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We've watched her very carefully since she started the shredding but she will spit out even the tiniest fiber of paper, so we're not too concerned - we will always keep an eye on this though.Yes, just make sure that K does not actually 'eat' the paper.
You can't see it in the photo I posted but the gate is four feet tall. I don't think she could jump it just standing, and then from a higher step I think the jump is too far for her. I'm mostly concerned about her hurting herself with an attempt.Yes, I do think that T will jump that gate, or at least try to.
What was the problem with K running at the gate?
I'm not following, why you are discouraging K from doing this?
I guess both you and calico have said that it's normal and not really an issue that K does this running and pawing, but my impression was that it's still considered negative, which is not something we should encourage. Should I instead be allowing this to happen without interference?But can you tell me more, about your fear of K....running up to the gate.?
Or how K acts when she does this?
I know you mentioned that K hits with both paws at the gate, and scares T,....but then you said that T comes back.
(I must have missed reading something, somewhere. I'll look back.)
I'm not following why you had to block it off, after that moment of both cats being able to sleep near each other?
Well, before, K would be crouched at the gate or maybe walking nearby, and if she felt more anxious or tense for some reason she would suddenly close the gap between them and paw at the wire (like "lightning"). She would do it so that T would react, then K would leave immediately.
But now, she's running from much farther away to get to the gate, decisively and purposefully. Usually she's running past me to do it (like I am already interacting with her in some way). And if I don't get up or say anything, she stays at the gate, staring at T. But I don't know how it would play out, because I do still come over to interrupt every time, even if it's a few seconds late.
It just doesn't read as playful to me but I'm not very familiar with cats, obviously, and I guess K has never really exhibited "cute happy playful" vibes even when playing normally with us. She never looks like she's having fun, it's like she's asking us to annoy her with toys so that she can take her aggression out on them. Same with her scratching pads - she looks like she's mad at them instead of scratching for enjoyment or anything.
T on the other hand does actually seem playful a lot of the time. So maybe K's style of playing just looks aggressive to me?
"Stuck" just meaning no clear progress towards a next step.Do you mean 'stuck'....with gates up all the time? Or do you mean stuck with something else?
I'm not understanding where the 'stuck' feeling is coming from?
Because K was avoiding T until we brought the gate down to its current location, we've been "stuck" at this step (face-to-face with gate blocking) for what seems like forever - I know it's not though!
Progress report: Took away the barrier since my partner came home and we have two people now to keep an eye on things.
T was lying down, K walked over and sat down, watching her calmly. I gave them a few treats each, then walked away.
K then went cautiously up close to the gate, crouched a bit low, tail not up but not down (middle?) and just looked at T for about ten seconds. T stayed lying down and looked back calmly for once (usually she is fidgety and excited), then K turned around to leave.
I gave her an extra treat after that.