Dream Visits From Cats Who've Passed

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I lost my beloved cat, Willie, 7 months ago on Wednesday. She was 17 years old and I miss her terribly. I adopted a pair of cats a month ago and I've had trouble accepting that Willie isn't angry that I've brought more cats into my life. I know she is gone and I have accepted that, but I often feel like I'm betraying her and her memory because I adopted again. Willie and I were very attached to each other and I truly believe she wasn't ready to go, but cancer doesn't care.

My family are big believers that when a loved one dies they will visit you in your dreams. I've had several loved ones come to me in my dreams and my mom had her mom visit her in a series of dreams that pushed her to get a mammogram that found her breast cancer (thankfully stage 1). I didn't get a visit from Willie until September and in the dream she was lying on my chest like she always did and purring. It felt so real because I swear I could really hear her purrs. I woke up nearly in tears when I realized it wasn't real. A few nights ago I had another dream about Willie and this time she was purring again and curled up in the crook of my arm (again something she always did). The dream made me feel a little better about adopting Remy and Maisie. It felt like Willie was saying, "I know you still love me, it's okay to keep loving."

Have you had dream visits from cats that you have lost? How do they make you feel?
 

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I have, and a dog or two as well. And they brought me more peace and comfort that I can express. I think that Willie was not only saying "It's ok to keep loving," but "You honor our love by loving another."

Rest you gentle, Willie, dream you deep. You walk in someone's heart forever.
 

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We just had this discussion last night, so this thread is very timely. I think Sven's "spirit" visited me to let me know everything was alright and I shouldn't be sad anymore. I felt him jump up on the bed and heard his little meow and just had this feeling he was there with me. Not sure if I was dreaming or still awake.

The topic came up in conversation last night because we have company from Spain and her ex-husband passed away and definitely came to me in a dream and told me outright that everything was okay.
 

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Months after Sebastian died in my arms 11/15, I was in the process of adopting Sylvester and his owner wanted me to wait until a weekend to let me come over and get him, which I wasn't happy about but understood. Then one night I had this "impression", I get them at times, my mom gets them and my grandmother really used to get them, and the best way to explain to you is that I saw these mental images of what was supposed to represent my grandmother on the right and a black image next to that on the left which was supposed to represent Sebastian; once I understood this, the black one on the left (Sebastian) started slowly coming closer and twice I sensed the words "do it.......do it", and I mentally replied "it's okay buddy, I am going to get him, I'll do it", and slowly the two images faded away. Well, I did end up getting him and earlier than the weekend and he was in rough shape, thin, flea bitten, living mostly in a bathroom, so I guess they wanted me to really make sure to rescue him from a not so great life, and he also rescued me because I was still messed up mentally after coming home and Sebastian dying in my arms suddenly, and my grandmother's image was there I believe to let me know it was him and her and it was "legit".
 

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Yes I have and it is comforting. :hugs:

I am so sorry for your loss. What you have with Willie (I say have and not had because the bond between you is forever) is very special. Willie is not upset with you for wanting to share your life with another cat. She is pleased that another cat will get to experience the love and friendship that has known for so long. She knows that her place in your heart is forever as is yours in hers. When you give love and friendship to another cat, you are honoring Willie's memory. Willie wants you to be happy and she is happy for you. Thank you for giving another lucky cat a loving home.

RIP dear Willie. You will always be loved and never forgotten. :rbheart:
 

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I have had dreams of my Chrissy, I think it is sometimes the only way they have to communicate with us, when we are receptive to their visits because our minds are more open when we are relaxed and semi-conscious. I have felt her weight against my leg, and her louder than normal purr. I truly believe that our little ones are honored that we are able to accept another into our hearts. That we are able to pass on even an inkling of the love they shared with us. That instead of hoarding that love and living for a time that in the past, we are able to move forward and grasp the happiness and joy in life once more. As they would want us to do, as we would want them to do if we were the first to go. Love is unselfish, it is wanting the best for those we leave behind. And the best is loving again, never in the same way, never replacing, but in a new way, just as a mother loves her many children, each so unique and precious. Our hearts are big enough to accept more love, each is a building block that is added to the last, not replacing it, until our souls are complete and we are the one that is remembered and missed.
We never betray or dishonor our little one's memory by passing on their legacy, we add to it. We will never forget what we shared with them, they showed us what it was like to truly open our hearts and love someone, it makes them proud to think we learned and will pass on that teaching to another who so desperately needs it. In one way it is keeping that love alive, feeding it with additional love and letting it grow and flourish instead of languishing by being walled up in a prison of grief. I make donations in my Chrissy's name, I feel it honors that name, that she embraced and loved life so much she would be happy to find that joy once more through the happiness brought to another.
No it will never be the same. You wouldn't want it to be. What you shared is precious and as rare. Don't try to compare each love to the uncomparable. Treat each as they are, unique and as different as a snowflake. Embrace what is offered you from the new one , you already have your departed little one's love, it can never be taken from you. Welcome what the new little one is freely sharing and add it to the treasures you already hold. And know in your soul you are blessed indeed.
 

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Unlike others, my passed away cats came to my dreams only a few times, three times for Tom, three times for Lola.
And in my dreams they were never close to me, they were far and wouldn't look at me and each of them, in their last dream, told me to let them go... :(

Probably the pain that I still feel for their death is so strong that is like a chain which prevents them to go over, to go to the peace they are meant to reach.

Not good dreams, if you ask me...
 

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once I understood this, the black one on the left (Sebastian) started slowly coming closer and twice I sensed the words "do it.......do it", and I mentally replied "it's okay buddy, I am going to get him, I'll do it", and slowly the two images faded away. Well, I did end up getting him and earlier than the weekend and he was in rough shape, thin, flea bitten, living mostly in a bathroom, so I guess they wanted me to really make sure to rescue him from a not so great life, and he also rescued me because I was still messed up mentally after coming home and Sebastian dying in my arms suddenly, and my grandmother's image was there I believe to let me know it was him and her and it was "legit".
That IS creeping!
 

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Antonio, I don't believe you are preventing anything, it is bigger then all of us. I think they were trying to tell you, they WERE at peace, to let them 'go' because you will always have their love. To let go of your pain because they they already had what they needed the most, your love. To move forward, to love again because that is what you do best and are most appreciated for. They wouldn't look at you because they didn't have to, didn't need to. They will keep you with them forever, as you will them. You loved them with your whole heart, and they are trying to make you whole again. Knowing that kind of love is a good thing, you did well my friend!
 

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That IS creeping!
Ha ha, it sounds creepy but it really wasn't or isn't, I guess that I am just used to it happening to me, and Sebastian knew that I was hurting over losing him in such a sudden and catastrophic way and that getting Sylvester would help me heal and also help Sylvester get a better life, and he was right on both accounts!
 

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I'm sure I have had dreams but it took years for me to get them. I wish I could dream about Timmer but not really tho I was washing dishes a couple of weeks ago and I saw him out of the corner of my eye, in the pantry walking toward me.
I have the opposite feeling about adopting other babies. I don't think my kitties would be upset or think I didn't love them because they know I have a big heart that needs to be filled with kitty love. A few times I ran out within a week after a death, and got others but that was a mistake because I was not ready.

Timmer was very special and I am not emotionally ready to get another, tho I do have a remaining cat, and I wonder if she would want company, but since she and Tim never got along, she might like the peace in her home now and I have to respect that and think of her, not myself.
 

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Actually our intense grief prevents them from visiting us in the beginning that's why they often take weeks/months to come to us. I envy those that dream often of their lost ones but I know Kitty reincarnated a few weeks after his death(he might be 3 months now). In June me and my wife will start our new journey. We will go to adoption centers to find our new black cat that will be KITTY! Only problem is that theres a chance he expects us to take siblings as well.
 

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A few times I had dreams about one of my other cats that passed on almost a decade ago, even years after his death. In those dreams, although I was there playing with him, being happy, there was the feeling of longing of wanting to be with him one more time overall. Rarely, but I still get dreams once in a blue moon about all my previous pets who died over a decade ago. I may have had a dream or two about my cat before she died recently, but because I really miss having a loyal, loving, furry companion, I've been having a lot of dreams about kittens and even adopting one, lol.

Also, my mother once told me that she used to have dreams about one of our other cats, who died not that old. She used to wake up in the middle of the night whilst sobbing, as well as even feeling a presence by her. And I even once heard my dog bark a day after she died at a young age. Everyone in the entire household heard her, actually. That experience brought me a sense of peace and closure, knowing that she was okay
 

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This is crossing into the weird, but I joke that Midnight wasn't just any black cat, she was my familiar (Superstitious hooey, but we played with it because why not?) I keep waiting and waiting for her to come visit me in a dream, but the only sleep-dream I've had of her was shortly after she died, and it wasn't a visitation, it was a fantasy... I dreamed I was called back to the vet, that there had been a mistake and she was well. I saw her, alive and well, and meowing. And chased her through this palatial vet trying to get back to her, but could never seem to reach her.

As for the "familiar" bit, the Sunday before she started to get sick (two Sundays before she died) I was out running errands, and just heard in my head, "GET HOME. She needs you. Go home," and it just chanted over and over, "Go home, go home, go home." I treasure that last Sunday cuddling with her. I've heard that animals get to talk their humans just once in their lives, and they save it for something special. I think that was our "something special".
 

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This is crossing into the weird, but I joke that Midnight wasn't just any black cat, she was my familiar (Superstitious hooey, but we played with it because why not?) I keep waiting and waiting for her to come visit me in a dream, but the only sleep-dream I've had of her was shortly after she died, and it wasn't a visitation, it was a fantasy... I dreamed I was called back to the vet, that there had been a mistake and she was well. I saw her, alive and well, and meowing. And chased her through this palatial vet trying to get back to her, but could never seem to reach her.

As for the "familiar" bit, the Sunday before she started to get sick (two Sundays before she died) I was out running errands, and just heard in my head, "GET HOME. She needs you. Go home," and it just chanted over and over, "Go home, go home, go home." I treasure that last Sunday cuddling with her. I've heard that animals get to talk their humans just once in their lives, and they save it for something special. I think that was our "something special".
What a lovely story :3 I can't say that I had any "familiar" stories. Ones closest I can get is when a few times my pets got sick and I kept hearing in my head, "Their time is almost up. They won't be here any longer". And sure enough... I think that's a parental pet instinct, and I think many, many pet owners have that
 

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Actually, when we are out we used to always hear in our heads our KITTY telling us to return home and now that he is dead we still get calls from him to come home.
More freakish. Our other cat Gev never spent time with kitty and lived in a seperate room. He now is allowd in Kitty's territory and it seems like Kitty has possessed him. He is behaving a bit like kitty at times.
 
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