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Draco Draco I am just now seeing your post about Monet. I haven't been on this site in a long time (alot going on).
Oh , what a beautiful cat he was and still is.
My first cat was a black and white kitty , also with a pink nose.
What an adorable pink little nose on Monet , how sweet and precious.
I am so truly sorry that he had to leave you.
I know how heartbreaking it is to lose a beloved pet. I would not wish that pain on anyone. It is a devastating pain that can last a long time.
I recently lost my Shadow back in April and the pain can be unbearable at times.
Oh , I just love that ornament with your Monet's picture on it. I would love one of Shadow. It is truly beautiful just like your Monet was!
Again , so sorry that you lost Monet.
He will always be loved and missed!
 

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You have every right to bawl, and it’s a compliment to them -and Monet- that they got you the right gift! It’s lovely!
Years ago, I got Mom a similar gift with a photo of a pet she loved deeply who had passed. My Mom is not one to cry, but she immediately began crying. I know she loved that gift every bit as you love this one of Monet. :hugs:
 

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Draco Draco I hope you are doing OK.
Grief is difficult, work through it at your own pace.
It never really goes completely, but one day you'll realise that you are having happy thoughts about your life with your lost one, and have smiled rather than cried thinking about him that day.

You always miss them but I heard someone once describe grief like carrying a stone in your pocket, at first it is all sharp edges and cuts you. After a while though the stone gets smoother and doesn't cut you so much. The weight of it is always carried in your pocket and you always know it's there, but it doesn't cause constant pain and injury to you any more.

I said goodbye to my Jakey on 16th December, still so fresh. We were on a similar journey with the health of our cats and I got so much support from you - I hope I provided similar in return. Now we are on a similar journey of grief.

Best wishes to you my friend.
 
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Draco Draco I hope you are doing OK.
Grief is difficult, work through it at your own pace.
It never really goes completely, but one day you'll realise that you are having happy thoughts about your life with your lost one, and have smiled rather than cried thinking about him that day.

You always miss them but I heard someone once describe grief like carrying a stone in your pocket, at first it is all sharp edges and cuts you. After a while though the stone gets smoother and doesn't cut you so much. The weight of it is always carried in your pocket and you always know it's there, but it doesn't cause constant pain and injury to you any more.

I said goodbye to my Jakey on 16th December, still so fresh. We were on a similar journey with the health of our cats and I got so much support from you - I hope I provided similar in return. Now we are on a similar journey of grief.

Best wishes to you my friend.
thank you for the kind and supportive words, I do appreciate it. I am mostly okay, but there are times something will trigger the waterworks, like the ornament. It's okay to cry, I know it will get easier over time. Like the rock analogy.

We are all here for you too. I know it hurts, especially so close to the holidays. It sucks, It really does.
 
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lets see if this video works..

I made a lithophane on my 3D printer of me and Monet. Its an older photo, but still one of my favorites

EDIT: video didn't work. here's a few still shots. You hold it up to the light to see the full image
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Last night I had a vivid dream Monet was there.

We were curled up on the bed, our usual position. I was rubbing his chest, just looking at one another. It felt so real, like I could actually feel him in my arms. I was talking to him, telling him that I miss him.
He looked over at the new boys who were also sitting on the bed (along with Cassie), but did not react, it was almost as if he was telling me he was alright with them.

I miss him so much.
 

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I think so too. I felt a mixture of happiness and sadness. More sad now.
I know how that goes. I've had a few dreams where they show up, and I was almost expecting to see them but it was like the fact they had passed IRL was erased from my brain. When the dream is spent grappling with the knowledge they have passed, but, there they are, I tend to wake up feeling a big mixture of emotions.
I've actually written down every single dream they've been in, and it's bittersweet to go back and revisit those dreams. I had one a few years ago where my childhood cat (who passed in 2006 or so) just sauntered into my bedroom and jumped up on my bed. It was so cool.
 
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It is a great feeling to see them again, even if they aren't around anymore. Just a moment of happiness.
I hope I get to dream of him again. In that moment it was pure bliss.
I've never dreamt of any of my past animals before. Monet was the first that came to me.
 

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I haven't had a dream with Ruby yet, unless I don't remember them. I'm hoping I do one day, just so I can get that moment of happiness.
 
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