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Hello everyone,
I turn to this forum completely hopeless as I really do not know what else to do anymore.
Me and my partner adopted an 11 weeks old kitten in November and from the very beginning he was separated from my adult cat (3 years old). There was no noises from either of them and they could eat at opposite sides of the door straightaway, even with the door slightly open so they could see each other. My partner fitted this gate so both cats could interact without being able to touch, Cosmos (adult cat) did not make any noises then either but he became a bit obsessed with observing the kitten from the other side of the gate and adopting what I would describe a predatory bodily posture (like he was about to jump) but ears weren't backwards however his pupils were mega dilated and he was definitely not relaxed. They started engaging in what we thought was playing, the kitten coming close to the gate then running off then Cosmos doing the same but because he is a BIG (6 kg) cat he is very rough so when he ran towards the gate he would sort of hit it and make an awful lot of noise. However then he started trying to bite the kitten's paws through the gate especially when the kitten trying to engage in play with him by trying to hit him!
I was very strict with interactions and made sure everythjng was followed perfectly. We then moved to a full on interaction when Cosmos behaviour through the gate relaxed (Cosmos would sleep next to the kitten with the gate separating them) however due to safety reasons (the kitten being way too small and Cosmos being massive) we decided to put Cosmos on a lead which he does tolerate. This was very problematic, Cosmos just looks like he sees the kitten as prey, constantly adopting that predatory posture and wanting to chase off the kitten (even on a lead!). He handles a max amount of 30 mins without any chasing or tense bodily position. We are currently trying jntroductions without the lead as I was told maybe this was stressing him but this was way worse, it does not even last 2 minutes - Cosmos jumps off the cat tower and chases the kitten out of the room until the kitten hides under the bed, a few days ago the kitten actually screamed but he didn't have any scratches so I do not think Cosmos caught him while chqsing him but atill really concerning!
Any ideas? I just seriously don't know what's wrong with my cat, he is such a loving cat and he did live with my family cat (before I moved out) for two years so this is very strange!
Also feliway nor rescue remedy appear to help but we are now trying a mix of bach flowers for Cosmos.
Oh and Cosmos used to cuddle me every day and now he doesn't, not at all. I'm just really sad about this whole thing and would really appreciate some help
I turn to this forum completely hopeless as I really do not know what else to do anymore.
Me and my partner adopted an 11 weeks old kitten in November and from the very beginning he was separated from my adult cat (3 years old). There was no noises from either of them and they could eat at opposite sides of the door straightaway, even with the door slightly open so they could see each other. My partner fitted this gate so both cats could interact without being able to touch, Cosmos (adult cat) did not make any noises then either but he became a bit obsessed with observing the kitten from the other side of the gate and adopting what I would describe a predatory bodily posture (like he was about to jump) but ears weren't backwards however his pupils were mega dilated and he was definitely not relaxed. They started engaging in what we thought was playing, the kitten coming close to the gate then running off then Cosmos doing the same but because he is a BIG (6 kg) cat he is very rough so when he ran towards the gate he would sort of hit it and make an awful lot of noise. However then he started trying to bite the kitten's paws through the gate especially when the kitten trying to engage in play with him by trying to hit him!
I was very strict with interactions and made sure everythjng was followed perfectly. We then moved to a full on interaction when Cosmos behaviour through the gate relaxed (Cosmos would sleep next to the kitten with the gate separating them) however due to safety reasons (the kitten being way too small and Cosmos being massive) we decided to put Cosmos on a lead which he does tolerate. This was very problematic, Cosmos just looks like he sees the kitten as prey, constantly adopting that predatory posture and wanting to chase off the kitten (even on a lead!). He handles a max amount of 30 mins without any chasing or tense bodily position. We are currently trying jntroductions without the lead as I was told maybe this was stressing him but this was way worse, it does not even last 2 minutes - Cosmos jumps off the cat tower and chases the kitten out of the room until the kitten hides under the bed, a few days ago the kitten actually screamed but he didn't have any scratches so I do not think Cosmos caught him while chqsing him but atill really concerning!
Any ideas? I just seriously don't know what's wrong with my cat, he is such a loving cat and he did live with my family cat (before I moved out) for two years so this is very strange!
Also feliway nor rescue remedy appear to help but we are now trying a mix of bach flowers for Cosmos.
Oh and Cosmos used to cuddle me every day and now he doesn't, not at all. I'm just really sad about this whole thing and would really appreciate some help