We Made The Decision To Put Our Sweet Baby To Rest. Feel Extremely Guilty About It.

Hello, I posted in cat behaviour before about the situation we were in. I tried everything I could to make things go back to normal, except for asking my vet about medication for our pandas behaviour. She suddenly became aggressive towards her father, and to avoid vet bills, my bf intervened in between the cat fights and became the target of the attack.

We got her spayed, got feliway friends, cbd, tried reintroduction techniques and it was all very hard on our limited income. I'm pregnant and my bf is the only one who works. Our door doesn't close properly and we had the cats separated, but one night our panda busted through the door to fight with her father and my bf stopped it. He got attacked pretty badly, blood everywhere and needed IV antibiotics for 3 days and oral for 7.

We loved her so much, she was the sweetest cat I've ever met. The situation was quite complicated, and I've had some people share their opinions that I've "killed the cat". We didnt want to, this was the most heartbreaking thing we've ever had to do in our lives. Comments like that make me pretty upset and feel quite guilty about it all. Thinking of the things I couldve done to prevent this but, I try to tell myself it'd happen at some point or another. Everyday I wonder if I've made the right decision here. It kills me. The only other options were to bring her to a shelter, where she would be alone and they'd probably euthanize her anyways due to this aggression. I feel like rehoming wouldnt be a good option either because if something set her off, she could easily attack someone else.

It's hard losing a pet, especially under these circumstances.

My heart goes out to you.....making decisions like this are extremely difficult even when the cat has a terminal disease, suffering, or dying. Please take comfort in the fact that you tried so much without success. People say things like that because they have no personal investment in the situation. YOU are the one who loved that little girl, and had to go through this very difficult and peresonal decision. You are grieving. Grieving ALWAYS brings on feelings of guilt, no matter what, there is always something left unsaid, undone, that comes later, when our minds are more rational and we go back over everything. You took the only way out you thought at the time was the only option. I agree with aggressive tendencies a cat's chances of getting adopted are very limited, even in no kill shelters animals are put down when they are too aggressive. I know how very hard it is to rehome a cat, even one that has no aggressive tendencies. It is like trying to give away the plague. There are people out there too, that would have just dumped her somewhere, you saved her from the suffering that brings.....
You did NOT want this to end this way, you were exhausted, full of hormones that bring about protectiveness fro yoru child, and a numcber of other things. I can't tell you to not have that guilt, or to not take offense at what others who are not involved say to you, this is a private hell of your own making and it is you who will work through what it brings. Time is the only thing that will bring a decrease of what you are feeling right now. You tried, and it failed. You will come to terms with it eventually and though you will always feel a vague sense of guilt and sadness, what is done, is done and it can't be changed. You have to submerge yoruself in living your life once more, you have a child that deserves to learn from you that life brings joy and wonder, not tears and sadness. That sweet little girl is at peace now, her love will always be bonded to your soul. Talk to her, she will always be as close as your thoughts and prayers. She will understand.
Take care of yourself, we will always be here to help you through this. You are a good person and in time you will work through this. One day at a time......RIP sweet Panda. You will never be forgotten, you will forever have a secure place in a loving heart. May teh good Lord bless and keep you, until you meet again!

Rest you gentle, Panda, dream you deep. You were, are, and always will be deeply loved. Go in peace, now, Sweet Baby Girl, go in peace.

Thank you guys, I finally learned to accept that this was the best decision for all of us, a very tough one but it was the best. Still so heartbreaking that she acted in such a way because she was the sweetest cat ever, but we gave her so much love and still do. I bought a nice picture frame that can fit 12 pictures in it, and 1 that we can put her paw print in with a picture of her precious black beans. Her sister definitely misses her, they were a bonded pair. We give her and the others plenty of love and attention as it's probably a hard time for them as well. Everything's back to normal, no tension between the cats anymore, but missing our pand. I dont need anymore heartbreak though, my heart cant handle anymore. The only light at the end of this tunnel is my son who is due in 11 weeks. Thank you all

It takes a long time to heal a broken heart, but time is on yoru side. Spend these last 11 weeks sending good thoughts and the joy in living to your son. Bless you and praying for a safe delivery and a beautiful, healthy son!

Its a hard decision to make, not to make you feel guilty or anything as i understand it is hard to solve a cat aggression when there is other cats in the house and when there are limited resources and limited finance.

Could her aggression could have been neurological or she was experiencing some form of nerve pain or pinched nerve that is hard to diagnose or see ? Like she may look normal and walking around properly etc and seem ok, but maybe she was experiencing some sort of pain in the spine that made her act out in that way.

The reason why i say this is that my cat leo was a sweet , gentle giant cat for 12 years, never bit, attack or became aggressive with me or my other cat, we would sleep together at night face to face and i trusted him that much cause i knew he would never attack my face.

One day he had a limp on his back leg x rays showed that there was nothing wrong with him but he would still limp .

But he was experiencing some sort of severe pain with this limp because he would be calm one minute like his sweet usual self before his injury like nothing was wrong with him, lets me give him belly rub or pat him on the head, let me sit next to him, he would sit on my lap every single day, or he would bath himself. Then since this injury , he would out of the blue would look at me , make a few meows and then make a bee line for me to attack me viciously. Or if he was sitting on his blanket, if i walked near him near the blanket, he would meow alot, and then stand up and pull the blanket under him digging it under him and chase me to attack me.

At one point when he was on my bed like always , he attacked me on my neck like he had his jaws around my neck , it was like he was thinking i was another cat. With this limp, he would chase me around like there was no issue when he was in this aggression mode. No matter what medication i gave him wasnt helping him with this problem for the pain.

I think it was pain, or maybe it was neurological cause the attacks felt like i was a cat in a cat fight with him for teritory? In the end he was put down, but not for the aggression but it was because he became paralysed and wasnt able to walk anymore. But in honesty and saddly i did become afraid of him, he wasnt allowed to sleep on my bed in my room anymore because he would be sleeping and then wake up and attack me as well and i would be laying dead still on the bed and something triggered him off.

I feel for you because i experienced this downward spiral from a gentle sweet cat to a aggressive cat in a short span of time, its heart breaking.

Its a very sad situation for you and little panda and i am sorry that panda was helped over the bridge

Have you ever encountered humans experiencing brain diseases? Have you ever seen terminal phase of Human neurological or psychiatric diseases? Some dreams to sleep for ever, but getting them to this final solution is not allowed by our human law (I doubt it is really moral, but this is another story).

It is written in the Cat's DNA not to get vocals when suffering. "She suddenly became aggressive " - you wrote. Such a change is very unlikely to be caused by behavior or environment. I believe it was about a brain disease or similar and she suffered a lot. You did the right thing.

Head bow for Panda the Cat! She is not in pain anymore, thanks to You.

I am sorry that others said remarks to you as they did..

I think I read you were getting ready to have a baby
you also were looking out for the baby
and did not need an aggressive cat in your home..

Sometimes as others said pain or a neurological illness
can change a cat just as it does a human being..

I will be praying for you...In Jesus name
that all of you will soon be feeling better.

Sheri, and Lily

solomonar said:

Have you ever encountered humans experiencing brain diseases? Have you ever seen terminal phase of Human neurological or psychiatric diseases? Some dreams to sleep for ever, but getting them to this final solution is not allowed by our human law (I doubt it is really moral, but this is another story).

It is written in the Cat's DNA not to get vocals when suffering. "She suddenly became aggressive " - you wrote. Such a change is very unlikely to be caused by behavior or environment. I believe it was about a brain disease or similar and she suffered a lot. You did the right thing.

Head bow for Panda the Cat! She is not in pain anymore, thanks to You.

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Thank you, it brings me comfort to think that maybe there was something indeed wrong with her. My bf had to get rid of their mom because she acted the same way and tried to kill her babies, panda included so I'm thinking it might be genetic? Or maybe trauma from their mom in some way? So heartbreaking it ended this way, but we will forever remember the sweetie she was

sheridragonfly said:

I am sorry that others said remarks to you as they did..

I think I read you were getting ready to have a baby
you also were looking out for the baby
and did not need an aggressive cat in your home..

Sometimes as others said pain or a neurological illness
can change a cat just as it does a human being..

I will be praying for you...In Jesus name
that all of you will soon be feeling better.

Sheri, and Lily

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Yeah definitely looking forward to the baby, we are very thankful this situation didn't happen when hes here that would be extremely scary. I once had a cat that would try to attack my sister when she was a baby or anyone who was near her when she cried. Cats can have strange behaviors at times, they can be so sweet then sometimes be super vicious. Panda was the sweetest cat I've ever met but also the most vicious its heartbreaking but we wont remember her for that and have lots of good times with her