hello everyone. i am looking for some help and a sanity check with an issue i just can’t let go.
last week as a reward for my 2 daughters doing well with school i told them i would adopt 2 new kittens. we already have an old 18 yr cat but as my girls get older they want to play with one.
so i went to the shelter last friday and picked out a male and female kitten who looked like they were playing well together. brought them home and everyone was excited. kittens came out ok. started chasing each other around. noticed the male cat limping when walking. didn’t think too much of it at the time since he was neutered only 2 days ago. but then i looked at the medical history closer and saw “agl angular deformity”, then further down it said “amputation in the future”. my heart sank. first off nobody at the shelter mentioned this issue when i adopted him, which they should have. my wife and i tried to get a vet appointment that saturday or sunday but couldn’t. this kitten runs sprints plays fine. might not jump as high as normal but did jump and climb as well. felt the legs and no pain was evident. didn’t look like the kitten was in pain at all since it was such an active player. and of course we all started to bond. the 2 kittens were inseparable.
so yesterday AM (monday) i was finally able to bring him to the vet and the vet really didn’t say anything except the kitten’s knee was bigger than the other and he couldn’t tell what was going on without an x ray. he asked if the shelter took an x ray and i said i didn’t know. i can’t start a bottomless money pit with a kitten with special needs. i don’t have the resources and since this would be considered an abnormality, insurance wouldn’t cover it.
so i panicked, and brought the kitten right back to the shelter. my wife and kids were sad, but i think i am the one feeling the worst. i didn’t handle it well yesterday and i am not handling it well as i type this.
so today i go back to the shelter with my daughter to pick out another kitten. i am a still a wreck at this point and the kitten we returned saw us and i swear he knew it was us. came over the cage and put his paw up. my daughter saw him too. we looked at a kitten and picked another one out, all the while i could see my daughter looking at the one we returned. i got choked up again and asked my daughter to leave the room and asked the staff if i could speak to the vet and or counselor about the cat i returned. neither of them knew i was the one who returned him the day before. i told them i was and i just wanted to ask them some questions with the hopes they could help me understand what kind of future this kitten would have because of this abnormality. i mean, if all that we had to worry about was a kitten that would limp and grow up into a cat that would have a limp, we were ok with it. it’s the “future amputation” that had us spooked. would this abnormality eventually cause the loss of use of this limb? or would it grow up fine. Again, the kitten ran and played fine and had a fantastic personality. however the vet and staff weren’t really able to offer anything except to say any financial responsibly for diagnosing and treating this issue would be mine and they didn’t know if it would need to be amputated in the future. we ended up picking out a different kitten.
so now our new kitten is in its own room hiding on its first day with us in its new home and i can’t keep thinking what if i made the wrong decision. i can tell my kids are like “why won’t this kitten play like the one we brought back”. i can’t help thinking i should have kept the other kitten because everyone liked him, including the other female kitten we picked up. this is eating me up emotionally and i don’t know why. i can’t let it go, but i also cant start a kitten money pit.
just hoping someone can give some advice here and share some experiences. i am not one to give up so easily, and the vet and shelter haven’t been much help to me trying to make sense of all of this. something that should be making us all so happy is also bringing us sadness and i can’t help thinking it’s all my fault. that’s why it’s probably affecting me the worst. thats why i came to this site and posted my story. all comments welcome, even negative ones. thanks for reading.
last week as a reward for my 2 daughters doing well with school i told them i would adopt 2 new kittens. we already have an old 18 yr cat but as my girls get older they want to play with one.
so i went to the shelter last friday and picked out a male and female kitten who looked like they were playing well together. brought them home and everyone was excited. kittens came out ok. started chasing each other around. noticed the male cat limping when walking. didn’t think too much of it at the time since he was neutered only 2 days ago. but then i looked at the medical history closer and saw “agl angular deformity”, then further down it said “amputation in the future”. my heart sank. first off nobody at the shelter mentioned this issue when i adopted him, which they should have. my wife and i tried to get a vet appointment that saturday or sunday but couldn’t. this kitten runs sprints plays fine. might not jump as high as normal but did jump and climb as well. felt the legs and no pain was evident. didn’t look like the kitten was in pain at all since it was such an active player. and of course we all started to bond. the 2 kittens were inseparable.
so yesterday AM (monday) i was finally able to bring him to the vet and the vet really didn’t say anything except the kitten’s knee was bigger than the other and he couldn’t tell what was going on without an x ray. he asked if the shelter took an x ray and i said i didn’t know. i can’t start a bottomless money pit with a kitten with special needs. i don’t have the resources and since this would be considered an abnormality, insurance wouldn’t cover it.
so i panicked, and brought the kitten right back to the shelter. my wife and kids were sad, but i think i am the one feeling the worst. i didn’t handle it well yesterday and i am not handling it well as i type this.
so today i go back to the shelter with my daughter to pick out another kitten. i am a still a wreck at this point and the kitten we returned saw us and i swear he knew it was us. came over the cage and put his paw up. my daughter saw him too. we looked at a kitten and picked another one out, all the while i could see my daughter looking at the one we returned. i got choked up again and asked my daughter to leave the room and asked the staff if i could speak to the vet and or counselor about the cat i returned. neither of them knew i was the one who returned him the day before. i told them i was and i just wanted to ask them some questions with the hopes they could help me understand what kind of future this kitten would have because of this abnormality. i mean, if all that we had to worry about was a kitten that would limp and grow up into a cat that would have a limp, we were ok with it. it’s the “future amputation” that had us spooked. would this abnormality eventually cause the loss of use of this limb? or would it grow up fine. Again, the kitten ran and played fine and had a fantastic personality. however the vet and staff weren’t really able to offer anything except to say any financial responsibly for diagnosing and treating this issue would be mine and they didn’t know if it would need to be amputated in the future. we ended up picking out a different kitten.
so now our new kitten is in its own room hiding on its first day with us in its new home and i can’t keep thinking what if i made the wrong decision. i can tell my kids are like “why won’t this kitten play like the one we brought back”. i can’t help thinking i should have kept the other kitten because everyone liked him, including the other female kitten we picked up. this is eating me up emotionally and i don’t know why. i can’t let it go, but i also cant start a kitten money pit.
just hoping someone can give some advice here and share some experiences. i am not one to give up so easily, and the vet and shelter haven’t been much help to me trying to make sense of all of this. something that should be making us all so happy is also bringing us sadness and i can’t help thinking it’s all my fault. that’s why it’s probably affecting me the worst. thats why i came to this site and posted my story. all comments welcome, even negative ones. thanks for reading.