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hi everyone,
I wondering if anybody could share any knowledge advice about my current situation. My boy cat, Ziggy, recently had a urianry blockage that the vet felt was brought on by stress. It's taken a while as he had complications, but he is now back to full health thankfully and is on both cystophan and urinary food (wet only).
Problem is, I am having ongoing problems in the relationship between him and his sister. They are littermates, a boy and a girl, who have just turned two, both neutered. We have had them since they were kittens, and are indoor cats. They've never really bonded - they don't sleep together, groom each other or rub against each other. They do follow each other to other parts of the house, sometimes sit on the window sill together, but that is really the extent of their interaction.
They have always had disagreements but recently it has got worse. If they are awake and in the same room, my boy (Ziggy) follows her, walks towards her, swipes at her until she runs and then he chases her. Relentlessly. She hisses as soon as he begins to approach. If she runs and he catches her, she howls and growls and spits, and recently, tufts of her hair have been pulled out by him.
EDIT - it's not actually they entire time they are awake. Sometimes they will be together in harmony, for example if an interactive toy in on, or if they find a bug or something to look at. And they sleep in the same room. But it's at least a few hours in the morning, and a few hours again in the evening where it's constant.
For the past year, I've just assumed that he wants to play, and that she doesn't. But it's starting to feel like it's not as playful and innocent as I'd like to think. He has become more relentless and obsessive in his stalking/chasing/approaching, and if awake, will not leave her alone. He never growls or hisses at her, just constantly enters her personal space and waits for her to run so he can pounce.
I've set up a whole separate area in another part of the house where Ziggy is now shut in at night with litter tray and his food and beds etc, but during the day they want to both be in the same room with us. But this is leading to our girl (Molly) hissing maybe 20 times a day, and growling maybe two or three times.
I feel like I've tried everything - feliway (3 of them), zylkene, play sessions, which work to distract him but as soon as you put the toy down he's stalking and chasing again. We've got two cat trees, multiple cardboard boxes and also a huge shelving unit that she could escape to, but it's not helping.
I ask completely reintroduced them over about 4 weeks as Ziggy had to be serperated anyway when he was recovering from being cathatarised. They were better temporarily, but it's not got worse again.
It's been dominating my life for well over a year now, having to play constantly while they are awake to just keep the peace.
I guess I've got a few questions that I'm hoping you guys with experience will be able to help me with.
1. Is he actually being aggressive? I'm starting to think he's being territorial and not just "wanting to play" like I've been telling myself for the past year.
2. Short of separating them when unsupervised, is there anything else I can try? Due to the number of incidents a day now, and also signs her fur is being pulled out if he gets hold of her, I don't trust leaving them alone together.
3. Would they both be happier as only cats? I'm starting to make the very sad realisation that probably, both of them are stressed. And given his urianry promlems, stress is not good for him.
Thanks so much if you've read this far, sorry it is so long. I've been crying for days wondering if the kindest thing would be to find one of them a new home, but I'd really appreciate it other people's opinions before making that agonising decision.
I wondering if anybody could share any knowledge advice about my current situation. My boy cat, Ziggy, recently had a urianry blockage that the vet felt was brought on by stress. It's taken a while as he had complications, but he is now back to full health thankfully and is on both cystophan and urinary food (wet only).
Problem is, I am having ongoing problems in the relationship between him and his sister. They are littermates, a boy and a girl, who have just turned two, both neutered. We have had them since they were kittens, and are indoor cats. They've never really bonded - they don't sleep together, groom each other or rub against each other. They do follow each other to other parts of the house, sometimes sit on the window sill together, but that is really the extent of their interaction.
They have always had disagreements but recently it has got worse. If they are awake and in the same room, my boy (Ziggy) follows her, walks towards her, swipes at her until she runs and then he chases her. Relentlessly. She hisses as soon as he begins to approach. If she runs and he catches her, she howls and growls and spits, and recently, tufts of her hair have been pulled out by him.
EDIT - it's not actually they entire time they are awake. Sometimes they will be together in harmony, for example if an interactive toy in on, or if they find a bug or something to look at. And they sleep in the same room. But it's at least a few hours in the morning, and a few hours again in the evening where it's constant.
For the past year, I've just assumed that he wants to play, and that she doesn't. But it's starting to feel like it's not as playful and innocent as I'd like to think. He has become more relentless and obsessive in his stalking/chasing/approaching, and if awake, will not leave her alone. He never growls or hisses at her, just constantly enters her personal space and waits for her to run so he can pounce.
I've set up a whole separate area in another part of the house where Ziggy is now shut in at night with litter tray and his food and beds etc, but during the day they want to both be in the same room with us. But this is leading to our girl (Molly) hissing maybe 20 times a day, and growling maybe two or three times.
I feel like I've tried everything - feliway (3 of them), zylkene, play sessions, which work to distract him but as soon as you put the toy down he's stalking and chasing again. We've got two cat trees, multiple cardboard boxes and also a huge shelving unit that she could escape to, but it's not helping.
I ask completely reintroduced them over about 4 weeks as Ziggy had to be serperated anyway when he was recovering from being cathatarised. They were better temporarily, but it's not got worse again.
It's been dominating my life for well over a year now, having to play constantly while they are awake to just keep the peace.
I guess I've got a few questions that I'm hoping you guys with experience will be able to help me with.
1. Is he actually being aggressive? I'm starting to think he's being territorial and not just "wanting to play" like I've been telling myself for the past year.
2. Short of separating them when unsupervised, is there anything else I can try? Due to the number of incidents a day now, and also signs her fur is being pulled out if he gets hold of her, I don't trust leaving them alone together.
3. Would they both be happier as only cats? I'm starting to make the very sad realisation that probably, both of them are stressed. And given his urianry promlems, stress is not good for him.
Thanks so much if you've read this far, sorry it is so long. I've been crying for days wondering if the kindest thing would be to find one of them a new home, but I'd really appreciate it other people's opinions before making that agonising decision.
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