I have had a cat (4 years old) for about 3.5 years now and he means more to me than anything. He is my baby and I love him so much. Some kids found malnourished kittens in my neighborhood about a year ago and I took one in to foster. I fell in love with him and decided to keep him. He and my cat were constantly playing and spending time together and they loved each other. After a few months, I noticed some weird health problems so after taking him to the vet multiple times and getting an ultrasound for him, they told me he had congestive kidney failure likely due to poor genes. I kept him as comfortable as I could and tried to make him happy until his quality of life was too bad and I had to have him put down. A few months later, I considered getting another cat since my cat loved the kitten so much.
About 7 months ago, I adopted a cat (5 years old) and at first he and my other cat didn't get along but they became friendly with each other. The new cat is perfectly lovable and his foster mom was telling me how cuddly and friendly he was and how he was such a loving cat. I have never experienced that with him. She said he loved other cats and was always spending time with them and snuggling them. He usually hides all day until it is time to eat and never wants attention when I try to pet him or play with him. I'm worried that he isn't that happy living here. I have tried to make him happy but he and I just haven't clicked. He also seems to have less patience with my other cat now. When my first cat tries to play with him, he usually gets irritated and starts hissing and howling and pinning his ears back.
I fostered some kittens a little bit ago until they could find a home. My cats were very patient and playful with them and they both did great. My newer cat seemed to like them more than he likes my original cat. I immediately fell in love with each of foster kittens. It broke my heart to give them away but I knew that it would be best for them. I usually feel a connection to animals very quickly like this but I still don't feel that with my newer cat. The thought of rehoming the foster kittens was worse for me than the thought of rehoming him. When I thought of rehoming him it was almost more of a relief to me and I felt very guilty about that.
I have tried to give our relationship more time because I know that it was a big change for him when he came to live with me. I feel like we should have connected with each other more by now though. He has no behavioral problems and he's a good cat but we just don't really click. I am worried that he is not happy here because of how he acts here compared to his foster mom and how he and my original cat are no longer getting along too well. I am feeling like he may be happier in a different home but I am also worried that he would feel like I abandoned him. I adopted him from a great organization and they would take him back so he would go to a great home. However, the thought of rehoming a cat just because he isn't what I expected and because we don't click makes me feel very guilty.
I am just curious if anybody else has ever experienced anything like this or has any advice for me. I want him to be happy and I want to do the right thing. He had a rough life before he came here and I don't want to bounce him around from home to home too much but I think he may be happier elsewhere. Sorry for the long post but I just hope somebody can help me out. Any advice would be great. Thanks.
About 7 months ago, I adopted a cat (5 years old) and at first he and my other cat didn't get along but they became friendly with each other. The new cat is perfectly lovable and his foster mom was telling me how cuddly and friendly he was and how he was such a loving cat. I have never experienced that with him. She said he loved other cats and was always spending time with them and snuggling them. He usually hides all day until it is time to eat and never wants attention when I try to pet him or play with him. I'm worried that he isn't that happy living here. I have tried to make him happy but he and I just haven't clicked. He also seems to have less patience with my other cat now. When my first cat tries to play with him, he usually gets irritated and starts hissing and howling and pinning his ears back.
I fostered some kittens a little bit ago until they could find a home. My cats were very patient and playful with them and they both did great. My newer cat seemed to like them more than he likes my original cat. I immediately fell in love with each of foster kittens. It broke my heart to give them away but I knew that it would be best for them. I usually feel a connection to animals very quickly like this but I still don't feel that with my newer cat. The thought of rehoming the foster kittens was worse for me than the thought of rehoming him. When I thought of rehoming him it was almost more of a relief to me and I felt very guilty about that.
I have tried to give our relationship more time because I know that it was a big change for him when he came to live with me. I feel like we should have connected with each other more by now though. He has no behavioral problems and he's a good cat but we just don't really click. I am worried that he is not happy here because of how he acts here compared to his foster mom and how he and my original cat are no longer getting along too well. I am feeling like he may be happier in a different home but I am also worried that he would feel like I abandoned him. I adopted him from a great organization and they would take him back so he would go to a great home. However, the thought of rehoming a cat just because he isn't what I expected and because we don't click makes me feel very guilty.
I am just curious if anybody else has ever experienced anything like this or has any advice for me. I want him to be happy and I want to do the right thing. He had a rough life before he came here and I don't want to bounce him around from home to home too much but I think he may be happier elsewhere. Sorry for the long post but I just hope somebody can help me out. Any advice would be great. Thanks.
