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Well everyone ive had spooky for over a year and im heartbroken to let everybody know that i have to give her up because im moving to a new home my care provider is unable to let me live with her and im struggling to find a home for spooky right now im in tears as i write this shes my life line and i dont know what to do none of my family or friends can take her ive already asked and im afraid to take her to the mspca becuse they might put her to sleep becuse black cats dont get get adopted right away i feel like i have failed as her mom any suggestions the new providers daughter is allergic to cats and its killing me all i wanna do is cry i love her so much
 

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I am so sorry. Have you checked Next Door Neighbor? Lots of 'behind the scenes' rescue groups follow these sites. What about pet stores who give new pets a home? Many of them are affiliated with rescue centers who utilize volunteers as fosters.
Also, can you look into any of the rescue centers on this site?
Approved Shelter and Rescue Organizations
 

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Well everyone ive had spooky for over a year and im heartbroken to let everybody know that i have to give her up because im moving to a new home my care provider is unable to let me live with her and im struggling to find a home for spooky right now im in tears as i write this shes my life line and i dont know what to do none of my family or friends can take her ive already asked and im afraid to take her to the mspca becuse they might put her to sleep becuse black cats dont get get adopted right away i feel like i have failed as her mom any suggestions the new providers daughter is allergic to cats and its killing me all i wanna do is cry i love her so much
I don't know what the laws are in Mass but in Ohio we have "comfort animals"and landlords
must allow the pet with written authorization from a psychiatrist. I hope this helps
 

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Do you have to go to that home or could you possibly find one that will allow you to keep your cats? Sorry... I know nothing of your backstory so I am just throwing out ideas.
 

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"Mass" as in Massachusetts? If that is the case, while Spooky would not be considered a service animal, she might be considered an emotional support animal. If that is the case, you can ask for reasonable accommodations. Massachusetts laws are similar to other state laws pertaining to the use of emotional support animals, at least as far as I can see. You should just need a note from your doctor stating that Spooky acts to fill an emotional need, such as alleviating depression or anxiety. (You can also have a letter from a social worker or therapist. That is according to the Fair Housing Act.)

You said that your care provider is unable to let you take Spooky. Can you explain that to us so we have a better understanding as to why, please? I know you said there is an allergy, but will you be living with the daughter? Even if that is the case, allergy is not a reason to deny an ESA, unless it is a life-threatening one.
 
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Do you have to go to that home or could you possibly find one that will allow you to keep your cats? Sorry... I know nothing of your backstory so I am just throwing out ideas.
Ihave to find her a place
 
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"Mass" as in Massachusetts? If that is the case, while Spooky would not be considered a service animal, she might be considered an emotional support animal. If that is the case, you can ask for reasonable accommodations. Massachusetts laws are similar to other state laws pertaining to the use of emotional support animals, at least as far as I can see. You should just need a note from your doctor stating that Spooky acts to fill an emotional need, such as alleviating depression or anxiety. (You can also have a letter from a social worker or therapist. That is according to the Fair Housing Act.)

You said that your care provider is unable to let you take Spooky. Can you explain that to us so we have a better understanding as to why, please? I know you said there is an allergy, but will you be living with the daughter? Even if that is the case, allergy is not a reason to deny an ESA, unless it is a life-threatening one.
I dont know the whole story behind it but its a not a longtern home so im hoping to be out of their asap i have tried to get her as a esa but they still wont let me take her
 
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"Mass" as in Massachusetts? If that is the case, while Spooky would not be considered a service animal, she might be considered an emotional support animal. If that is the case, you can ask for reasonable accommodations. Massachusetts laws are similar to other state laws pertaining to the use of emotional support animals, at least as far as I can see. You should just need a note from your doctor stating that Spooky acts to fill an emotional need, such as alleviating depression or anxiety. (You can also have a letter from a social worker or therapist. That is according to the Fair Housing Act.)

You said that your care provider is unable to let you take Spooky. Can you explain that to us so we have a better understanding as to why, please? I know you said there is an allergy, but will you be living with the daughter? Even if that is the case, allergy is not a reason to deny an ESA, unless it is a life-threatening one.
I had tryed to get her to be a ESA but they told me it wouldnt work and the person i lived with her daughter is allergic to cats so i cant take her
 

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Previous post - thought maybe you missed it.
I am so sorry. Have you checked Next Door Neighbor? Lots of 'behind the scenes' rescue groups follow these sites. What about pet stores who give new pets a home? Many of them are affiliated with rescue centers who utilize volunteers as fosters.
Also, can you look into any of the rescue centers on this site?
Approved Shelter and Rescue Organizations
You also mentioned that your new home may not be long term - so, that is another consideration when looking for someone to take Spooky. Perhaps, a temporary foster set up (where you could pay the foster to care for her until you find another place to live).
 

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I dont know the whole story behind it but its a not a longtern home so im hoping to be out of their asap i have tried to get her as a esa but they still wont let me take her
Are you paying to live there? Is it just a friend letting you stay? I am trying to understand the dynamics. Is it a private building with fewer than three private dwellings not publically advertised? Is it a private home that was not publically advertised?
 
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No im not the program is im just depressed i have to give her up
Previous post - thought maybe you missed it.


You also mentioned that your new home may not be long term - so, that is another consideration when looking for someone to take Spooky. Perhaps, a temporary foster set up (where you could pay the foster to care for her until you find another place to live).
Im hoping to find someone by the time i leave i hate this i feel like a bad mom im trying to spend as much time as i can with her
 

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You have legal rights to have an emotional support animal. They can't legally make you give her up; if one place can't accomodate you, they have to find you another place that can. Is that something you're interested in pursuing?
 
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Shes going to a group home but the sad thing is i cant take her back from that group home
 
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You have legal rights to have an emotional support animal. They can't legally make you give her up; if one place can't accomodate you, they have to find you another place that can. Is that something you're interested in pursuing?
Ive tried to fight them but their not gonna let me take her
 
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You have legal rights to have an emotional support animal. They can't legally make you give her up; if one place can't accomodate you, they have to find you another place that can. Is that something you're interested in pursuing?
Yes but their is no one that.can
 

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Can you find or insist on another 'care provider'? What you are going through is like splitting up a family, just horrible. Talk to someone higher up, a manager, the state. Can the cat stay in your room and not be exposed to the allergic person? There is a lot more help out there than you imagine. It is just a matter of finding the right help. Get on Facebook and see if anyone suggests something.
 
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I have tried all that shes going to a group home im not getting her back
 

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I have tried all that shes going to a group home im not getting her back
I am still trying to understand this. Spooky is going to a group home? What does that mean? If she is your cat and she is not being taken because you have neglected her, once you are in a situation that would let you have her, they have no legal right to take her. You are not giving her up willingly, and you have rights under the law, especially if she is considered an ESA.

Could you please elaborate so that we might be able to help you more? Perhaps you can find an advocate in your area. Maybe they can help you keep her or get her back. I am still assuming you are in Massachusetts.

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Theirs no neglect at all im moving and the little girl is allergic to cats ive tryed to get her as a esa but their still not allowing me to take her im special needs and theirs a group home willing to take her for me i can see her sometimes and i will get pictures too today is my last day with her
 
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