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We are on month 4 of each introductions. We adopted Kirby, a male a little under 2 years old in late September. He was described as a social and non-dominant cat that was a TNR from a feral colony. He had a bite wound and while he healed, the foster found him friendly enough to be an indoor cat. They thought he would be a good fit for my (now) nearly 5 year old female cat Sango. She was a hoarding rescue that I adopted nearly 2 years ago. She was severely under socialized and it took her 6 months to come out of hiding.
In the beginning, we had issues with Kirby "bullying" Sango. Basically, I think he just wanted to play with her but she was afraid of him. Maybe there was some territorial dispute because he was a recent neuter too.
After about a month of hissing at him and some timeouts, he stopped pouncing on her. Then, I noticed Sango pouncing on him A LOT. I found that he was hiding under a couch a ton while she waited to pounce him.
Move forward to today, she is still pouncing on Kirby a lot but now when she tries, he will swat her or stop her and rush at her. She swats him a lot too. A few nights ago, he kept circling around a cardboard box she was in and she kept swatting him. Finally he went and bit her scruff. It was quite alarming, but he didn't break skin.
I've also noticed that when she is on a window perch or the couch sleeping, he will excessively groom her to a point where she will leave her spot and he will take it. On a couple occasions, he again has bit her scruff. She never hisses or swats at him while he grooms, so is she just being submissive? She doesn't seem to like it and I tried to stop him, but he just stops temporarily and then starts grooming her again.
Should I be worried?
I have seen throughout the day that Sango is cordial with Kirby. When I let Kirby out in the morning, Sango typically rubs his face and whole body across him. He will also lick her face.
Is this just their way of working things out? Sometimes these pouncing/chases get really annoying and Sango jumps on the dining table/coffee table (despite cat furniture being right nearby). I do try to play with them, but I do work at home and it's not always possible with meetings, etc.
I guess I just need reassurance they are working things out. It's my first time as an adult owning 2 cats.
Fyi, I'm not at a point where I'm comfortable leaving them alone at night, but he's out almost all day. I watch them on a Wyze cam when I can't be in the room with them.
In the beginning, we had issues with Kirby "bullying" Sango. Basically, I think he just wanted to play with her but she was afraid of him. Maybe there was some territorial dispute because he was a recent neuter too.
After about a month of hissing at him and some timeouts, he stopped pouncing on her. Then, I noticed Sango pouncing on him A LOT. I found that he was hiding under a couch a ton while she waited to pounce him.
Move forward to today, she is still pouncing on Kirby a lot but now when she tries, he will swat her or stop her and rush at her. She swats him a lot too. A few nights ago, he kept circling around a cardboard box she was in and she kept swatting him. Finally he went and bit her scruff. It was quite alarming, but he didn't break skin.
I've also noticed that when she is on a window perch or the couch sleeping, he will excessively groom her to a point where she will leave her spot and he will take it. On a couple occasions, he again has bit her scruff. She never hisses or swats at him while he grooms, so is she just being submissive? She doesn't seem to like it and I tried to stop him, but he just stops temporarily and then starts grooming her again.
Should I be worried?
I have seen throughout the day that Sango is cordial with Kirby. When I let Kirby out in the morning, Sango typically rubs his face and whole body across him. He will also lick her face.
Is this just their way of working things out? Sometimes these pouncing/chases get really annoying and Sango jumps on the dining table/coffee table (despite cat furniture being right nearby). I do try to play with them, but I do work at home and it's not always possible with meetings, etc.
I guess I just need reassurance they are working things out. It's my first time as an adult owning 2 cats.
Fyi, I'm not at a point where I'm comfortable leaving them alone at night, but he's out almost all day. I watch them on a Wyze cam when I can't be in the room with them.
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