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I lost my sweet dear Max 2 weeks ago. And I have been devistated.
I know cats also grieve. But Pepsi, Max’ brother seemed fine the first week. The last couple of nights and days he have started to meow a whole lot more than usual.
He has always wanted my attention. Standing beside the kitchen counter meowing, standing in front of the tv meowing, standing in front of my bedroom door meowing (when I am in the living room, not inside the bedroom). Normal behavious. But now its all the time.
He has also started to claw at my door at night, meowing, something he has only very rarely done.
I can imagine that he might be lonely, and miss his brother. But what to do? I try to shower him with love and attention. I don’t want him to be in my bedroom at night, since I sleep light, and will wake up screaming if something moves in the room or touches me or similar.
But its hard to hear him meow so much.
I have always imagined that he would like to be an only cat. He does not like other cats (his brother was fine, but not any other cat), and just the feeling I got from him, that he would be fine on his own. Maybe I was wrong. It feels too soon to get a new cat. Not sure if I want a second one, if I will be ready to accept one more into my life. But I also do worry about Pepsi.
Is it good to just let him meow, and not give him attention? To teach him that it wont make anything happen? Or should I go out to him at night when he is at the door? Like right now. I have given him the normal good night kisses and routine, but it breaks my heart to hear him like this.
I know cats also grieve. But Pepsi, Max’ brother seemed fine the first week. The last couple of nights and days he have started to meow a whole lot more than usual.
He has always wanted my attention. Standing beside the kitchen counter meowing, standing in front of the tv meowing, standing in front of my bedroom door meowing (when I am in the living room, not inside the bedroom). Normal behavious. But now its all the time.
He has also started to claw at my door at night, meowing, something he has only very rarely done.
I can imagine that he might be lonely, and miss his brother. But what to do? I try to shower him with love and attention. I don’t want him to be in my bedroom at night, since I sleep light, and will wake up screaming if something moves in the room or touches me or similar.
But its hard to hear him meow so much.
I have always imagined that he would like to be an only cat. He does not like other cats (his brother was fine, but not any other cat), and just the feeling I got from him, that he would be fine on his own. Maybe I was wrong. It feels too soon to get a new cat. Not sure if I want a second one, if I will be ready to accept one more into my life. But I also do worry about Pepsi.
Is it good to just let him meow, and not give him attention? To teach him that it wont make anything happen? Or should I go out to him at night when he is at the door? Like right now. I have given him the normal good night kisses and routine, but it breaks my heart to hear him like this.
I really do hope it will get better for him. I am planning to start to get rid of stuff thats still got Max all over it (he was a very hairy cat). But smalls steps to not make too many changes at once.
