Mama of 4 Cats, 3 Dogs , 2 Budgies & 2 Humans
- Jan 15, 2018
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We cry over a dearly departed because the emotions are still raw. It is normal especially for a human being who has loved an animal so much. My dog of 15 years died in my arms on the morning of my 20th birthday, but now even after 2 decades I still mourn for him, so meaning my emotions are still quite the same as the day he left me. I have also lost several pets after that, and have left an endless gnawing pain in my heart. We only know the extent of our love for our animals when they are gone. Sure, we love them now. We know that. We feel that. We show them that. We shower them with toys and gifts and kisses. But when any one of them leaves, that is the only time that we ourselves get confused where all this grief is coming from, and why it never really fades away.di and bob That’s exactly how I feel right now! My life feels too long now, too long until I get to see him again and there doesn’t seem to be much joy in my life a lot like how you expressed you felt. It’s hard to believe that time will ease this but I know you’re right, after I lost my first cat ten years ago I was very heart broken and today it hurts a little less than then even though I wish very much that he was still here too. The only difference is that he lived to be 18 instead of 6 like my little Snowball.
I’m so sorry about your Chrissy. I know how you feel about the holidays, I feel like the Christmas Grinch now and I really don’t feel like celebrating anything. You must have had it even worse. And the surreal feeling is very weird to me, but I know exactly what you mean. Every day I keep thinking ‘I can’t belive he’s gone’. We all feel his absence greatly. But I hope this Holiday season that you hurt a little less and continue to keep Chrissy’s memory alive.
Maria Bayote After meeting a cat that makes such an impact on your life, I can understand that feeling of not imagining a world without them. It sounds like your kitties are just as crucial to your life as mine are and I’m sure they can tell you love them very much too.
I’m holding onto the hope that my happy memories of him will one day not be filled with as many tears, but I’m still going to keep remembering now even with the tears because I don’t want to lose a single memory. And you are absolutely right, I feel so lucky to have gotten him by chance and that I had him in my life. He truly changed mine for the better, it was like he was my own guardian angel sent from above and now he returned to heaven.
I also believe that we each have our own spirit animal. I am a dog person, but when I met my Bourbon (my maine coon cat) even on that day I saw her matted and dirty on the street, I instantly connected to her like I had known this animal in my past life or something. So each time I fed her and saw her leave I always felt a sense of deep sadness. Until I told my husband that I need to bring in this cat and take care of it. (By that time I already had a rescue kitten). Now I am extra protective of her. We have the same character, the same quirks which I have not observed in any of my other pets. Maybe this is why you also are connected to Snowball. Maybe in some strange reason you two are connected by some invincible cord or something. Sorry. My imagination is working half time again. But I do believe in magical things and stuff.