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i posted about my rescue the other day, and so far, i’ve still had no direct incidents with him. he is very anxious and has a lot of trauma, so he’s constantly looking around at the slightest noise and goes to investigate it. he was going underneath the bed and even sleeping under it for the first two nights, but was never consistently hiding.
as soon as he got comfortable sitting on the bed with me, he has continuously gotten up there. this makes me happy because i believe it is a sign that he trusts me. however, on the third night of owning him, i rolled over and told him goodnight, and minutes later he was up on the bed, curled up right against my back.
while i love this and have always allowed my cats to sleep in bed with me, i’m a bit nervous because he was surrendered for aggression and has attacked people in the past. he hasn’t shown ANY signs of aggression towards me - he scratched my dad because my mom screamed while she was in my room with him and terrified him, but none of these incidents have been in my presence. i do have to verbally reassure him a lot throughout the day over noises that seem to startle him, but he has not hissed, growled, lunged, scratched, or even made offensive/defensive poses towards me. he has grown very comfortable with me quickly, though i am extremely quiet, slow, and careful around him.
once i realized he was prepared to start sleeping next to me, i got a bit nervous. i’m scared that something will spook him during the night when i’m not awake to reassure him and he’ll come at my face (the only visible part of my body during the night). while this may be completely out of paranoia, i’m just very unsure. i know i tend to move around throughout the night, so i’m scared i’ll bump him and he’ll go into panic mode.
i’ve slept outside of the room the past two nights, but have been going in early in the morning to take naps with him. i took a two hour nap with him on saturday and woke up to him still next to me; today i napped with him for over four hours, and he remained asleep against my leg, the same spot as when i fell asleep. however, i don’t think i’m in as deep of a sleep during these naps, so my position did not change at all, either.
on the first night that he tried to sleep next to me, i tried to fall asleep but couldn’t because of my worry about him scratching my face. i opened my eyes at one point and he was sitting very close, staring at me with wide eyes. i’ve had cats glance at me while i’m asleep in the past, but this was a bit unsettling. he looked startled by something.
i also feel very bad leaving him for the night because i feel like i could be breaking our trust, and i worry that he might not sleep as much without me in the room. we will be moving into my apartment soon, but for now, he is confined to just my bedroom because he doesn’t do well with other cats. basically, i just want to know some other thoughts about this. my friends are encouraging me to sleep in there to help strengthen our trust, but my parents, who have met him, are worried about it. what do you think?
i posted about my rescue the other day, and so far, i’ve still had no direct incidents with him. he is very anxious and has a lot of trauma, so he’s constantly looking around at the slightest noise and goes to investigate it. he was going underneath the bed and even sleeping under it for the first two nights, but was never consistently hiding.
as soon as he got comfortable sitting on the bed with me, he has continuously gotten up there. this makes me happy because i believe it is a sign that he trusts me. however, on the third night of owning him, i rolled over and told him goodnight, and minutes later he was up on the bed, curled up right against my back.
while i love this and have always allowed my cats to sleep in bed with me, i’m a bit nervous because he was surrendered for aggression and has attacked people in the past. he hasn’t shown ANY signs of aggression towards me - he scratched my dad because my mom screamed while she was in my room with him and terrified him, but none of these incidents have been in my presence. i do have to verbally reassure him a lot throughout the day over noises that seem to startle him, but he has not hissed, growled, lunged, scratched, or even made offensive/defensive poses towards me. he has grown very comfortable with me quickly, though i am extremely quiet, slow, and careful around him.
once i realized he was prepared to start sleeping next to me, i got a bit nervous. i’m scared that something will spook him during the night when i’m not awake to reassure him and he’ll come at my face (the only visible part of my body during the night). while this may be completely out of paranoia, i’m just very unsure. i know i tend to move around throughout the night, so i’m scared i’ll bump him and he’ll go into panic mode.
i’ve slept outside of the room the past two nights, but have been going in early in the morning to take naps with him. i took a two hour nap with him on saturday and woke up to him still next to me; today i napped with him for over four hours, and he remained asleep against my leg, the same spot as when i fell asleep. however, i don’t think i’m in as deep of a sleep during these naps, so my position did not change at all, either.
on the first night that he tried to sleep next to me, i tried to fall asleep but couldn’t because of my worry about him scratching my face. i opened my eyes at one point and he was sitting very close, staring at me with wide eyes. i’ve had cats glance at me while i’m asleep in the past, but this was a bit unsettling. he looked startled by something.
i also feel very bad leaving him for the night because i feel like i could be breaking our trust, and i worry that he might not sleep as much without me in the room. we will be moving into my apartment soon, but for now, he is confined to just my bedroom because he doesn’t do well with other cats. basically, i just want to know some other thoughts about this. my friends are encouraging me to sleep in there to help strengthen our trust, but my parents, who have met him, are worried about it. what do you think?