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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    It depends what you mean by not my fault. Were they my cats no. Did I hit them no. But I had the chance to prevent it. Especially if by bringing in the small cat. It made him not come back up to the house and stay gone. Possibly looking for her. Then yes I feel responsible in part. Part of its...
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    Why is this so hard? I thought i was doing what's best. But best for little kitty. Could have caused the big kitty is life. Had he only come back. I would have taken him in too. I hate mornings. I have to face the reality and it wasn't a bad dream. It's been 2 weeks today and I just fill like a...
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    Caring for 2 feral kittens- advice needed

    What do you plan to do with them? Please don't let them out. I regret not building something to keep my last 2 rescues safe and the boy was hit by a car :( are there any rescues to take them?
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    Stray outdoor cats with kittens

    I've been there. When our homes are not set to take in stray cats. Its heartbreaking to leave them outdoors. But I took a mom and kittens for 1 week. Because the lady that originally took them. Was letting mom cat out and leaving kittens to feed themselves. And she didn't come back that night...
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    People with rescue kitties: are you still in contact with their fosters?

    Ours doesn't allow contact. But I find the lady who adopted my 2 cats. I had to rehome. She did send me a couple pictures/video. I peak at her FB occasionally to see any updates
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    I never keep them in the same room as my cats. Always quarantined. Ive had to rescue cats for years as I have at least one show up every year. There are just so many things I could have done. Maybe I would have regretted bringing them in. But I regretted leaving them out. Can't win
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    Yea but I could have taken them in. Some people in my area know ive usually take cats in. But they were innocent. I could have saved him by not letting them out to run free. I didn't have a safe place to keep them that long. And had to think of my own pets. It just saddens me they were not...
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    I lay here at 5:30 am can't sleep and the sun is rising already. It was only a week but so much happened during that time. My stomach has knots. And feeling even more guilty that my actions caused his death. I wish I had thought to entice him with some food. Would he had come home sooner. Had I...
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    How to treat a great adoptive family that nonetheless messed up . . .

    After losing a stray cat to a car hitting them. I would not do that again. I would never leave my own cats outside. If one was killed because of my actions. I would do everything not to let any cat out again. How they haven't learned is beyond me. Reminds me of my old apartment years ago. The...
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    Thank you. Yes a lot is guilt had I just brought him in. Wether the reason I didn't. But had I put them in my bathroom and they got into the medicine cabinet I would be upset too. Can't win. I guess a crate inside my home would have been best. But like most people we are not equipped to care for...
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    4am and I just can't sleep. My mind keeps thinking of what I should have done. Ugh I don't go looking for trouble. I hate how this is thrown on me. I am scard for life. This is worse then ive ever had before. Or sure feels that way. Im thinking of an outdoor enclosure. But seeing we are rural...
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    Mother cat can’t find her kittens

    Yes my husband has an app that we used to call the kittens out. Do you have other animals in the area? I fear they may have been taken by them:/
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    Yes I know that. I just can't stomach leaving outside to fend for themselves. But yea the friendly ones are harder to leave out. Many strays are just scared.
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    I dont see how anyone can TNR. I know why they do it. But I always hated leaving cats outside. And this is one reason why. Maybe feral cats are more street smart. This guy was to nice and probably didn't understand cars. I thought they were indoor cats as they were well kept. But they were not...
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    Had i only gone back outside and waited for him. He was alive. He was somewhere. I could have gotten him to the front yard. :( so much I could have done. Im starting to think it was cuz the little girl was gone idk here is a picture. They wanted in. I couldn't bring them in 😭
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    Yes you nailed everything I'm feeling. A holiday morning. Just had to have a car go by while he was in the road. I wonder ifbhe darted out. Was he walking along the roadside and purposely hit. Did he get hit farther down and collapse near our driveway. Makes me sad as he was just a foot or so...
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    Outdoor enclosure?

    Yes dh can build something. We have plenty of wood. Just need the wire for the sides. The problem with a dog kennel would be the size of the openings. We have an old one. But not sure the 8 month old kitten was big enough to not get his head through.
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    Outdoor enclosure?

    Its to late for the last strays. One died and the kitten was given to the rescue on Wednesday. Im looking to the future. We have them show up out of the blue. I dont have a safe place in my home and have 7 indoor cats already. So need a place outside for the reasons I mentioned. Incase they...
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    Outdoor enclosure?

    I'm sick that its to late for the big kitty who died on Monday. But I kept telling dh we needed a place outside to keep them safe and to keep them from killing the wildlife. Does anyone have an outdoor enclosure that's safe to keep them in 24/7. It would be temporary. This time I called the...
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    Anyone have guilt from death of a "foster" cat?

    Thank you. I dont know if i will ever think I did my best. When best wasnt good enough. I told dh they were not safe outside. We joked years ago about buying an old RV or camper to keep them in until we can get them to the rescue. I feel like I'm being punished for not letting the lady take...
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