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I have a 7 month old bengal cat who is a unfixed male, he would hide or sleep whenever I wasnt home, mind you this was even when my family-who he is familiar with- was still home, he was not alone, he would finally come out when i came back home. i was worried he had separation anxiety and needed a companion, i also always wanted more cats in the future so i adopted his sister from the same litter who was unlike him, socialized to both cats and dogs. she is fixed. i didnt know where to to about the introduction because i keep him in my bedroom, as my family doesnt take care of the cat, he is mine so i feed him, bathe him, etc. and they dont want any feline odor in their bedrooms or in the house, therefore i was planning on keeping this new kitty, his sister, in my bedroom as well. when i first brought her in, in my arms, he looked fine so i assumed he didnt care or mind it, but when i got closer with her he smelled then hissed and swatted her and became aggressive with me. i did not expect this as i have taken him in his cat backpack carrier and we have been in close proximity with dogs and cats, but im guessing this is a territorial thing. i feel awful, they have been seperated 4 days now but whenever she would come up to my door he would hiss and growl. i tried feeding him when she came up to the door yesterday and he ate the food just fine, i didnt hear any aggressiveness. today they saw each other through a gate just to figure out if they have calmed down yet or not, and she was the first to hiss at him which is unfortunate because initially she was the calmer one used to cats already. he kept trying to move the gate and go out there to her which i had no idea what his intentions are or what he was trying to do. now they both hiss and growl at each other. i take a few times out of my day to leave the bedroom and go feed her/play with her in the kitchen, she seems to like me the most out of my family for some odd reason, even though i probably see her the least. she is super sweet and purrs whenever i pet her but when i leave her she follows me and meows, whereas if i dont go in the bedroom quickly enough after leaving, my male resident cat starts to meow for me as well. no one is willing to keep them in their bedrooms as i said, and i feel awful neglecting one or the other. i will be moving across the country 2,000 miles in a month and will be taking both on the plane. i am
hoping they at least tolerate each other by then but have no idea what to do, i am terrified of a fight occurring since there is so much furniture like couches they can go under where i lack control. i am thinking of neutering him this week, as it seems there are more pros than cons. he will have to wear a cone for 10 days which makes me question if that is the safest time to allow them to meet, when he has the cone and cant do as much damage. shes the same exact age, as she is from his litter, but much smaller in size. PLEASE help me out, whats the quickest or smartest way to go about this? doing the traditional slow method isnt working and it is very hard to care for both animals in a situation like this. i will be moving out alone with the cats into a studio, where they can no longer avoid each other.
hoping they at least tolerate each other by then but have no idea what to do, i am terrified of a fight occurring since there is so much furniture like couches they can go under where i lack control. i am thinking of neutering him this week, as it seems there are more pros than cons. he will have to wear a cone for 10 days which makes me question if that is the safest time to allow them to meet, when he has the cone and cant do as much damage. shes the same exact age, as she is from his litter, but much smaller in size. PLEASE help me out, whats the quickest or smartest way to go about this? doing the traditional slow method isnt working and it is very hard to care for both animals in a situation like this. i will be moving out alone with the cats into a studio, where they can no longer avoid each other.