My cat, Josie, has been doing a lot of scratching about her ears and twitching of her ears for several weeks coinciding with the arrival of a newly adopted cat, Bailey. She also lost some hair behind her ears, which appears to be starting to grow back in the last 7-10 days or so. I figured it was stress based on their relationship, but I took Josie in to the vet today to get her checked out. It wasn't the vet that I usually see but another vet in the same office. I told her about the stress Josie is under and expressed my concerns with Bailey's behavior as the cause, but I wanted to be sure she didn't have ear mites or something else. She didn't seem to care about the stress Bailey is causing Josie. She did see some irritation and inflammation in the ears, especially the left one. She mentioned possible allergies, which have never been an issue before, and said it will be getting colder soon so that should help (?). She offered drops for her ears (that's going to be interesting as Josie has resisted like crazy and prevailed thus far today - she had ear mites a year and a half ago and apparently remembers the process of getting the drops). The vet did not think she had ear mites and didn't take a specimen. I didn't really think she had ear mites. Then at the end of the appointment she noticed they don't have Josie's microchip number in the computer, but they have Bailey's. I don't know why they don't have it. They should. So she scanned her and says, hmm, her temperature (which the scanner read) is 103.4. The vet says, it must just be elevated from the stress of being at the vet office. Shouldn't she have taken her temperature rectally as part of the exam instead of incidentally to get her chip number? Shouldn't it be part of the overall health picture, not shrugged off? As far as Josie's stress, she suggested I lock Josie in a room part of the day to give her a break from Bailey. Or get diffusers to alter Josie's mood. Josie was a well-adjusted, happy, peaceful cat before Bailey came. I am trying to make the situation work, but this vet put all the onus on Josie without a single question or remark about Bailey - other than suggesting I get Bailey more toys she can play with alone (I have spent a mint already and that doesn't work with a cat like Bailey). I'm just concerned that this vet doesn't care about Josie's current health situation. Am I just being overprotective? Overly concerned?