O.K. everyone, I'm stuck in a moral dilemma. Until yesterday, my boyfriend and I had three 6-week old kittens. From the very beginning, I knew we were keeping one permanently, and were keeping the other two until they were 10 weeks old. I had made this clear to my boyfriend, and had shared with him all of the literature on ideal adoption age. Yesterday he took one of the kittens to a friend's house for a "visit". They were interested in possibly adopting one of the kitties and wanted to see her. I told him I was unsure about the visit, because I didn't want her to be apart from mom from too long, but he assured me she'd be fine. When he came home, however, I found out (to my horror) that he'd left her there! Apparently he made the executive decision (without ever mentioning it to me) that six weeks is old enough to give away kittens, based solely on the facts that it's a good home, and that she "didn't cry" at their house and "ate fine." But all the kittens are still nursing, and have only been eating solid food for about a week. Needless to say, I am absolutely devastated. Not only was the kitten not old enough to go, but I didn't get a chance to make my peace with her leaving. I cried for hours (literally), and begged him to go get her. I even called the family, but they were already out buying kitten things (plus they took her to the vet already). So pretty much the problem is...
I know she's not old enough to be away from mom. My boyfriend has refused to go get her because he doesn't want to "look like a jerk." The family apparently does not want to give her back because their children will be upset (my boyfriend talked to them today). I am the only one in the situation who has a problem with this, have been told that I'm acting crazy, and that I need to be an adult. They all think I'm just upset because I miss the kitten (which is true, but it's not my main concern). In your guys' opinions, is this important enough to fight? Tonight will be the kitten's second night at their house. Will it just upset her more to move her again? Would mom even take her back? To get her back home, I'm going to have to go to their house (and I've never even met them). I'm sure this will upset them, and I've been told that my boyfriend will be furious if I go over there and "embarass him." However, the kittens' welfare is more important to me. Do I need to take a stand or will she be o.k? If she's fine to leave, any tips on how to mend my broken heart would really help. I feel like she was just ripped away from me, and I didn't get a chance to prepare myself. I'm so sad!
Thanks guys.
I know she's not old enough to be away from mom. My boyfriend has refused to go get her because he doesn't want to "look like a jerk." The family apparently does not want to give her back because their children will be upset (my boyfriend talked to them today). I am the only one in the situation who has a problem with this, have been told that I'm acting crazy, and that I need to be an adult. They all think I'm just upset because I miss the kitten (which is true, but it's not my main concern). In your guys' opinions, is this important enough to fight? Tonight will be the kitten's second night at their house. Will it just upset her more to move her again? Would mom even take her back? To get her back home, I'm going to have to go to their house (and I've never even met them). I'm sure this will upset them, and I've been told that my boyfriend will be furious if I go over there and "embarass him." However, the kittens' welfare is more important to me. Do I need to take a stand or will she be o.k? If she's fine to leave, any tips on how to mend my broken heart would really help. I feel like she was just ripped away from me, and I didn't get a chance to prepare myself. I'm so sad!