Hello, I’m desperate for help so advice greatly appreciated.
I have 2 cats, 3 years old, brother and sister. He is great, she is more difficult. She is tiny. Only 2kg and is terrified of everything. We moved house a year ago and she seems to really like it here as we have a huge field and woods at the back. Winter was fine, but summer has been awful. We have a cat flap, so she goes out then doesn’t come home for days. We go over to the woods and call her and she calls back, but won’t come home or let herself be seen. We have also tried not calling her and leaving her to it, but she stayed out for 3 days that time. It seems like if anyone else is around she won’t come home as she is too scared. There are often men fishing, our neighbours or farmers around. When she comes home it’s normally 3/4am a few days later. It’s got longer and longer each time though.
This only started when it got really warm this summer.
Now you might think, she is fine, leave her to it. But when she comes home she is so distressed, hungry and thirsty and jumpy
We have kept her in this time as I cannot handle the stress. I’m 6 months pregnant with a lot of anxiety. She hates being in and occasionally wees on the carpet. She cries to go out and it’s hard to keep her in. I cannot stand the thought of losing her at the moment. I love her too much and can’t handle the upset.
I don’t know what is the kindest thing to do for me and her?
We have tried letting her out only a little but before meals, but once she is gone she is gone for days!
Any thoughts?
I have 2 cats, 3 years old, brother and sister. He is great, she is more difficult. She is tiny. Only 2kg and is terrified of everything. We moved house a year ago and she seems to really like it here as we have a huge field and woods at the back. Winter was fine, but summer has been awful. We have a cat flap, so she goes out then doesn’t come home for days. We go over to the woods and call her and she calls back, but won’t come home or let herself be seen. We have also tried not calling her and leaving her to it, but she stayed out for 3 days that time. It seems like if anyone else is around she won’t come home as she is too scared. There are often men fishing, our neighbours or farmers around. When she comes home it’s normally 3/4am a few days later. It’s got longer and longer each time though.
This only started when it got really warm this summer.
Now you might think, she is fine, leave her to it. But when she comes home she is so distressed, hungry and thirsty and jumpy
We have kept her in this time as I cannot handle the stress. I’m 6 months pregnant with a lot of anxiety. She hates being in and occasionally wees on the carpet. She cries to go out and it’s hard to keep her in. I cannot stand the thought of losing her at the moment. I love her too much and can’t handle the upset.
I don’t know what is the kindest thing to do for me and her?
We have tried letting her out only a little but before meals, but once she is gone she is gone for days!
Any thoughts?