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Okay, great. Cat introductions are quite common, ..but really no two cat intros are alike. That's why I find them fascinating.I am not bored at all!! You're the only person here who was willing to listen and help me, even though I'm sure my situation is quite common and probably posted often here. I just worry it's too much work for you. I actually look forward to your responses and reread them to remind myself of what to do. Im sorry I wrote so much, but it's because today it seemed different than usual, and I don't want to have NC start becoming more aggressive or bullying RC. I write out every detail in case I miss out any important information. Please don't feel obligated to give detailed reply to everything, if it's not trouble I'd just love to know if there are warning signs I need to look at for due to this new behavior.
(Don't worry, it's not too much work for me. T.V has nothing but rubbish on, and I tend to binge watch shows anyway...only when I know a t.v. show is good. Plus I get a lot of satisfaction, when I see photos of the cats online, and videos, and hear how they are progressing, too. It's enjoyable for me.)
I actually like that you wrote out a detailed and long post, ..because then I can visualize it...and see if there are any patterns.
It makes it way easier to respond, when it's detailed.
Yes, definitely spot on about the cat nip.A detail I forgot was that prior to the lunge incident, I used some cat nip to have her sit on a new bed. RC doesn't react to car nip at all but NC gets pretty happy with it. I read sometimes cat nip can make a cat more hyper or riled up, so I wonder if that also made the later situation worse.
At the meal time after all these incidents, they both ate with no issue after I moved their bowls a little closer. She has not hissed at him for the last 2 days of meal time being 6 ft apart. Now they are 5 ft apart.
(with mine, too, the male gets very riled up...and hyper, ...while the female just tends to roll around.)
I think you are so right, that NC was probably feeling way more hyped, happy, and then could have also been a bit aggressive after the cat nip.
I never really noticed how long it takes for cat nip to wear off in my own cats. They do crash and sleep afterwards.
It's good that you remembered that...since I also don't know how long cat nip stays on toys...or on fabric, beds, floors, etc.
5 feet is a good distance to eat apart. Is this still done through the gate?
(I personally don't think that cats have to eat so close together...after they are introduced and no longer have a gate between them.)
(Mine eat about four feet apart...with a two foot space between them. I want them to have some space, and feel comfortable.)
With the intros, ....I think the suggestion is getting them to eat closer...so that Trust can be built up...
plus they associate good food with each other, too.
So yeah, this part is going well.
This is where it gets interesting to me.Last night during free roam, they had 2 mistake confrontations. 1st was NC exploring the tub in my bedroom bathroom, and RC was watching from afar but he must not understand cat language as he thought she was playing (RC sometimes play in the tub). He run up to the tub in non-stalking nor aggressive way, but NC turned around and saw him. Of course she was startled and hiss/growled and swatted him. I couldn't see well if it made contact and NC's body language. RC was startled too and ran off. NC stayed in the tub for a bit after before leaving as well but she didn't growl or hiss after he left.
Because we humans don't really know all the little things that cat's do to communicate. We cannot actually see it all.
They use smell, body language, body movement, sound,...and so many small details that we can't really notice, at the time.
I don't actually think these confrontations were mistakes...because the more both cats get to meet and interact...and still they choose to come back together, again,...then that just tells you that they are way past the intro stage...that we think they are in.
I do understand that you want to make sure that NC does not become aggressive and bullies RC...but since you are doing well at making the observations, and stepping in when you have to with Distraction...then basically you are creating some very good 'house rules' for them both to follow.
Both cats have Confidence in you because you are calm, and they know from your calm energy...that things will be okay.
I find it really cute that your older RC wanted to run and play with NC.
Yes, it scared her, but she didn't let it linger and continue to growl, or hiss...after he left,...like you said.
She might have been surprised that he ran out so fast.
This one made me smile and laugh a bit.2nd was when I opened a drawer, NC always curious went inside. She's thin enough to and even squeezed into the space behind the drawer. Of course I started trying to coax her out, which got RC's attention to see what's going on. He wanted over and took a peek, and NC inside hissed and tried to swat at him again while growling. RC ran off once more. Both cats seem fine after.
Because I could just picture your NC exploring, and getting inside the drawer...and thinking it's the perfect den to sleep in. Like a little cat den, all protected on all sides. (my male cat likes to go inside an armoire, and clothes closet...and snooze the day away. All dark and quiet.)
Because RC showed up, ...and NC felt cornered and could not escape...then it's only natural that she would hiss and try to swat at him while growling.
I'm actually surprised that she didn't hiss, swat and growl at you. It would be the natural thing to do...if she got too scared from being inside.
(I'll continue on the next post)....