I don't think we're at the point where we throw in the towel and return the new cat to the rescue organization and declare our cat an only cat, but I fear that it is a possible outcome, given the time and progress we've had so far.
We're 3 weeks in, and for the last week Freya has basically run to the door to growl and hiss every time the new cat dares to meow (or squeek really.) We have a little saucer by the door that we keep adding a couple of treats to, to try and build positive associations (no she wont eat her wet food there, we've tried), and have for a week and a half now. At times she'll calm enough to eat them before going back to glaring/hissing/growling at the door. She's still very scared and angry, and yells when I try and handle her most of the time, and is generally disinclined to play. She growled at me by a food bowl because I smelled too much of the other cat today(I assume that is why), as well.
The other cat is doing well, but clearly is tired of being confined to her safe room day in and day out, but I feel like letting the other cat explore the living room would upset Freya so much that she'd avoid it ( and she's only started to be comfortable there again), not to mention how freaked out she'd be being confined during that.
it's all Freya really, the new cat seems totally zen about Freya sitting outside her door growling and hissing.
I won't say that there's been no progress at all. Freya will go out in the living room and lay in her favorite places, and she seems mostly calm ( if very standoffish) in the bedroom. She'll also play in the hall for a few seconds some times.
So, yes I'm venting and know patience often is the watchword, but by the same token we're going on a month and she's still not reached what many introduction guides would call day 1, so I have to wonder if I shouldn't at least start consider the possibility that it isn't going to work.
We're 3 weeks in, and for the last week Freya has basically run to the door to growl and hiss every time the new cat dares to meow (or squeek really.) We have a little saucer by the door that we keep adding a couple of treats to, to try and build positive associations (no she wont eat her wet food there, we've tried), and have for a week and a half now. At times she'll calm enough to eat them before going back to glaring/hissing/growling at the door. She's still very scared and angry, and yells when I try and handle her most of the time, and is generally disinclined to play. She growled at me by a food bowl because I smelled too much of the other cat today(I assume that is why), as well.
The other cat is doing well, but clearly is tired of being confined to her safe room day in and day out, but I feel like letting the other cat explore the living room would upset Freya so much that she'd avoid it ( and she's only started to be comfortable there again), not to mention how freaked out she'd be being confined during that.
it's all Freya really, the new cat seems totally zen about Freya sitting outside her door growling and hissing.
I won't say that there's been no progress at all. Freya will go out in the living room and lay in her favorite places, and she seems mostly calm ( if very standoffish) in the bedroom. She'll also play in the hall for a few seconds some times.
So, yes I'm venting and know patience often is the watchword, but by the same token we're going on a month and she's still not reached what many introduction guides would call day 1, so I have to wonder if I shouldn't at least start consider the possibility that it isn't going to work.