I will apologize in advance, because this is going to be a rant and I'm not sure it will be totally coherent. By same food, I mean that whatever he eats, I must eat, not that we have to eat the same meal every night.
I'm just so tired of this argument with my husband. I know this is a foodie forum, but I don't like food. I really don't. And the older I get, the less I like it. I also don't like to cook, it's a chore at the end of a long day that I could really do without, and I just hate cleaning up after a meal...especially a meal that I didn't like and may not have eaten.
So here is the problem. My husband is retired but he will not do anything, no grocery shopping, no cooking, no cleaning up. He also will not tell me what he wants to eat. Any time I try to figure something out for him, he doesn't want it. I ask him what he wants for supper, I get "you decide." I can't decide, I don't want to decide, I want him to tell me what the heck he wants and I will attempt to provide it for him, so I can get on with my life. I don't want to spend my free time looking for recipes I think he might like that I can modify so that I will eat.
His big issue is that that ALL families eat the same food at the same time, and it doesn't matter if I eat WITH him if I'm eating something different. It also doesn't matter that I've been like this since he met me. I've had food issues since I was a kid. I have selective eating disorder. You can put a bowl of catfood, a dish of poop, and a plate of something that most people would be drooling over, and it all looks equally inedible to me. I can't help it! No matter what certain male members of this household believe, I really can't help it. If I put a big plate of beets (for example) or califlower in front of him, he wouldn't eat it. It's the same with me - with just about everything. Why do I have to eat food I hate that makes me gag just because he thinks ALL families eat the same thing at the same time. Why do I have to eat food that is going to make me physically sick because I have a sensitivity to it? Why is food that big of a deal anyway? Shouldn't the companionship of being together FOR the meal outweight what is eaten during the meal?
And before anyone gives me the argument that I'm doing it for the attention, that I'm just being picky, that I don't know what I'm missing, that if I get hungry enough I'll eat it ... I've heard it all. I would give a lot to be different, to be able to walk into a restaurant or a friend's house and just eat whatever is available. It is a tremendous handicap and embarrassment and I've gone to great lengths throughout my life to hide the way I am.
If anybody actually read this, thank you, I have just heard this argument one time too many and had to get this out of my system. I guess there is no answer except that he really doesn't care one whit about me and it's all about what HE wants.
At least my kitties don't care what I eat, as long as I feed them on time. <lol>
I'm just so tired of this argument with my husband. I know this is a foodie forum, but I don't like food. I really don't. And the older I get, the less I like it. I also don't like to cook, it's a chore at the end of a long day that I could really do without, and I just hate cleaning up after a meal...especially a meal that I didn't like and may not have eaten.
So here is the problem. My husband is retired but he will not do anything, no grocery shopping, no cooking, no cleaning up. He also will not tell me what he wants to eat. Any time I try to figure something out for him, he doesn't want it. I ask him what he wants for supper, I get "you decide." I can't decide, I don't want to decide, I want him to tell me what the heck he wants and I will attempt to provide it for him, so I can get on with my life. I don't want to spend my free time looking for recipes I think he might like that I can modify so that I will eat.
His big issue is that that ALL families eat the same food at the same time, and it doesn't matter if I eat WITH him if I'm eating something different. It also doesn't matter that I've been like this since he met me. I've had food issues since I was a kid. I have selective eating disorder. You can put a bowl of catfood, a dish of poop, and a plate of something that most people would be drooling over, and it all looks equally inedible to me. I can't help it! No matter what certain male members of this household believe, I really can't help it. If I put a big plate of beets (for example) or califlower in front of him, he wouldn't eat it. It's the same with me - with just about everything. Why do I have to eat food I hate that makes me gag just because he thinks ALL families eat the same thing at the same time. Why do I have to eat food that is going to make me physically sick because I have a sensitivity to it? Why is food that big of a deal anyway? Shouldn't the companionship of being together FOR the meal outweight what is eaten during the meal?
And before anyone gives me the argument that I'm doing it for the attention, that I'm just being picky, that I don't know what I'm missing, that if I get hungry enough I'll eat it ... I've heard it all. I would give a lot to be different, to be able to walk into a restaurant or a friend's house and just eat whatever is available. It is a tremendous handicap and embarrassment and I've gone to great lengths throughout my life to hide the way I am.
If anybody actually read this, thank you, I have just heard this argument one time too many and had to get this out of my system. I guess there is no answer except that he really doesn't care one whit about me and it's all about what HE wants.
At least my kitties don't care what I eat, as long as I feed them on time. <lol>