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hello cat people! I'm hoping for a bit of advice in regards to next steps my gf and I can take in intro-ing our cats. here's the story:
We moved in together in September, almost three months ago now. I was already living in this house with my 2.5 y/o calico Legs for about 8 months. I moved into the master bedroom with my girlfriend and her 9 y/o black cat Coca. We started with just keeping them separate, Legs had the whole house and Coca the bedroom, and then we built basically a kitty gate at the door with window screen material once they were able to feed on either side of the closed door. We've been at this screen door stage since mid-september and can't seem to get passed it. Here are some more details:
When we feed them on either side of the door, they eat, sometimes coca throws out a hiss or a growl, and then they go their separate ways.
So far, playing with them seems to upset either of the cats who can only focus on the other playing.
Legs is not a very cuddly cat and loving on her is difficult because she often doesn't want it!
Legs is an indoor/outdoor cat and will often jump onto the balcony attached to our room that will scare Coca and prompt a fight through the glass door, Coca yelling and scratching the door, Legs biting the door, etc.
Coca is an indoor cat and is pretty lazy. She seems to be scared but also the aggressor? Legs is a silent aggressor it seems.
They have accidentally been let into the same room before by annoyingly negligent housemates, which ensued a full-fledged kitty show down that was very scary (this happened ~3times in total). Neither walked away with any marks, but were thoroughly shaken up.
We tried switching the cats a few times to have Legs in the room and Coca about the house: however one time about early October, Legs peed in the closet and erupted a full on marking war. Now we use no spray spray and it seems to work ok, but Coca will mark whenever the spray wears off, and the other night she even pooped instead right by the door.
PLEASE HELP US. We are at our wits' ends but don't want to give up either of our beloved cats. We're also hoping to move soon- would this be helpful or hurtful?
We moved in together in September, almost three months ago now. I was already living in this house with my 2.5 y/o calico Legs for about 8 months. I moved into the master bedroom with my girlfriend and her 9 y/o black cat Coca. We started with just keeping them separate, Legs had the whole house and Coca the bedroom, and then we built basically a kitty gate at the door with window screen material once they were able to feed on either side of the closed door. We've been at this screen door stage since mid-september and can't seem to get passed it. Here are some more details:
When we feed them on either side of the door, they eat, sometimes coca throws out a hiss or a growl, and then they go their separate ways.
So far, playing with them seems to upset either of the cats who can only focus on the other playing.
Legs is not a very cuddly cat and loving on her is difficult because she often doesn't want it!
Legs is an indoor/outdoor cat and will often jump onto the balcony attached to our room that will scare Coca and prompt a fight through the glass door, Coca yelling and scratching the door, Legs biting the door, etc.
Coca is an indoor cat and is pretty lazy. She seems to be scared but also the aggressor? Legs is a silent aggressor it seems.
They have accidentally been let into the same room before by annoyingly negligent housemates, which ensued a full-fledged kitty show down that was very scary (this happened ~3times in total). Neither walked away with any marks, but were thoroughly shaken up.
We tried switching the cats a few times to have Legs in the room and Coca about the house: however one time about early October, Legs peed in the closet and erupted a full on marking war. Now we use no spray spray and it seems to work ok, but Coca will mark whenever the spray wears off, and the other night she even pooped instead right by the door.
PLEASE HELP US. We are at our wits' ends but don't want to give up either of our beloved cats. We're also hoping to move soon- would this be helpful or hurtful?