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I have a senior female and just over 2 years ago, adopted 2 semi-feral male kittens (bonded pair). I did everything right with the slow introduction but she hated them on sight and they don't like her, either. Okay, this will pass, I think. It will just take time. But it hasn't worked. One of the boys just follows the female and would never attack (she still hates it), but the other chases her. He doesn't pounce...he doesn't scratch or bite...but I hate the hissing and the chasing. The female sleeps during the day, but every morning and every night she is active (and sometimes midday) and it's constant chasing and hissing.
I've tried EVERYTHING. Lots of cat beds, high perches, toys. Diversionary play. Putting the main culprit in "time out" in his room (I have to lock the boys in a bedroom overnight so that she can move around in peace) for 10 minutes every time he chases her. I could lock her in a separate room, but she hates that and loves being out with us during the morning/evening hours. I feel so awful. She's a senior and just wants to be left in peace. I have to be constantly vigilant when she's awake and moving around and it's become a really stressful situation. TWO YEARS. This has been going on for two years! Is there any hope that they will learn to co-exist? The boys are around 2 years old and are sleeping more, but are still very rough-and-tumble. I'm just at my wit's end. I've never had this problem with cats before*...all former adoptees have learned to get along.
Any ideas??
*Only when I originally adopted the senior cat to keep my other senior cat company...they didn't get along but my first cat died from cancer after just a couple of months so there wasn't time to work with them together.
I've tried EVERYTHING. Lots of cat beds, high perches, toys. Diversionary play. Putting the main culprit in "time out" in his room (I have to lock the boys in a bedroom overnight so that she can move around in peace) for 10 minutes every time he chases her. I could lock her in a separate room, but she hates that and loves being out with us during the morning/evening hours. I feel so awful. She's a senior and just wants to be left in peace. I have to be constantly vigilant when she's awake and moving around and it's become a really stressful situation. TWO YEARS. This has been going on for two years! Is there any hope that they will learn to co-exist? The boys are around 2 years old and are sleeping more, but are still very rough-and-tumble. I'm just at my wit's end. I've never had this problem with cats before*...all former adoptees have learned to get along.
Any ideas??
*Only when I originally adopted the senior cat to keep my other senior cat company...they didn't get along but my first cat died from cancer after just a couple of months so there wasn't time to work with them together.