Do your cats know when you're sad - and do they respond?

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Whenever I have a panic anxiety attack, Ghibli lets me cry hysterically into his tummy for as long as I need... Slobber and all. I can't believe I was blessed with such a cat. I get really bad anxiety stemming from grad school and he literally saves me from extremely scary panic attacks every time I am about to have one. He is so loving for only being a young cat (7-8 months old)
 
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My older one doesn't come to comfort me when I'm sad, but she will comfort me when I'm sick in bed. 

Also when husband and I play rough and I'm giggling like a fiend, she gets really concerned and comes to my "rescue".

Little one is oblivious to everything. LOL
 

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When I was in college I had to leave my kitty Yuengling at my parents' house for a semester. My parents weren't getting along and my dad had an arm injury that required surgery which prevented him from lying in bed. He had to sleep in the living room in a recliner, and he said that every night when the pain would wake him up, Yuengling would come and lay on that arm and sleep with him. My dad said that was the only thing that comforted him then and he swore my cat knew it and could tell he was in pain - physically and emotionally.
 

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I never can talk about this with non-cat people, because they just don't believe it, they think it's wishful thinking..but it's just happened to me too many times to just be coincidence.

My childhood kitty, Susie (we had lots of cats but Susie was mine) wasn't even a lapcat - she would sleep at the foot of my bed, snuggled up to my ankles every night, but she didn't get on my lap. She was sweet, but not a lovebug-that just wasnt her. As my mom used to put it, "Susie is her Own Cat". But, in my childhood, when I was having a hard time, if I'd start crying (and it happened more than it should, because my childhood really wasn't the best), Susie would come into my room and hop up on the bed, and headbutt me, and look at me inquisitively, like "What's wrong, mommy?". She'd purr, and rub against me, and settle down next to me for a while...and it always made me feel so much better. She's at the bridge now, but it's one of the things I'll always remember about her.

Fast forward to present day, and I rescue The Wonton from the streets of San Francisco. A few months later, I'm upset about something, and yeah, crying, sitting on my bed. Wonton comes right up to me, and just like Susie, he just seems so curious. But it's not simple curiosity, because if it were, he'd check it out, and then go off to do something else. But no, he head butts me, keeps trying to reach up and headbutt my face, sniffs at the tears on my cheeks, and then crawls into my lap, purring, and settles down. He will get in my lap if I'm at the puter, sitting in a chair, or sitting on the floor, or sitting indian style on the bed, but if I'm just sitting at the edge, he usually never tries to get in my lap - unless I'm crying. And that wasn't an isolated event. If he sees/hears me crying, he will come see if I'm ok, and comfort me, everytime. And you can't tell me it's something else, I just don't believe it, the behaviour is too specific, and not explainable by anything else.

Just another reason I love Wonton
So my question is - do any of you have cats who do this? Do you believe that they know you're sad, and are trying to comfort you? I do
I have had my cat BELLA for about 9 months now and if I wasn't convinced before today that cat's can definitely sense human emotions, then I am absolutely convinced now! She has always been a little lover girl, had to come under the comforter to sleep in the crook of my next while licking my neck 3-4 times every time I am under the comforter, and she loves to sit in my lap and be pet all I time but today she did something I've never seen her do before. As much of a lover girl as she is she never likes to be picked up and have me walk around with her in my arms; she ALWAYS jumps down...just not here thing I guess but this past week my roommate and I have been super stressed out and full of anxiety. Today she came up to me as I was feeling like having a panic attack, I was standing at the stove and she practically tried climbing up the stove to get to me and then she starts meowing like I've never heard before...she has hard food, dry food and fresh water so I pick her up and she nestled into my arm and started purring like crazy and made no attempt to jump down!! Needless to say she made me feel so much better and I know that meow she let Lou was because she absolutely sensed my stress and anxiety...ive never heard that sound out of her before and then she wanted to stay in my arms while I walked around....im 100% convinced that cat's can sense our emotions!!
 

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Bits was solid black with long fur and huge owl-like eyes. She was one of a litter of 5 that I rescued from a barn after their mum was hit by a car. It took several days to locate the litter and they were in very bad shape by the time I got them. Three had already passed. The forth passed overnight before I could get her and her sister to the vet in the AM.

When she grew up, she helped me through a divorce and some other tough times.... She became one of my dearest friends. Bits knew me like the she knew the back of her paw.

The name Bits is short for "Itty Bitty Kitty," what I called her as I nursed her back to health. Itty Bitty Kitty was never meant to be her name, but I was afraid to name her because she was so tiny and frail I never thought she would live; I was trying to remain unattached. I brought her to my office every day, bottle fed her, washed her and talked to her. About the time I realized she was going to live, her name had become Itty Bitty Kitty, eventually shortened to just "Bits."

Bits was relieved when my wife and I split up. Not that they didn't like each other, but wife was not a cat person and I was. Having the wife out of the picture meant Bits had me all to herself; exactly what she wanted. When I was upset, Bits stuck to me like glue. During the tough times, I would wake to find her sitting close by watching over me. When I couldn't sleep, she pushed against me and purred. She sat nearby when I ate, she curled on my lap when I read and she waited by the door for me to come home. As I got over the split, Bits slowly gave me more space. I often wonder if she had recall of me feeding her with a dropper and washing her with a warm wet cloth. If she did recall, then I suppose it was fair payback.

Time heals and eventually I started bringing women home. Bits actively lobbied against the ones she didn't like, scratching the bare ankle, hissing if they tried to pet and being the very definition of "catty." Bits accepted the one who eventually moved in. She grudgingly gave up her spot beside me in bed. They struck up a distant relationship which became close after a few years.

Later I had an accident that left me in a great deal of pain for a few weeks. Bits was once again stuck to me like glue. I had a tough time with a business and Bits made it her duty to once again watch over me as I worried: head butts, purring and sleeping close by.

Dogs are programmed to support humans. Cats choose. I count myself very lucky indeed to have been chosen by Bits.
 

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I went to the Humane Society 2 years ago to get a cat. I hadnt had one since I was a kid. I walked in the room and they were all gorgeous, how could I choose? This one kitten stuck her arm through the cage and basically picked me. Her name was Godzilla haha. She bonded with me right away so that was that. She likes to be around me all the time but on her terms. Recently my life has been turned upside down for several reasons. Divorce, drug addiction etc.. a complete mess. Disclaimer is Ive always cared for kitty above and beyond regardless of my state at the time. Lately ive been terribly depressed. She comes to me on the bed and sits between my legs. She then rests her chin on my hand and purrs loudly. There have been days recently that she is the only reason I didnt just check out of life. I love her deaply and she definitely knows when im not well physically or emotionally. She chirps at me to play and get motivated but never annoyingly. Thank god for her right now cuz im struggling in many ways. I dont know what I would do without her now. Its like she knows with my wife gone and my troubles I need her bonding more then usual.
 

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My cat doesn't I don't think, but my dog definitely does for sure. If I'm really upset he tries to get onto my head, which he really cant do. So he ends up laying on my chest or laying around my shoulders. But he acts like he's desperate to get on top of me. He also licks my face incessantly, but the crawling up on top of me is unusual behavior. He even does that with other people. Like once my sister made a loud Sigh! sound in frustration and Bosco thought she was hurt, so he started doing the same thing to her.
 

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Both of my furry kids know when mom needs extra attention. Sarah curls up with me -- we call it snuggling, and Eric will flop down on my bed, and gently pat me on the cheek with his paw to make sure I am okay. He will then start purring and kneading to make his mom feel better. Both are very sensitive to how I am feeling, and when I need extra love from them.
 

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I never can talk about this with non-cat people, because they just don't believe it, they think it's wishful thinking..but it's just happened to me too many times to just be coincidence.

My childhood kitty, Susie (we had lots of cats but Susie was mine) wasn't even a lapcat - she would sleep at the foot of my bed, snuggled up to my ankles every night, but she didn't get on my lap. She was sweet, but not a lovebug-that just wasnt her. As my mom used to put it, "Susie is her Own Cat". But, in my childhood, when I was having a hard time, if I'd start crying (and it happened more than it should, because my childhood really wasn't the best), Susie would come into my room and hop up on the bed, and headbutt me, and look at me inquisitively, like "What's wrong, mommy?". She'd purr, and rub against me, and settle down next to me for a while...and it always made me feel so much better. She's at the bridge now, but it's one of the things I'll always remember about her.

Fast forward to present day, and I rescue The Wonton from the streets of San Francisco. A few months later, I'm upset about something, and yeah, crying, sitting on my bed. Wonton comes right up to me, and just like Susie, he just seems so curious. But it's not simple curiosity, because if it were, he'd check it out, and then go off to do something else. But no, he head butts me, keeps trying to reach up and headbutt my face, sniffs at the tears on my cheeks, and then crawls into my lap, purring, and settles down. He will get in my lap if I'm at the puter, sitting in a chair, or sitting on the floor, or sitting indian style on the bed, but if I'm just sitting at the edge, he usually never tries to get in my lap - unless I'm crying. And that wasn't an isolated event. If he sees/hears me crying, he will come see if I'm ok, and comfort me, everytime. And you can't tell me it's something else, I just don't believe it, the behaviour is too specific, and not explainable by anything else.

Just another reason I love Wonton
So my question is - do any of you have cats who do this? Do you believe that they know you're sad, and are trying to comfort you? I do
After my Siamese pookie passed away from cancer I immediately came home and bawled my bloody eyes out. My cat Cheeto who my hubcap and I both think was abused when he was younger, came up to me and nuzzled purred etc. before that he wouldn’t even let us pet him anywhere except on his butt by the top of his tail. He sat on my lap, head butted me and even licked my tears away . It was unreal. I believe they can totally sense our emotions. My lapcat Nina is always a little love bug but recently we have had a huge fight within the family and have become estranged. I have been crying daily and I mean bawling like I’ve never bawled before. Nina follows me everywhere and just won’t leave my side. When I was pregnant, my kitten mittens and cat feo used to sleep on my tummy and whenever I used the bathroom to throw up or pee one of the 80 times a day allllll of my cats would escort me to and from the potty. While it was adorable and touching there were many times that running thru a gang of 5 cats wasn’t the best and I tripped over them more often than not. Yet they still continued to follow me like I was the pied piper of cats.
 

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Do our boys sense our sadness?

Frankly I dont know.

This may sound corny, but since greg and arnold came into my life 2 1/2 years ago ive never been sad or angry for more than a few minutes....if even that long.

If im am feeling sad I simply find either one of them and give them a cuddle and stoke them, stare into their eyes and kiss them....and what ever has upset me isnt as important anymore. Im calm again....or at least calmed down before they can respond. They stabilize my emotions.....except for my love and joy to them.....that is almost embarrassing.

They are both very sensitive to our emotions and gestures. Anything out of the ordinary, they quickly notice and will watch us intently.
 

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I never can talk about this with non-cat people, because they just don't believe it, they think it's wishful thinking..but it's just happened to me too many times to just be coincidence.

My childhood kitty, Susie (we had lots of cats but Susie was mine) wasn't even a lapcat - she would sleep at the foot of my bed, snuggled up to my ankles every night, but she didn't get on my lap. She was sweet, but not a lovebug-that just wasnt her. As my mom used to put it, "Susie is her Own Cat". But, in my childhood, when I was having a hard time, if I'd start crying (and it happened more than it should, because my childhood really wasn't the best), Susie would come into my room and hop up on the bed, and headbutt me, and look at me inquisitively, like "What's wrong, mommy?". She'd purr, and rub against me, and settle down next to me for a while...and it always made me feel so much better. She's at the bridge now, but it's one of the things I'll always remember about her.

Fast forward to present day, and I rescue The Wonton from the streets of San Francisco. A few months later, I'm upset about something, and yeah, crying, sitting on my bed. Wonton comes right up to me, and just like Susie, he just seems so curious. But it's not simple curiosity, because if it were, he'd check it out, and then go off to do something else. But no, he head butts me, keeps trying to reach up and headbutt my face, sniffs at the tears on my cheeks, and then crawls into my lap, purring, and settles down. He will get in my lap if I'm at the puter, sitting in a chair, or sitting on the floor, or sitting indian style on the bed, but if I'm just sitting at the edge, he usually never tries to get in my lap - unless I'm crying. And that wasn't an isolated event. If he sees/hears me crying, he will come see if I'm ok, and comfort me, everytime. And you can't tell me it's something else, I just don't believe it, the behaviour is too specific, and not explainable by anything else.

Just another reason I love Wonton
So my question is - do any of you have cats who do this? Do you believe that they know you're sad, and are trying to comfort you? I do
That depends on the cat. When my first cat died, the other cat didn't realize I was so sad and did nothing to comfort me. He'd liked the other cat, but he just thought she took off, because she'd ran away several times before.
 

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I truly think cats and other animals have a sense that we don't, or have lost, they need this to survive. Just like people, some are more nurturing/comforting than others.The cat I yell at the most for tripping me, and push away when I'm trying to eat, etc. is the most loving, concerned little girl I've ever had. I feel extremely guilty when she is right there when I cry over a touching TV show or am hurt. She insists on climbing up onto my chest as high as she can get and nuzzles and headbuts. She even cries out loud when there is yelling going on, or another cat is hurt. My Burt was another one, he always came to us and stared at us so concerned when we were sad. He would meow too.
 

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Yes, I believe they know when their human is sad. I had a cat years ago who would get so upset when I would cry. He would howl and pace around, climb on me and grab my hand with his paws.
 

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Ii never can talk about this with non-cat people, because they just don't believe it, they think it's wishful thinking..but it's just happened to me too many times to just be coincidence.

My childhood kitty, Susie (we had lots of cats but Susie was mine) wasn't even a lapcat - she would sleep at the foot of my bed, snuggled up to my ankles every night, but she didn't get on my lap. She was sweet, but not a lovebug-that just wasnt her. As my mom used to put it, "Susie is her Own Cat". But, in my childhood, when I was having a hard time, if I'd start crying (and it happened more than it should, because my childhood really wasn't the best), Susie would come into my room and hop up on the bed, and headbutt me, and look at me inquisitively, like "What's wrong, mommy?". She'd purr, and rub against me, and settle down next to me for a while...and it always made me feel so much better. She's at the bridge now, but it's one of the things I'll always remember about her.

Fast forward to present day, and I rescue The Wonton from the streets of San Francisco. A few months later, I'm upset about something, and yeah, crying, sitting on my bed. Wonton comes right up to me, and just like Susie, he just seems so curious. But it's not simple curiosity, because if it were, he'd check it out, and then go off to do something else. But no, he head butts me, keeps trying to reach up and headbutt my face, sniffs at the tears on my cheeks, and then crawls into my lap, purring, and settles down. He will get in my lap if I'm at the puter, sitting in a chair, or sitting on the floor, or sitting indian style on the bed, but if I'm just sitting at the edge, he usually never tries to get in my lap - unless I'm crying. And that wasn't an isolated event. If he sees/hears me crying, he will come see if I'm ok, and comfort me, everytime. And you can't tell me it's something else, I just don't believe it, the behaviour is too specific, and not explainable by anything else.

Just another reason I love Wonton
So my question is - do any of you have cats who do this? Do you believe that they know you're sad, and are trying to comfort you? I do
I have had a cat named Angel and sje was the same way. And currently have a cat named kitty very much like Angel in personality wise. Very happy, playful not aggressive cat and loved to bringing her toys back to me after she fetches them. Cute huh? And she does sleep on my bed and i do feel she does know when i have been dad lately. Cuz she did rub against me like, "no don't cry.... I'd give you a hug but i dont have thumbs or hands."

She's not my car but we my family is taking care of her for a family member. But she has left paws on my heart and i hate to give her back. But i know we will see her again. We'llhave to see. Fingers crossed.... I have a nee fur baby. My older maincoon male wasn't happy but they are getting along. So thatsthat's good.

Paws out...!!!
 

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Yes, I believe they know when their human is sad. I had a cat years ago who would get so upset when I would cry. He would howl and pace around, climb on me and grab my hand with his paws.
My car Angel did that too she would always meow when i cried in pain. I told mom, i think kitty does it. I dont think she sees it.

I love kitty
 

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I have had a cat named Angel and sje was the same way. And currently have a cat named kitty very much like Angel in personality wise. Very happy, playful not aggressive cat and loved to bringing her toys back to me after she fetches them. Cute huh? And she does sleep on my bed and i do feel she does know when i have been dad lately. Cuz she did rub against me like, "no don't cry.... I'd give you a hug but i dont have thumbs or hands."

She's not my car but we my family is taking care of her for a family member. But she has left paws on my heart and i hate to give her back. But i know we will see her again. We'llhave to see. Fingers crossed.... I have a nee fur baby. My older maincoon male wasn't happy but they are getting along. So thatsthat's good.

Paws out...!!!
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Bless her little heart


When my ex bf and i split i was obviously upset. I just had Rosie at the time and brought her into the bedroom when i went to bed to cry myself to sleep
Rosie lay on my ex's pillow beside me but even before my alarm went off the following morning she would wake me up by gently tapping on my cheek as if to say " It's ok mum "

That's how I was when i missed my first nd. I'd cry and Angel would run against me and try to comfort me and if she could she would hug me.

I miss her RIP Angel but if it weren't for her and Annie I wouldn't have Kitty
 
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