The "what's On Your Mind?" Thread -2019

Alicia88 Any word on Shane?

W Willowy Unsweetened tea is practically unheard of here. At most you get half unsweetened and half sweetened on special request.
You are right the Ms. is common here. Growing up in the south we were taught that the proper way to address a female friend who was our elder was Miss followed by her first name. Example: Miss Jane. Even if they were only older by a few years, that was proper. Married or not. Lol Ms. came about in later years. Maybe Ms in this case was.........?
Ms-issippi?

Unsweetened tea is blasphemy! That is all.

Shane is the same. They're giving him a few days to recover from surgery before they start radiation.

Alicia88 said:

Unsweetened tea is blasphemy! That is all.

Shane is the same. They're giving him a few days to recover from surgery before they start radiation.

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The same is a good thing. I’m glad they are giving him some settling time before radiation.

Unsweetened tea is frowned upon! Lol I traveled North with a friend. She requested tea in a restaurant and they brought her a cup of hot tea. It never occurred to her to be more specific. When she asked for grits at breakfast the next day, that poor waitress had no idea what to bring her. “Grits? What’s grits? “ My friend had eggs and toast.

I'll have to remember that if I ever go north. Here in missouri, it's always cold tea.
And I love grits.

Jcatbird said:

Ms. came about in later years.

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From what I've heard, it's pronounced "mizz" anyway, isn't it? So the spelling doesn't matter too much .

Around here (Minnesota Nice territory) it's not "nice" to acknowledge a hierarchy, except maybe for younger kids. So no honorifics or titles.

To all: thanks for the good wishes and advice. I'm taking as few meds as I can get away with but that foot hurts so much I can't do without them, mostly tylenol but sometimes that's not enough and I take one ibuprofen. I take one opioid at night so I can sleep and I have found that I can get away with not wearing the boot for a while during the day when I just laze the day away on my bed reading and watching TV. I've never watched so much TV in my life. I do sleep with the boot on and apparently do not move at all as I find myself in the exact same position in the morning, usually with Panthera scrunched up against my back. I also sleep a lot during the day, not just catnaps but several hours at a time and still sleep at night. If I do wake up it's because of the pain, I just take one more (instead of 2) generic tylenol, wait for it to kick in and I'm back to sleep.
I will manage with the jeans right now, the belt is keeping them up and of course I am happy with the weight loss as a whole, would like to lose another 10 lbs altogether and this is easy. I have a hunch that as my body is trying to repair the damage to my foot it is using up more calories in the process than I am taking in. But I don't recommend that, it's just a side effect although in this case a pleasant one. If I have to be in pain I might just as well get something good from it.
Regarding the pet play pen: how long did it take to get it? I ordered the dark blue one today, I sure hope it will get here before I move on August 1st. It will come in really handy because my cats are used to go out on the patio and snooze in the sun and my son does not have one that is enclosed, so I could put it out in the backyard and they could still be outside, one at a time of course as they are not cuddling with each other, only with me.
Tea: I did not grow up with iced tea so that was foreign to me and hot tea was sweetened with sugar and had either lemon or milk added to it. A move to Texas: the place was full of iced tea, sugar and lemon was optional but if ordered there was always a slice of lemon balanced on the rim of the glass. If one wanted hot tea, like in the winter, one asked for hot tea. Here in California one asks for either hot tea or iced tea, sugar is already on the table and if one wants lemon one specifies it when ordering. Tea with milk is unheard of, I think that's a British habit and has spread all over Europe. I haven't had it that way for ages.

Best wishes to Shane, looks like the doctors are looking out for the best for him and yes, his youth will help a lot. Us older folks don't have those physical resources anymore.

Ah yes, MIZZ. I do remember that from my time in Texas and in my native country no child or teenager or even unrelated adult would address an older person with their first name. It was always Mr, Mrs or Miss with that person's last name. Anything else was considered impolite or even presumptuous. So I taught my children to address grownups with the honorific preceding their first name, particularly when the adult had introduced themselves with their first name. The only comment I ever got about that was that my children were exceedingly polite, nobody ever objected to the honorific. Politeness seems to have taken a nose dive anyway.

I never knew what to call my friend's parents. So I didn't. If I had to get their attention it was just "excuse me". I kind of wish they had clear expectations and communicated what they wanted to be called, it would have been easier.

I was just reading a cat owner's Twitter account. Less than two months ago, they lost their indoor/outdoor cat after the GPS tracker in his collar died. They believe he was taken by a coyote. Several days ago, they opened up their home to two new kitties.

This story makes my heart hurt. This is precisely why Charlie and Selene will never go outside. They're safe in here.

I still call my friend Mizz Charlotte. I am older than her, but it makes no difference. I call all females over 16 ma'am and all men sir. I hold doors open for anyone and say please and thank you.

My mother taught me my manners, sometimes painfully.

Katie M said:

I was just reading a cat owner's Twitter account. Less than two months ago, they lost their indoor/outdoor cat after the GPS tracker in his collar died. They believe he was taken by a coyote. Several days ago, they opened up their home to two new kitties.

This story makes my heart hurt. This is precisely why Charlie and Selene will never go outside. They're safe in here.

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I agree. There have been cats roaming in my area as long as I've been alive. People leave their dogs off leash, there are wild animals - it's so dangerous. I've seen first hand what happens to these poor cats being left to fend for themselves. I know someone who's cat who got hit by a car, they paid for expensive surgery and still let the cat out even after.

The cats that roam in my area aren't even feral because they once all belonged to a home but were never taken care of properly or loved like a cat should be loved.

I'm currently trying to get one off the street but I don't know what happened to her. I'm trying to get her to stay in my area but she keeps running off. Maybe she has kittens now. She'll only stay to eat and then she's gone again and gone for days at a time.

My boys stay in. But connor has started sneaking out. Twice, we didn't notice. He doesn't go far. Once we were in a rush to get somewhere and the neighbor called and said he was crying by the front door. We'd been gone 5 minutes. Thur second time, we'd ordered pizza. About 10 minutes after it was delivered, he was crying at the window.
Still, we bought them all collars and tags.

My grandpa died this morning. We knew it was coming and both of my parents have been in Florida with him for the last week or two. I visited him in March knowing it was probably the last time I was going to see him.

I've had all day to process it and I oddly feel happy. I'm not happy that he's gone or that we all miss him, but I'm happy knowing he's with my grandma again and the memories that both my grandparents left behind were good and full of love. At the end of my life, I can only hope that my loved ones feel I left them with good memories and love.

My dad, who was with my grandpa when he died, said my grandpa had been talking to someone off and on for 2 hours last night. When my mom left him for the night, she said he was also talking to and kissing someone and he said it was my grandma who died in 2013. My mom said nobody's phones were working properly yesterday which is what happened when my grandma died, so my mom really felt her mom was nearby just waiting for my grandpa.

MonaLyssa33 said:

My grandpa died this morning. We knew it was coming and both of my parents have been in Florida with him for the last week or two. I visited him in March knowing it was probably the last time I was going to see him.

I've had all day to process it and I oddly feel happy. I'm not happy that he's gone or that we all miss him, but I'm happy knowing he's with my grandma again and the memories that both my grandparents left behind were good and full of love. At the end of my life, I can only hope that my loved ones feel I left them with good memories and love.

My dad, who was with my grandpa when he died, said my grandpa had been talking to someone off and on for 2 hours last night. When my mom left him for the night, she said he was also talking to and kissing someone and he said it was my grandma who died in 2013. My mom said nobody's phones were working properly yesterday which is what happened when my grandma died, so my mom really felt her mom was nearby just waiting for my grandpa.

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My condolences to all your family. I remember going to see my grandpa not long before he died. It left clear teenage (16) memories instead of a child's memories. Saw all my cousins together.

MonaLyssa33

I am very sorry to hear of your grandfather's passing. I'm glad you have good memories.

Hugs,

Mia

MonaLyssa33 said:

My grandpa died this morning. We knew it was coming and both of my parents have been in Florida with him for the last week or two. I visited him in March knowing it was probably the last time I was going to see him.

I've had all day to process it and I oddly feel happy. I'm not happy that he's gone or that we all miss him, but I'm happy knowing he's with my grandma again and the memories that both my grandparents left behind were good and full of love. At the end of my life, I can only hope that my loved ones feel I left them with good memories and love.

My dad, who was with my grandpa when he died, said my grandpa had been talking to someone off and on for 2 hours last night. When my mom left him for the night, she said he was also talking to and kissing someone and he said it was my grandma who died in 2013. My mom said nobody's phones were working properly yesterday which is what happened when my grandma died, so my mom really felt her mom was nearby just waiting for my grandpa.

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I am sorry to hear that your grandfather has passed away.

MonaLyssa33 said:

My grandpa died this morning. We knew it was coming and both of my parents have been in Florida with him for the last week or two. I visited him in March knowing it was probably the last time I was going to see him.

I've had all day to process it and I oddly feel happy. I'm not happy that he's gone or that we all miss him, but I'm happy knowing he's with my grandma again and the memories that both my grandparents left behind were good and full of love. At the end of my life, I can only hope that my loved ones feel I left them with good memories and love.

My dad, who was with my grandpa when he died, said my grandpa had been talking to someone off and on for 2 hours last night. When my mom left him for the night, she said he was also talking to and kissing someone and he said it was my grandma who died in 2013. My mom said nobody's phones were working properly yesterday which is what happened when my grandma died, so my mom really felt her mom was nearby just waiting for my grandpa.

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I'm really sorry to hear the sad news. Sending you hugs and prayers.

You guys should thank @Kat0121 , if it hadn't been for her, I would have never thought about mine.
She brought it up, I've had to learn to economy shop.

Willowy said:

She also sent a picture from a gas station where the tea choices were sweet tea or sweet tea

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I make awesome sweet tea. My family goes through about a gallon a day...that's a lot of sugar usage. For those of you in the south, don't think that because I'm from AZ, I can't make sweet tea. My family (not me) is from the southern States.

MonaLyssa33 said:

I've had all day to process it and I oddly feel happy. I'm not happy that he's gone or that we all miss him, but I'm happy knowing he's with my grandma again and the memories that both my grandparents left behind were good and full of love.

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I am so sorry for your loss. And it's okay to feel relief and have happy thoughts.

Man, I just went through a 4 day migraine. I haven't eaten or drank anything in 4 days. Everytime I tried to drink something, it came right back up. I finally managed to keep down some cream soda yesterday and water today. The headache has finally eased up a bit, now I need to eat. But I have no energy to do so. Also, I just don't want to, but I am so weak I can barely get out of bed. I think it gets to a point when you're just not hungry anymore.
I think I'm going back to sleep now.