I get a better response when I make the wand toy "disappear" around a corner, behind a box, under a rug/box. Then I'll make it appear and disappear a few times. Once I get them chasing it, they will go nuts for a few minutes trying to catch it - and I'll start all over again.
Cats hate change and your poor guy has gone through three or four major changes in a short period of time. Unfortunately, you are the only common denominator for all those changes so he is "blaming" you. Treats and play and time and he should come around.
I stepped on my former-feral Barry's tail once - he made a terrible noise and hid from me until I left for work. I got the most pitiful looks from him too. He was fine, physically and emotionally, when I got home from work. I don't know if the screech surprised me more or if it was the fact...
Keep the faith people!! Often time, a lot more time than you would expect, will bring them together.
Duncan (orange and white) still kicks Barry (mackerel tabby) out of the prime spots, but he no longer guards our bed from "invasion" The bed was Duncan's last spot of exclusive territory as...
My then 2 year old boys accepted our new kitten relatively quickly, but at first they were really perplexed by her - they just didn't know what to do. One of them hissed and ran away. The other one just laid down and watched her.
Just keep them visiting each [supervised] other for longer and...
I'm going to give a little contrarian advice: Don't ignore the new bengal. Your brother talk to it constantly whenever he is in the room (or about to go into the room) He should sit on the floor and just talk - not necessarily making eye contact, but just be there and be non-threatening...
There is "dominance grooming" when my guy does it, it is basically lick-lick-bite, lick-lick-bite which eventually devolves into wrestling. Relatively harmless.
Your guys sound like typical cats' rough play. As long as one of them doesn't always "lose" or seem fearful, you should be OK...
Two of mine figured out how to play fetch by themselves. They just started bringing the toys back on their own. They are picky about what they will play fetch with though - not every toy is a winner.
My suggestion, to wear him out is to get him to go vertical - I play fetch up the stairs or...
I've trained my cats to do several things, mostly variations of coming when called ("who wants to eat" "who wants to play") but there is also "belly rub" and "get up" and "get down"
I've learned two things by this: First, it is easier to get a cat to do something because there is a cool...
I stepped on my feral's tail once - got a good shriek out of him. I'm a little surprised I could do that because up to that point he was friendly but often kept a safe distance. He ran and hid and gave me the most pitiful looks until I went to work. All was forgiven once I got home.
Just...
I have a former feral who took a long time to totally trust me. During that time I stuffed him very unceremoniously into a carrier for a move and after that wore off, I stepped on his tail (I was pretty impressed that he let me get close enough to actually do that)
To win him back took time...
We moved 2 cats not quite two years ago. The plan was to move the boys the night before the movers came and keep them locked in a room NO ONE was allowed in, not even us, while moving was happening. We didn't have the foresight to move "comfort items" into their new safe room except for our...
tl;dr: This works as a last resort but could destroy your cat's trust.
I had to do this once. Our former feral was not much for being handled and we were moving. I had one shot to do this. For MONTHS I got him used to being picked up and put on the bed. He would run away or stay for a pet...
He is still technically a kitten and will always be hungry. Make sure he has enough of his own food and try not to give him treats at the table.
I didn't realize how persistent a hungry kitten could be until our first propped himself up our plates. Made us start eating at the table again.
As everyone else said, cats have their own personalities. I think gender has a bit to do with it, but others disagree.
Of my three, all are affectionate in their own way. Duncan can be picked up and mushed and smothered. My wife grabs his cheeks and kisses him repeatedly on the forehead. He...