to you before they dumped their cats on you.😬 These are uncertain times. There are food shortages going on and the prices of goods keep going up. Things are rough. Each extra mouth i have to feed is eating into what little money I have for paying bills and other necessities. I worry about winter when I have to feed extra to get the kitties through the cold months. I will have to figure how to stretch my money.

I should put cameras out and get these people busted for dumping animals on my block. Shame on them!😠
 

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Too tired to tell all but caught the head of a large company dumping a trapped cat today! I confronted him. Illegal! Abuse! We are now talking like humans should, I think. Getting him connected with TNR group here. I am still furious with him but he did go back and put out food snd water where he dumped the cat. The two people with me when I jumped out of the car think I scared him. Lol I didn’t mean to but he was respectful to me. He is three times my size but I probably had fire in my eyes. I think I could use one of those official looking shirts! Gonna bout up the company for donations to the local shelters. Hoping I can find a way to locate that cat. :( This guy is now educated. Looks like others in that warehouse might be saved though. Hoping! Hoping!
 
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