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I cried when I opened this Christmas present. I don’t think my parents expected me to bawl.
I miss him
I miss him
Ohh, that is wonderful yet so bitter sweet. It's beautiful.I cried when I opened this Christmas present. I don’t think my parents expected me to bawl.
I miss him
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You have every right to bawl, and it’s a compliment to them -and Monet- that they got you the right gift! It’s lovely!I cried when I opened this Christmas present. I don’t think my parents expected me to bawl.
I miss him
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Years ago, I got Mom a similar gift with a photo of a pet she loved deeply who had passed. My Mom is not one to cry, but she immediately began crying. I know she loved that gift every bit as you love this one of Monet.You have every right to bawl, and it’s a compliment to them -and Monet- that they got you the right gift! It’s lovely!
thank you for the kind and supportive words, I do appreciate it. I am mostly okay, but there are times something will trigger the waterworks, like the ornament. It's okay to cry, I know it will get easier over time. Like the rock analogy.Draco I hope you are doing OK.
Grief is difficult, work through it at your own pace.
It never really goes completely, but one day you'll realise that you are having happy thoughts about your life with your lost one, and have smiled rather than cried thinking about him that day.
You always miss them but I heard someone once describe grief like carrying a stone in your pocket, at first it is all sharp edges and cuts you. After a while though the stone gets smoother and doesn't cut you so much. The weight of it is always carried in your pocket and you always know it's there, but it doesn't cause constant pain and injury to you any more.
I said goodbye to my Jakey on 16th December, still so fresh. We were on a similar journey with the health of our cats and I got so much support from you - I hope I provided similar in return. Now we are on a similar journey of grief.
Best wishes to you my friend.
I think so too. I felt a mixture of happiness and sadness. More sad now.I love dreams like that. I do believe they visit us to check in and let us know that they're alright, and that we will be, too.
I know how that goes. I've had a few dreams where they show up, and I was almost expecting to see them but it was like the fact they had passed IRL was erased from my brain. When the dream is spent grappling with the knowledge they have passed, but, there they are, I tend to wake up feeling a big mixture of emotions.I think so too. I felt a mixture of happiness and sadness. More sad now.