Am I good enough to be a cat foster parent?

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Mods, if this isn't the right place for my post, please let me know.

Some of you may remember that my cat Pumpkin, who I had for over 11 years, died nearly two months ago. The pain of losing him after having him for so long is still there but life is getting easier. Gradually.

When a nearby shelter director visited my home to pick up Pumpkin's left over food, litter etc I gave her my application for fostering and discussed at length what this process entails. This was about two weeks ago, at least. I suppose that I misunderstood some of what she told me the first time around. This afternoon I emailed her about a cat that is up for adoption, thinking that the shelter would help watch that cat should I get my hernia surgery that I've been waiting for. I was wrong. They don't do that for animals that are outright adopted, and they don't help with transportation to vet appointments unless they are foster cats.

I can manage the cost of veterinary care...food, litter and litter boxes, toys etc and I would love my next pet just as much as I loved my little boy. For some reason, it feels like this shelter doesn't think I'm good enough. Check out this copy of an email I got this evening, with the shelter name and potential pet name left out:


"Since we are foster-based, we keep animals until they are adopted. Typically we expect to have cats and dogs in our program for 2-3 months because we also follow up on any medical care they need. This could be as simple as updating vaccinations, or if they need spay/neuter or wound care, we’d have them under our care for much longer. We do not euthanized for space.

If you decide to adopt, you would be solely responsible for the animal. The ***** ****** does not provide transportation or pet-sitting services for animals that have been adopted. Vaccinations for cats are always rabies and distemper, and we provide copies of those records to every adopter.

***** is a really wonderful cat, but we have known her for almost 1.5 years now and she is not going to change. She has been in a long-term, loving environment where her boundaries are respected. We don’t mind, we understand that every animal has their own way in the world. I would not recommend ***** for you to adopt or even foster because your home is very small."


That really stings. The cat I wanted to adopt - according to their pet finder page - has been difficult to place because she apparently doesn't like affection from humans - I.e. petting, snuggles etc. I can respect that cat's boundaries because her description reminds me of what Pumpkin was like when I first got him. He didn't like to be held much at all at first, didn't like to be too close, etc - maybe because he had a rough life before I got him, As time went on, we bonded and were like peas and carrots in no time at all.

That cat's Pet Finder listing said the adoption fee was sponsored and I'm guessing it's because she is - according to their description of her - difficult to place.

Two issues remain - transportation - partly because I am in a wheelchair and partly because I have no car. We have lousy bus service and when I took Pumpkin for his vet appointments, the local bus company required two days' notice. The other bus company that took us to his heart checkup near Syracuse has a similar time frame. What would I do in a emergency?

And of course, who would watch the cat should I go in for surgery (or worse)?

If I foster, I wouldn't have to worry about any of that. If I adopt, then it would be harder. I say "harder" because of my transportation and health issues. But not impossible.

I thought about reaching out to my brother about a stray cat that hangs out at our father's property and needs to be adopted. From what he told me about her, she does not like to stay indoors but that is what I would require in order to adopt her. It's not safe to let an animal run loose, especially where I live.. I would need to make sure her health records and shots were up to date.

I thought that if I adopt that cat, I could move back to the village where my family is from because a new apartment complex is close to Pumpkin's vet. I wouldn't have to worry about transporting her at all to any appointments.

I don't know what to do. I am gutted. I really want to get another pet and it feels like they're telling me I am not good enough. Please give me your thoughts. Thank you.
 

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I would suggest a couple of things;

Don't take what the shelter has stated personally. Once animals are adopted, shelters/rescues aren't involved with their care. Get the operation taken care of and move back to the village. Then contact the shelter that you spoke with again and describe the changes you've undertaken, or talk more with your brother.
 

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I agree with Furballsmom Furballsmom you should take care of your surgery and possibly moving to be near family first. Shelters and rescues do not offer assistance in care once adopted. Many of the rescues on Petfinder have different missions, requirements and guidelines on who they will adopt out to compared to local county shelters. Once you get things settled you could go back to the shelter you mentioned above that is foster based
You might want to look at a local county shelter that does not foster. They can be more motivated to placed animals. The last cat I adopted was set to be euthanized due to space issues during kitten season in a busy county shelter. She is a wonderful cat.
Your brother may also may have some ideas
 
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Here's an update:

I emailed the shelter director to confirm if my application was approved or not and she said it was. I just need to wait for the right kitty. I wish the process wouldn't take so long. Having surgery is a priority but that is a long drawn-out process, much longer than this.

If I get anything new to report I will post it here. Thanks.
 

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Mods, if this isn't the right place for my post, please let me know.

Some of you may remember that my cat Pumpkin, who I had for over 11 years, died nearly two months ago. The pain of losing him after having him for so long is still there but life is getting easier. Gradually.

When a nearby shelter director visited my home to pick up Pumpkin's left over food, litter etc I gave her my application for fostering and discussed at length what this process entails. This was about two weeks ago, at least. I suppose that I misunderstood some of what she told me the first time around. This afternoon I emailed her about a cat that is up for adoption, thinking that the shelter would help watch that cat should I get my hernia surgery that I've been waiting for. I was wrong. They don't do that for animals that are outright adopted, and they don't help with transportation to vet appointments unless they are foster cats.

I can manage the cost of veterinary care...food, litter and litter boxes, toys etc and I would love my next pet just as much as I loved my little boy. For some reason, it feels like this shelter doesn't think I'm good enough. Check out this copy of an email I got this evening, with the shelter name and potential pet name left out:


"Since we are foster-based, we keep animals until they are adopted. Typically we expect to have cats and dogs in our program for 2-3 months because we also follow up on any medical care they need. This could be as simple as updating vaccinations, or if they need spay/neuter or wound care, we’d have them under our care for much longer. We do not euthanized for space.

If you decide to adopt, you would be solely responsible for the animal. The ***** ****** does not provide transportation or pet-sitting services for animals that have been adopted. Vaccinations for cats are always rabies and distemper, and we provide copies of those records to every adopter.

***** is a really wonderful cat, but we have known her for almost 1.5 years now and she is not going to change. She has been in a long-term, loving environment where her boundaries are respected. We don’t mind, we understand that every animal has their own way in the world. I would not recommend ***** for you to adopt or even foster because your home is very small."


That really stings. The cat I wanted to adopt - according to their pet finder page - has been difficult to place because she apparently doesn't like affection from humans - I.e. petting, snuggles etc. I can respect that cat's boundaries because her description reminds me of what Pumpkin was like when I first got him. He didn't like to be held much at all at first, didn't like to be too close, etc - maybe because he had a rough life before I got him, As time went on, we bonded and were like peas and carrots in no time at all.

That cat's Pet Finder listing said the adoption fee was sponsored and I'm guessing it's because she is - according to their description of her - difficult to place.

Two issues remain - transportation - partly because I am in a wheelchair and partly because I have no car. We have lousy bus service and when I took Pumpkin for his vet appointments, the local bus company required two days' notice. The other bus company that took us to his heart checkup near Syracuse has a similar time frame. What would I do in a emergency?

And of course, who would watch the cat should I go in for surgery (or worse)?

If I foster, I wouldn't have to worry about any of that. If I adopt, then it would be harder. I say "harder" because of my transportation and health issues. But not impossible.

I thought about reaching out to my brother about a stray cat that hangs out at our father's property and needs to be adopted. From what he told me about her, she does not like to stay indoors but that is what I would require in order to adopt her. It's not safe to let an animal run loose, especially where I live.. I would need to make sure her health records and shots were up to date.

I thought that if I adopt that cat, I could move back to the village where my family is from because a new apartment complex is close to Pumpkin's vet. I wouldn't have to worry about transporting her at all to any appointments.

I don't know what to do. I am gutted. I really want to get another pet and it feels like they're telling me I am not good enough. Please give me your thoughts. Thank you.
I'm not going to comment much on this foster based facility but it's apparent they don't know very much about behavioral issues- that particular cat would do very well as a singlet in a smaller area with a person like you- smaller spaces are exactly what is required to socialize and recondition such a cat- it's unfortunate but they way I see it,for whatever reason it's not meant to be....so basically I'm not interested in them,I'm interested in you

I know how loving,kind and VERY capable you are in providing an excellent home for a kitty- I'm not sure about fostering because no matter what issue a cat might have I cannot begin to imagine you wanting to give it up for adoption and I'd hate to see your heart broken if you were fostering and then it's time for surgery and the program revokes the cat not giving you the option of adoption?I'm not sure how they operate but these things must be considered and worked out beforehand....

Moving back near your family sounds like the BEST idea of all BEFORE getting a kitty.....then it might not even matter when your surgery comes up becsuse you'd have help and family to make sure you can get around etc etc.... you need them and they need you near them,you've missed them terribly which had made your grief that much worse- you've been grieving the loss of family ontop of losing dear Pumpkin

Diana,you are far MORE than " good enough" to foster,to adopt or whatever a pet could be so Blessed to spend a day,a week or a lifetime with you

Please,take one thing at a time- never mind that email which btw did not in any way shape or form insinuate you are not an excellent choice for fostering- they were simply answering the question you asked and explaining what they do and do not provide help with

For future correspondences I'd tell them much less about potential future predicaments that might not ever arise- it's really nobody's business imo because you are not a person that cannot find a way to overcome obstacles - you've certainly shown me that my friend!!!

I'm happy,actually ecstatic that you're ready to let another cat into your huge loving heart and the right cat will come at the right time ... you know I'm praying about it,lol

Love you Diana❤❤❤
 
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