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joyfulrose

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No she is not just a cat, she is an extension of your heart. I truly understand you. Of all my cats, Bourbon is the one closest to me, and I cannot imagine my world without her.

Hang in there. It takes time for the heart to recover, but it will happen. Your kitty would not want you to dwell on this grief for a long time.

My prayers.
Yes, exactly that, she truly is an extension of my heart, you understand completely. Thank you for understanding.
I have three other kitties and I love them all dearly but Rosie was different. She was the one closest to me, as you said about your sweet bourbon, she was the one kitty i couldn't imagine not having in my life. I can't imagine losing any of them but She was the one I spent all my days and nights with loving, cuddling, taking care of for 17 years. My other cats are all more independent and not as affectionate as my baby was. They prefer to be left alone at times. But not my Rosie, She was the one who understood me and she loved me soo so much. Always wanted to be with me and near me. If i left a room that she was in for just a few mins she would meow constantly until i came back. She would also bring me gifts every single night ( her toys) and leave them on my bed, as if to show me how much she loved me and cared for me. She slept next to me every single night since she was a kitten. There was not one day that went by where she wasn't right there next to my head or sleeping on my arms. I remember times when i would wanna cuddle her and i would call out her name so softly and she would instantly come to me. She loved me so much and I loved her too. We had such a special bond. She's been with me through my young teen years, through my college years, and now my adult years. I always knew losing her would be hard on me. I would often say to my family or friends I don't know what I would do if I ever lost her. I don't know how I would be able to go on. It's now gonna be 10 months in 3 days since I've lost her and I still feel so sad about it all. I just miss her so much, I wish i could go back and see her one last time. I miss her sweet face :(
i know it will take time for me to heal and I am trying as best as I can to just take it day by day.
 

di and bob

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It's all you can do.....
My Chrissy was my soul mate, and when she died i felt as if a part of myself was ripped away, and in a way it was. My husband often commented, "Chrissy is just like you!". Even after 7 years the tears can come easily.
You never get over something like this, you just learn to adjust your life around it. You can't see the years ahead as those without her, you will learn to appreciate what you had and to concentrate on what a blessing she was. You have had years of joy and happiness with her, to make her death overshadow all that is to make life unbearable.
There is no easy or quick way to get through grief, it is what it is. It takes as long as it takes. For a love that is as strong as yours, it takes more than the passing of time to lessen the ache, it takes active concentration to find happiness once more. One day you will find that life can be lived again, as it is meant to be. As your precious girl wants for you. The gut wrenching sobs will eventually turn to the silent trickle of tears, as the memories turn to what a joy she was, instead of the pain of loss. These dark days will be forever seared into your memories, but just like they took over your life, the happy memories will push them to the back if you let them. It may seem hopeless now, but it will happen in time, one day at a time.......
 

les26

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Try the Ignatia Amara if you do try one of the two, the other being the Holy Basil, it helps with grief and shock and sadness, it won't mask your symptoms it will help your body accept your feelings and deal with things better. The Holy Basil will help you deal with any excess stress, but please Google and read about them, I think the Ignatia could be of great help right now.

God Bless.....:alright:
 
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joyfulrose

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She looks very much like our Samantha and Stanley, very similar.

What a sweetie, rest in peace little one until you meet again....
Aw do you have any photos you'd like to share?
She was the most stunning cat I've ever seen, it's so hard to go on without seeing her beautiful face every day...
 

les26

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Aw do you have any photos you'd like to share?
She was the most stunning cat I've ever seen, it's so hard to go on without seeing her beautiful face every day...
I wish I could, I'm not a very up to date technology person lol, don't even have a camera that takes pictures!
 

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I am sure what I'm about to say has been said in previous replies, however I want to reach out and say I'm sorry for your pain, and I'm sorry for your beautiful cat's pain. I'm sorry for the horrible experience you had at the er, and hope the passage of time can help heal your heart.

I wanted to make my own reply because just two weeks ago tonight the love of my life left me, by my decision, at the er just like your cat. There will never be a day I won't have the thought "but what if he could have lived? What if, even though his chances were so small, the treatment would have saved him?" Its agonizing to have those thoughts, the what ifs, but for as cold as the er staff was to you, if they say she was suffering you made the right decision. I have worked in vets offices, and I know they aren't lying when they say suffering is occurring. It's hard as a pet parent to comes to terms with those words, but I cannot tell you how many times in my career I have told someone their pet is is pain and they simply don't believe because they dont want to. If your kitty really did have FIP or cancer, those are both awful, suffering deaths to allow to transpire. I know you are shaky in your decision, but please find the strength within you to say "I took away her pain, and gave it to myself" because that is what you surely did. As awful as it is to be without her, imagine having to watch her slowly, painfully decay because you did bot have the will to make that choice.

I imagine my Rudy, who maybe, just maybe could have lived with treatment, long hospital stays, rehabilitation and medication. I am anguished by the what ifs. But, then I think of him instead, what if the treatment didn't work as it almost surely would not have, and instead of a peaceful sleep with his mother and father holding him he would have died alone, suffering and in pain, two hours away from the only home hes ever known? I know when I remember the alternative that I made the right choice.

Its hard, terribly hard to know, in your heart even against logic dictating a chance would exist that you made the best decision, but for all the love you had for your baby I hope your doubt can be replaced by all the love you had for her in life.
 
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joyfulrose

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I am sure what I'm about to say has been said in previous replies, however I want to reach out and say I'm sorry for your pain, and I'm sorry for your beautiful cat's pain. I'm sorry for the horrible experience you had at the er, and hope the passage of time can help heal your heart.

I wanted to make my own reply because just two weeks ago tonight the love of my life left me, by my decision, at the er just like your cat. There will never be a day I won't have the thought "but what if he could have lived? What if, even though his chances were so small, the treatment would have saved him?" Its agonizing to have those thoughts, the what ifs, but for as cold as the er staff was to you, if they say she was suffering you made the right decision. I have worked in vets offices, and I know they aren't lying when they say suffering is occurring. It's hard as a pet parent to comes to terms with those words, but I cannot tell you how many times in my career I have told someone their pet is is pain and they simply don't believe because they dont want to. If your kitty really did have FIP or cancer, those are both awful, suffering deaths to allow to transpire. I know you are shaky in your decision, but please find the strength within you to say "I took away her pain, and gave it to myself" because that is what you surely did. As awful as it is to be without her, imagine having to watch her slowly, painfully decay because you did bot have the will to make that choice.

I imagine my Rudy, who maybe, just maybe could have lived with treatment, long hospital stays, rehabilitation and medication. I am anguished by the what ifs. But, then I think of him instead, what if the treatment didn't work as it almost surely would not have, and instead of a peaceful sleep with his mother and father holding him he would have died alone, suffering and in pain, two hours away from the only home hes ever known? I know when I remember the alternative that I made the right choice.

Its hard, terribly hard to know, in your heart even against logic dictating a chance would exist that you made the best decision, but for all the love you had for your baby I hope your doubt can be replaced by all the love you had for her in life.
Thank you so much for everything you said, I truly appreciate it.
I'm so so sorry for your loss. My heart is with you.
 

JamesCalifornia

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I know there must have been something serious going on, she had fluid in her belly, had trouble urinating, was getting weaker and weaker.
I just feel horrible that maybe it wasn't the right time. That maybe it was too soon.
~ If this was the case then she was definitely very uncomfortable - likely in advanced kidney failure. Not pleasant ! Much better to euthanize than die that way.
If your sister is an M.D. she will explain this to you. Happens in people too.
:vibes: Peace to you & kitty ... :cloud9:
 

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