Resident Senior Gently Rejecting New Kitten

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15yo cat thrives with a companion but lost his mate in February.

He’s aggressive with adult cats but loves kittens. We adopted an orphaned kitten that didn’t make it. He loved that kitten (as he seemed to love all the fosters we’ve had before).

Well, that was painful for me, but a month later and a very needy, clingy cat reminded me I wanted a kitten for HIM not just me.. so we adopted a 10 week old (and healthy) sweet girl.

My 15yo, although non violent, is on day 3 of not having it. He angrily hisses at her and stays away. He won’t eat unless I put her in the other room and won’t even eat his treats (he’s a crazy eater, so this is a big deal.. he NEVER refuses food, even in the presence of fear)..

When I’m showing him her, I’m holding her to help control the situation, because first introductions I put her down and his body language scared me. He cornered her under a chair and aggressively hissed until I took her away.

He attacked my dog years ago and I grabbed him (my dog is 120lbs) to prevent my dog from responding and as a result my cat started biting and scratching me still in the moment... I had bruises, needed stitches and was surprised at the damage done. I Say with complete certainty, my 30+ lbs cat could easily kill this kitten.

I’m going slow, showing the kitten to the resident cat every day, but not interfering with his comfort and routine.

Have I made a mistake? Is there anything I can do to encourage a good friendship?? What are some reasons my cat wouldn’t like this particular kitten??
 

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Is it really this particular kitten, or could it be a reaction to the death of his longtime buddy in February? Or just an age related personality change. Or health related -- if he is in discomfort, he may not want a youngster bothering him.

Can you test whether it is really just *this* kitten? I'm kind of doubting it is just this kitten, but I think it could be useful for you to know for sure.

You could follow the introduction guide, I'll link it, but it seems like it would be best to figure out more about what is going on.

How To Successfully Introduce Cats: The Ultimate Guide
 

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I've never introduced cats to one another -- particularly a pair like this! -- so don't have much to offer by way of personal advice other than to say that, for now, you'll need to keep them separated and go very slowly so the older cat doesn't injure the kitten when you're not with them. The methods that A ArtNJ linked to look like they might be helpful, starting with scent and then moving on to vision.

What are the cats' names, to make this easier?

Three days doesn't sound like a long time to me, particularly after looking through that page on introductions, and it sounds like you'll need a very gradual approach.

Good luck!
 
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