Hey all, I’m having some MAJOR issues with my two indoor cats. Here’s some background info to paint a better picture...
5 years ago I had a cat named Roger, best pet I’ve ever had. My roommate at the time had a cat that was about a year or two old and he and Rog got along great together. A year later I moved out and Roger became an only child. He would meow A LOT, and scratch everything he could get his hands on. Fast forward another year and I moved in with my boyfriend who has a cat named Mama and a dog. Roger and Mama tolerated each other but Roger continued scratching and ruining the furniture and in a Very stressful time in my life I gave Roger away. I still cry about it 5 years later-sore subject.
ANYWAYS Mama is around 6 years old and has been an only cat her whole life except that one month with roger. This past May, a friend of mine found some kittens and I decided to adopt one. Bruce was about 5 weeks old when he was found. I’d stay up feeding him at night when he cried, I’d try to handle him as much as I could, and he was kept in a safe room for about 2-3 weeks. The whole while hissing and spitting at me. The first two weeks were the hardest as he had worms and other parasites. Poor little guy had bloody diarrhea for the first month he came home. Did the whole slow intro thing with both cats constantly hissing but no physical contact.
Now Bruce is a healthy, neutered, playful teen cat. He has some serious aggressions issues. All day long he attacks Mama. It’s gotten so bad most nights I have to seperate them with a baby gate. He’s constantly biting me, even if he’s purring and laying on me he’ll just snap and attack me. My main worry is that we’ve ruined Mama’s quality of life by bringing him here. They get into some serious fights. He pounces on her out of nowhere. Ears back, hissing, growling, meowing it’s painful to hear. I should mention that we moved into a larger house this August but nothing has really changed they’re not fighting any less or more. Bruce does like to run out into the backyard when the door is open. More like an escape, he’ll run up the tree or hide in a bush. When left in a room more than 5 minutes Bruce will go ballistic and meow and scratch at the door until he’s let out. My fiancé has had enough and can’t stand him but I really want this to work. So I’m really looking for some advice on how to reintroduce these two cats without compromising my sanity.
Thanks in advance and sorry for the ridiculously long post. It’s my first time
5 years ago I had a cat named Roger, best pet I’ve ever had. My roommate at the time had a cat that was about a year or two old and he and Rog got along great together. A year later I moved out and Roger became an only child. He would meow A LOT, and scratch everything he could get his hands on. Fast forward another year and I moved in with my boyfriend who has a cat named Mama and a dog. Roger and Mama tolerated each other but Roger continued scratching and ruining the furniture and in a Very stressful time in my life I gave Roger away. I still cry about it 5 years later-sore subject.
ANYWAYS Mama is around 6 years old and has been an only cat her whole life except that one month with roger. This past May, a friend of mine found some kittens and I decided to adopt one. Bruce was about 5 weeks old when he was found. I’d stay up feeding him at night when he cried, I’d try to handle him as much as I could, and he was kept in a safe room for about 2-3 weeks. The whole while hissing and spitting at me. The first two weeks were the hardest as he had worms and other parasites. Poor little guy had bloody diarrhea for the first month he came home. Did the whole slow intro thing with both cats constantly hissing but no physical contact.
Now Bruce is a healthy, neutered, playful teen cat. He has some serious aggressions issues. All day long he attacks Mama. It’s gotten so bad most nights I have to seperate them with a baby gate. He’s constantly biting me, even if he’s purring and laying on me he’ll just snap and attack me. My main worry is that we’ve ruined Mama’s quality of life by bringing him here. They get into some serious fights. He pounces on her out of nowhere. Ears back, hissing, growling, meowing it’s painful to hear. I should mention that we moved into a larger house this August but nothing has really changed they’re not fighting any less or more. Bruce does like to run out into the backyard when the door is open. More like an escape, he’ll run up the tree or hide in a bush. When left in a room more than 5 minutes Bruce will go ballistic and meow and scratch at the door until he’s let out. My fiancé has had enough and can’t stand him but I really want this to work. So I’m really looking for some advice on how to reintroduce these two cats without compromising my sanity.
Thanks in advance and sorry for the ridiculously long post. It’s my first time
and welcome to TCS 
). The more you wear him out, the less likely he'll be to go after Mama - I suspect boredom is at the root of a lot of these attacks. 
