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Discussion in 'Cat Behavior' started by kalif, Jul 11, 2018.

  1. dustydiamond1

    dustydiamond1 Minion to Gypsy since October 2016 Top Cat

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  2. kalif

    kalif Thread Starter TCS Member Kitten

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    Brother in law likes him. He pets him while watching tv. Occasionally they play fight. But he generally just leaves charlie be.
     
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  3. kalif

    kalif Thread Starter TCS Member Kitten

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    I think he's already jealous as it is. But they get along somewhat...
     
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  4. kalif

    kalif Thread Starter TCS Member Kitten

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    I will definitely keep that in mind!! :)
     
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  5. kalif

    kalif Thread Starter TCS Member Kitten

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    That's our Charlie.. Leia on the other hand demands attention. Especially from my wife. It's hard to go out to work sometimes. But it's rewarding when we return home.
     
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  6. kalif

    kalif Thread Starter TCS Member Kitten

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    Thank you all. Such overwhelming suggestions and advice. I really appreciate these. I will try them out. And also learn to accept the teenager in the house needs to hang out with the "cool" people besides his dad. Been about two days since I've been keeping it cool. And charlie is slowly getting better from his illness.

    Here's a picture of him lounging around Charlie Chewingston.png
     
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  7. rubysmama

    rubysmama Forum Helper Staff Member Forum Helper

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    Awww.... Charlie is gorgeous. :purr:

    Is that him and his lovely sister, Leia, in your profile pic? If you like, you can "formally" introduce them, and yourself, in our New Cats on the Block forum. :compsurfing: We love pictures, BTW. :camera:
     
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  8. AbbysMom

    AbbysMom At Abby's beck and call Staff Member Moderator

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    I'm trying to take a "This too shall pass" approach. We've had her 13-1/2 years, so this isn't the first time she's been upset with me. :lol: It may be the most drastic though. I'm allowed to pick her up, but she has never allowed my husband to. This still hasn't changed.
     
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  9. kalif

    kalif Thread Starter TCS Member Kitten

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    Yes that's Charlie and Leia in the profile picture. They were bird watching when i snapped the pic. It's so hard to snap a good picture of Leia since pictures doesn't do justice to how pretty her coat is. It's a nice blue-ish grey, but the camera keeps turning it warmer.
     

  10. PushPurrCatPaws

    PushPurrCatPaws TCS Member Top Cat

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    What a handsome cat! :goldstar:

    I've been reading along with this thread, and feeling some kinship with you, @kalif -- I wondered if you tried having your wife take over just some of the feeding and/or med-giving duties? That could eventually let your cat know that that is not all you are "good for", so to speak. Cats often are utilitarian creatures, seeing one human as being the provider of playtime or cuddle time, the other human being the provider of food and meds, for example.

    When my husband and I got our current cat, we knew we wanted to share in the caretaking duties more equally... it really helps our cat come to either of us at various times, for playing or food or cuddling. The cat realizes that, as a human, you have "many talents", lol. And it takes some of the emotional pressure off of the "main" caretaker in the long term.
    Kitten Viciously Attacks Me...

    :goodluck:
     
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  11. 1 bruce 1

    1 bruce 1 TCS Member Top Cat

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    He's almost identical to one of ours with that same impish, wide eyed look!
     
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  12. maggiedemi

    maggiedemi TCS Member Top Cat

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    If you play or cuddle with Leia, does he come over to see what you're doing?
     
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  13. kalif

    kalif Thread Starter TCS Member Kitten

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    My wife does the feeding in the morning. She was 'trained' by Charlie. He'd wake her up at about 4 or 5 am by nibbling or gently biting her awake. Which is fine since she does wake up at those hours for work- sucks on weekend though. We both shower them cos that's a two-person job. Other than that. the rest of the task is mine cos my wife's busy schedule.
     
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  14. kalif

    kalif Thread Starter TCS Member Kitten

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    He used to. He's a pouncer/predator player. So when we played with Leia with a toy he'd hide and attack the toy when we least expect it.. Now he just watches like "i'm too old for this game" kind of demeanor. He hardly plays much. I miss those days. Leia is such an active player that she demands playtime by meowing at us. They do play with each other, but Charlie being a 'predator' would bite on her a bit too hard. And Leia, having much bigger paws, would lay the smackdown.

    After Leia's smacking, Charlie has learnt to bite less hard even with us.
     
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  15. maggiedemi

    maggiedemi TCS Member Top Cat

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    If it were me, I would spend more time with Leia. At least you have one lap cat. I would enjoy that and maybe Charlie will come around later. That's what's great about having multiple cats. :)
     

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