Adopt Or Not?

Discussion in 'Grooming & General Cat Care' started by lisa1706, Jul 17, 2017 at 5:50 AM.

  1. lisa1706

    lisa1706 TCS Member Young Cat

    Sep 3, 2015
    Indianapolis IN USA
    Hi everyone! I recently adopted a 2 year old abysinnian mix from a shelter. I had no idea what breed she was but apparently her breed is very chatty. She meows and grunts a lot. I have anxiety so some days it's unnerving. A freind recently found some 1 week old abandoned kittens in his yard. They are now 2 weeks and doing well in the care of a rescue. I want to adopt one. My current kitty Desiree might like a playmate and a new cat may help her pipe down. She is very acive. Not at all cuddly. I'm hoping the new kitten will be a cuddle bug. Im on a budget so that's to be considered. I'd love to give this kitten a home. Her name is Patience. She is a little calico. A new kitty might help me and Desiree and be a great home for Patience or it might be a disaster. I work 8 hours per day so I know Desiree is lonely. I just lost Punkin. I had her 20 years so learning a new cat has been challenging. What are your thoughts? If only we had a crystal ball! Adopt or not?
  2. letta

    letta TCS Member Young Cat

    Apr 18, 2017
    Well I can't tell you to adopt or not. But here are some thoughts. First you will need to wait until she is 8 weeks old to adopt her so you have a bit more time to think about it, right now she is completely depend and not ready at all. I am not sure how much it will help Desiree to stop chatting, if it is part of her personality it's part of her personality. It will probably help with the boredom but she will probably still want to tell you in details about her day. If you do adopt the kitten you should know that it will take time (weeks may be) and work for your current cat to accept the new kitten. You will need to seperate them at first, cats are very territorial and they need time to accept a new friend. So bare in mind that if you adopt her it will be stressing for a while ( Desiree will be upset, growl and hiss, and she will need time to like Patience).
    If you think that Desiree is bored maybe you could play with her. Buy a Dabird or cat catcher and play with her 20 min when you come back home, it will help her bond with you.
    For the cuddle bug part you have no way of knowing how your new kitten will be. Most kitten if correctly socialized are cuddly, but that does not mean that they stay like that. Moreover a kitten needs a lot of work from you side, she will need a lot of interaction with you and play time if you want her to grow up in a social cat. So be ready to dedicate a big portion of your time home to her at the beginning. She still has so much to learn and you will need to be there for her. If you just want a calm lap cat, I would suggest more to think about adult cats. Go to your shelter ask for a calm and affectionate cat who is already 3+ years. Spend time with the cat, see if she will come and settle on your lap or not. If you go there a few times you should find a perfectly nice lap cat who will not be as active. However, now that the introductions with your current cat will be probablly be harder and take more time, as introducing an adult is harder.
    I hope that helps.
    nahui purraised this.
  3. ArtNJ

    ArtNJ TCS Member Young Cat

    Jun 1, 2017
    Never adopt a second cat because you imagine your first cat will benefit, because that is very uncertain, and your first cat may end up being very stressed by the new cat. As you seem to already know, even a well managed introduction can sometimes turn into a total disaster as one cat causes the other great stress/terror. With you having anxiety issues, how would you react to constant growling, hissing and fighting? Abyssians are known for being athletic and active, so to imagine a kitten will calm one down...wishful thinking I'm afraid. What you would have going for you is that your older cat is still young and very active, so there would likely be a temperment match with the young kitten, which does make problems somewhat less likely. Still, with you having anxiety I don't know that I'd risk it. You might do better trying to play with the abyssian more, tire it out. A lot of times one can find situations where a non-lap cat will tolerate and eventually seek affection. Maybe when they are sleepy. Or in a certain spot. What you can't do is keep plopping the cat on your lap if they don't like that, and especially never try to hold the cat down imagining it will calm down. They have to be the boss.

    I had one cat that would let me pet him on top of my clothes dresser, and another when he was on the back of my chair. If you go with the flow, you and/or the cat can gradually add more situations, and the cat may even give your lap a try at some point. Good luck!
    PushPurrCatPaws purraised this.
  4. PushPurrCatPaws

    PushPurrCatPaws TCS Member Top Cat

    May 22, 2015
    :yeah: Excellent advice!

Share This Page