I'm having such a hard time. During dinner my mother mentioned that Augustus might not work out. ...not work out. I can't even believe it. We adopted Augustus a little over a month ago. I won't lie, he's had some behavioral issues. I figured out that he was probably semi-feral, which we didn't know at the time, but if thought about, probably could have guessed- he was 5, found on the streets, and not fixed. I have two cats of my own and this was my mother's adoption. I guess she wanted a lap cat and thought they just came perfectly behaved and lazy.
But I have spent so much time working with this cat. I've done research, I feed him, spend time with him, buy things for him, play with him. And they have the gall to say that it might not work out, that they want to take him back. They haven't done ANYTHING. Haven't listened to anything I've said or asked them to do or tried to get them involved with him. He went a little crazy when a delivery guy came to the house today. Nothing major, just running around and climbing up furniture. I've had cats for years that had little psycho episodes like that. She asked if we should re-evaluate his training - he has only been in downstairs with us for extended periods for less than a week. He was probably just bored! He has barely had any training at all, we've only had him a month! My mom asked if we should just keep him in a smaller area for now or maybe take him back to the shelter. She has just checked out from working with him. I could hear it in her voice.
They keep trying to push the introductions with the other cats and are surprised when it doesn't work out perfectly. Or if they take this super energetic cat, don't play with him, and get surprised when he runs crazy. They won't buy him a cat tree when it is obvious he likes climbing. She got angry when I bought babygates so he could see the other cats and do slow introductions.
I've done this because I want him to improve and so that they will keep him and love him since they won't put forth any effort at all. All they do is spray him with a water bottle. And he has improved so much. He has such a personality. And is a total sweetheart a bit deeper down. I can't believe they don't even feel a little attached to him, or realise that we made a commitment to be his forever home and that we OWE it to him to do absolutely everything we can to help him fit in. They just want a cat where all they have to do is feed it and not have it impact their life or house. I don't know how to convince them to keep him. I don't know what to say to them. I can't believe they can even think of abandoning this little guy after living with him and loving him for over a month. They haven't done anything and all they do is complain.
He might jump on me and scratch the couch and attack my cat but he wants love. He hates being left alone and cries. When I stay in the room to feed him, he keeps checking to make sure I'm still there. If he sees me going for the door he jumps on my leg and then lays down in front of the door so I can't leave. He does that to everyone. I certainly won't say he is the perfect cat, but I don't know how they can think of this. I understand cats not working out for some people but they haven't even tried. They've barely given him any time or effort at all. I'm so disappointed in them. She is obviously not patient enough for an energetic or feral cat, I get that, but she should have thought more about it or visited more before she adopted him. It wasn't as if we didn't already have cats in the house. I worry that I'm going to come home from work one day and he's going to be gone. And now that he has a bite history, I don't know how they can think about taking him back. They know what will happen to him. I'm going to be so sad if they get rid of him. He is already part of the family. He trusts me and it is just so cruel.
I'm not really asking for advice, I'm just so angry and sad and really needed to vent.
But I have spent so much time working with this cat. I've done research, I feed him, spend time with him, buy things for him, play with him. And they have the gall to say that it might not work out, that they want to take him back. They haven't done ANYTHING. Haven't listened to anything I've said or asked them to do or tried to get them involved with him. He went a little crazy when a delivery guy came to the house today. Nothing major, just running around and climbing up furniture. I've had cats for years that had little psycho episodes like that. She asked if we should re-evaluate his training - he has only been in downstairs with us for extended periods for less than a week. He was probably just bored! He has barely had any training at all, we've only had him a month! My mom asked if we should just keep him in a smaller area for now or maybe take him back to the shelter. She has just checked out from working with him. I could hear it in her voice.
They keep trying to push the introductions with the other cats and are surprised when it doesn't work out perfectly. Or if they take this super energetic cat, don't play with him, and get surprised when he runs crazy. They won't buy him a cat tree when it is obvious he likes climbing. She got angry when I bought babygates so he could see the other cats and do slow introductions.
I've done this because I want him to improve and so that they will keep him and love him since they won't put forth any effort at all. All they do is spray him with a water bottle. And he has improved so much. He has such a personality. And is a total sweetheart a bit deeper down. I can't believe they don't even feel a little attached to him, or realise that we made a commitment to be his forever home and that we OWE it to him to do absolutely everything we can to help him fit in. They just want a cat where all they have to do is feed it and not have it impact their life or house. I don't know how to convince them to keep him. I don't know what to say to them. I can't believe they can even think of abandoning this little guy after living with him and loving him for over a month. They haven't done anything and all they do is complain.
He might jump on me and scratch the couch and attack my cat but he wants love. He hates being left alone and cries. When I stay in the room to feed him, he keeps checking to make sure I'm still there. If he sees me going for the door he jumps on my leg and then lays down in front of the door so I can't leave. He does that to everyone. I certainly won't say he is the perfect cat, but I don't know how they can think of this. I understand cats not working out for some people but they haven't even tried. They've barely given him any time or effort at all. I'm so disappointed in them. She is obviously not patient enough for an energetic or feral cat, I get that, but she should have thought more about it or visited more before she adopted him. It wasn't as if we didn't already have cats in the house. I worry that I'm going to come home from work one day and he's going to be gone. And now that he has a bite history, I don't know how they can think about taking him back. They know what will happen to him. I'm going to be so sad if they get rid of him. He is already part of the family. He trusts me and it is just so cruel.
I'm not really asking for advice, I'm just so angry and sad and really needed to vent.