So I previously posted about this issue but after thinking about it more I think she is for some reason afraid of my boyfriend who stays with me a couple nights every week.
Timeline of events:
I am now scared to have him at my apartment because I don't either one of us to continue getting hurt. I have tried pheromones but those obviously didn't help. My ex boyfriend and his dog lived with me for a while and she was fine with both of them and never once got aggressive like this with us.
I am hoping to find a way to make her like him again so that they can both feel comfortable around each other. She used to give him more attention than me and two nights ago slept the entire night on his lap.
Would leaving some of his clothes out with his scent out help her feel better? Or a voice recording of his voice? I am willing to try literally anything because they both mean a lot to me. My cat is like my child. <3 She was always the most friendly cat, always cuddling up to anyone who would visit, greeting people at the door, sitting on a strangers lap the second they're introduced. I am thinking maybe she got really scared when he held her down and so she's still on edge sometimes around him? But it is so random when she is provoked.
Thanks in advance!!
Timeline of events:
- We started dating three months ago (I was living in a different apartment)
- They never experienced any issues, we stayed at each others apartments every few nights (we were together at my old apartment for about a month)
- I moved in April to a new apartment (my cat Whiz has moved almost every year with me)
- He moved home with his parents (who have 2 dogs and 2 cats) April 25
- He stayed with me a few nights every week in my new apartment since then with no issues
- The weekend of May 8th (two weeks after moving) he ran over her to grab something and it startled her and she attacked both him and me
- When she attacked me, she kept clawing my legs and I was bleeding so bad he came up to her and grabbed her down so that I could run to my room. He ran to my room and followed me and we stayed in there for a few hours. She was growling at the door the entire time.
- The next day we came out and she was on and off nice, she would come up and lay on our laps but one quick move (like going up to go to bathroom too fast) would cause her to attack again
- He left, and then she went back to completely normal, was with me nonstop, let me clip her paws, etc
- He came the next weekend and there were no issues, she slept with us and her behavior was great
- Now this weekend, he ran to the bathroom (ran past her) and this must have spooked her again and she attacked him and then me and was growling and seeking us out like pray
- We hid in my room for 3 hours but every time we would try and leave slowly out of the room shed run up and attack his, hissing and growling again
- This morning I made him stay in my room while I played with her all morning and she let me hold her, pet her, etc
- The second he left my room to go to the bathroom she ran up to him and attacked him and I kept still when he went back into my room so she came up to me and attacked me (she just got me once this time and sat there and stared at me while I kept still until she finally walked away ten minutes later)
I am now scared to have him at my apartment because I don't either one of us to continue getting hurt. I have tried pheromones but those obviously didn't help. My ex boyfriend and his dog lived with me for a while and she was fine with both of them and never once got aggressive like this with us.
I am hoping to find a way to make her like him again so that they can both feel comfortable around each other. She used to give him more attention than me and two nights ago slept the entire night on his lap.
Would leaving some of his clothes out with his scent out help her feel better? Or a voice recording of his voice? I am willing to try literally anything because they both mean a lot to me. My cat is like my child. <3 She was always the most friendly cat, always cuddling up to anyone who would visit, greeting people at the door, sitting on a strangers lap the second they're introduced. I am thinking maybe she got really scared when he held her down and so she's still on edge sometimes around him? But it is so random when she is provoked.
Thanks in advance!!