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I have a 1year 9 month old cat that I love so much that I adopted from the Humane society when he was probably about 8 weeks old. He was a bottle baby and suckles on my ear at night for a few minutes before bed. I'm home 95% of the time and he was very dependent on me for attention and play time. I bought him all the toys that are out there but he always wants to play with me. He even would grab onto my leg and hang on when I try to walk by. So funny.
After having him for 1.5 years I had never left him alone for more than a few hours but now I had to go out of town for 9 days. I was worried because I knew he wouldn't handle it well. He's scared of people and so even though I hired people to come in to feed him, play with him and take care of him, he didn't interact with them. Although toward the end he did come out once for a little bit to say hi to the caregiver (i guess he was tired of no contact). I have cameras around the house so I was able to watch and see how he was doing. It broke my heart because every night he would sit by the front door just waiting for me to come home. The only thought that gave me comfort was knowing that I was going to get him a friend when I got back to town so that he wouldn't be alone when go away and he would have someone to play with.
Fast forward... I got him his own baby, a 14 week old girl. I kept them apart for about a week, did all the tricks to ensure that they would love each other and I'm so happy to say that they do. They sleep together, clean each other and roll around biting one another. I love seeing them together but at the same time I'm heartbroken that the older cat is mad at me. He doesn't play with any of his toys, (although I'm thinking he has no interest because all he cares about is his new "real" toy), he doesn't bounce off the walls like he used to or come to me when I call him. I don't know why he's still mad at me when he loves her so much. Everything about him is so different and I don't know if it's just because of the change or maybe he's not feeling well. But then I go through the list in my head "he's eating, drinking, normal bathroom, grooming, running around with new kitty, ears and tail are up." It's the look in his eyes, I think he's depressed about me but happy with the new kitty.
Does anybody have any advice? It's only been 1.5 months with the new kitty, will my kitty ever love me again?
After having him for 1.5 years I had never left him alone for more than a few hours but now I had to go out of town for 9 days. I was worried because I knew he wouldn't handle it well. He's scared of people and so even though I hired people to come in to feed him, play with him and take care of him, he didn't interact with them. Although toward the end he did come out once for a little bit to say hi to the caregiver (i guess he was tired of no contact). I have cameras around the house so I was able to watch and see how he was doing. It broke my heart because every night he would sit by the front door just waiting for me to come home. The only thought that gave me comfort was knowing that I was going to get him a friend when I got back to town so that he wouldn't be alone when go away and he would have someone to play with.
Fast forward... I got him his own baby, a 14 week old girl. I kept them apart for about a week, did all the tricks to ensure that they would love each other and I'm so happy to say that they do. They sleep together, clean each other and roll around biting one another. I love seeing them together but at the same time I'm heartbroken that the older cat is mad at me. He doesn't play with any of his toys, (although I'm thinking he has no interest because all he cares about is his new "real" toy), he doesn't bounce off the walls like he used to or come to me when I call him. I don't know why he's still mad at me when he loves her so much. Everything about him is so different and I don't know if it's just because of the change or maybe he's not feeling well. But then I go through the list in my head "he's eating, drinking, normal bathroom, grooming, running around with new kitty, ears and tail are up." It's the look in his eyes, I think he's depressed about me but happy with the new kitty.
Does anybody have any advice? It's only been 1.5 months with the new kitty, will my kitty ever love me again?