My heart goes out to all of us who are grieving. My Tom took his last trip to the vet yesterday. I asked for pain meds so Tom could die at home -- I think many of us do. But the vet gently told me that Tom's condition was very bad and he felt it was time. Tom had skin cancer on his ear and surgery didn't delay the inevitable. The cancer spread to his face and head. I am dealing with guilt and grief now. These past few weeks I have had family issues to deal with and I feel that I didn't give Tom enough attention in his last days. Tom was the sweetest and most loving of my three cats. I look at my other cats and think "Why aren't you like Tom?. I won't see those beautiful green eyes again. I've lost pets before and I know it takes time. This is rough, and my love and sympathy to others going through this.