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I have a 8 month old grey tabby kitten named Bob. He has always been around a multitude of roommates since I got him (changed living situations about 2 months into having him. I adopted him at 3 months). He is a generally friendly and social kitten. He used to sit on my lap every evening while I ate dinner and would snuggle up to me in bed or sleep under and around it. But I went away for 7 days and since I retuned, Bob has basically stopped wanting to do anything with me once my roommate Martin gets home. When I was gone, I set out enough food for him for seven days and my roommate only had to clean his litter (which he didn't really do) and check his water. Bob did not even go through half the food so there was more than enough. Apparently Martin did not play with him much (he gets home late) either. Bob has always liked Martin's room the best because it stays dark and cooler than the other rooms in the house and there are lots of places to hide. When Martin spends weekends at his girlfiends, I crash in his room (because I am in a loft space, so sometimes having a door is nice) and Bob will sleep with me. But my roommate does not let Bob stay in his room at night.
Anyway, seven days I went away and now Bob will only play with me and let me pet him when I get home from work (I'm usually the first and the cat is starved of attention all day because all four of my roomates work). The other two roommates pay no attention to Bob and Bob seems to ignore them completely. But Bob has become obsessed with Martin. Literally, I picked him up to give him a treat this evening and then Martin walked in, the cat whined like I had tortured it and ran up to Martin and follows him around all night. This is despite me feeding him, playing with him, etc. Even while I was gone, Martin did none of these things. Are cats really this fickle?
Bob has also started becoming an extremely picky eater and whines at Martin's door all night. Luckily, turning the vaccuum on near him seems to have solved this for the time being.
Honestly, I am getting quite frustrated with this dynamic. I put alot of time into taking care of Bob and he has essentially abandoned me. I really don't have the time/money to shower the cat with fancy food and attention all night long to win it's love back. I will keep playing with him and feeding him and cleaning the box in the same manner I always have but it's pretty heartbreaking when he could not care less. Once he is fed, btw, I'm pretty much dead to him. If I get any sort of awknowledgement at all, it is because Martin is not home or Bob is hungry.
This is my first cat, so I apologize for the vent. I know I am being petty and I should grow up and understand that this is the way it is for animals sometimes (except dogs). But I wonder if I am doing something wrong? Ignoring Bob back does nothing... he will just ignore me more in return (as evidenced by how he treats the other two roommates).
I have a 8 month old grey tabby kitten named Bob. He has always been around a multitude of roommates since I got him (changed living situations about 2 months into having him. I adopted him at 3 months). He is a generally friendly and social kitten. He used to sit on my lap every evening while I ate dinner and would snuggle up to me in bed or sleep under and around it. But I went away for 7 days and since I retuned, Bob has basically stopped wanting to do anything with me once my roommate Martin gets home. When I was gone, I set out enough food for him for seven days and my roommate only had to clean his litter (which he didn't really do) and check his water. Bob did not even go through half the food so there was more than enough. Apparently Martin did not play with him much (he gets home late) either. Bob has always liked Martin's room the best because it stays dark and cooler than the other rooms in the house and there are lots of places to hide. When Martin spends weekends at his girlfiends, I crash in his room (because I am in a loft space, so sometimes having a door is nice) and Bob will sleep with me. But my roommate does not let Bob stay in his room at night.
Anyway, seven days I went away and now Bob will only play with me and let me pet him when I get home from work (I'm usually the first and the cat is starved of attention all day because all four of my roomates work). The other two roommates pay no attention to Bob and Bob seems to ignore them completely. But Bob has become obsessed with Martin. Literally, I picked him up to give him a treat this evening and then Martin walked in, the cat whined like I had tortured it and ran up to Martin and follows him around all night. This is despite me feeding him, playing with him, etc. Even while I was gone, Martin did none of these things. Are cats really this fickle?
Bob has also started becoming an extremely picky eater and whines at Martin's door all night. Luckily, turning the vaccuum on near him seems to have solved this for the time being.
Honestly, I am getting quite frustrated with this dynamic. I put alot of time into taking care of Bob and he has essentially abandoned me. I really don't have the time/money to shower the cat with fancy food and attention all night long to win it's love back. I will keep playing with him and feeding him and cleaning the box in the same manner I always have but it's pretty heartbreaking when he could not care less. Once he is fed, btw, I'm pretty much dead to him. If I get any sort of awknowledgement at all, it is because Martin is not home or Bob is hungry.
This is my first cat, so I apologize for the vent. I know I am being petty and I should grow up and understand that this is the way it is for animals sometimes (except dogs). But I wonder if I am doing something wrong? Ignoring Bob back does nothing... he will just ignore me more in return (as evidenced by how he treats the other two roommates).