One Year Since

1 bruce 1 said:

Most people in life don't understand those who still grieve a cat after a week, a month, a year, but we do. Those unfortunates who cut us off in mid sentence are either idiots or are just unlucky enough to never have known what unconditional love is...or both.
We're lucky. They're not.

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You're a very wise man!

It's is lovely that you have a video to watch. The pain will get a little less raw as the years pass by, but the love will always be with you. I know just how you feel & you are not alone.

Today marks one and a half years since I had to let you go. Daddy still thinks of you and misses you every day, my little Lucy. My life was brighter for having you in it, and the space that you left will never be filled...

Lucy comes from the Latin Lux, Light.
No wonder why your life was brighter with her next to you, she was the Guiding Light of your life.
Her Light will never go off, you will see her in the dark of night, up in the sky.
Shine on your Dad, Lucy, don't leave him in the dark.

I am so sorry.

Go out tonight, pick a star, and remember Lucy is there, shining her light upon you all. They are never gone, truly, as long as we know and remember them.

And remember the Rainbow Bridge too.

God bless you and Lucy and your Daddy.

Shine purrs

Pook

That space that is so very empty now, can never be filled because it is HER space. So unique, so precious. It will always be yours and yours alone, and noone or nothing can ever take what you two shared away. "Death cannot take that which never dies". And that is your love for each other. But you CAN add onto that love, help it to grow, to live on through perpetuating what she left you as her legacy, her love. Lucy would NEVER want you to be so sad because of her. Just as you would want for her if you were the first to go, she wants you to go forward into the future and find joy in life again, because she loves you and only wants for you to find happiness.
Love can never be the same, because it is all one of a kind. Your big heart needs to connect again, needs to be distracted by what a new love can bring. Somewhere out there there is a little soul that needs you just as much as you need to open your heart again. Maybe not today, or next week , next month or next year. But some day. And you will know in your heart that it is right, that Lucy is urging you to send her thoughts of joy and happiness that only love can bring. So that she may live on by passing on her legacy of love.
The pain and feeling of loss will always be there. But you can learn to live with it, build a new life's order for yourself. And Lucy will help you through it by comforting you with all those good memories, and being there to help you build new ones. By loving you just as much as ever, that will never change.
I wish I could take your pain away, I know how much this hurts. I'll pray that peace will come to you, that happiness can once more come into your life. May Lucy forever RIP, until you meet again!

Antonio65 said:

Lucy comes from the Latin Lux, Light.
No wonder why your life was brighter with her next to you, she was the Guiding Light of your life.
Her Light will never go off, you will see her in the dark of night, up in the sky.
Shine on your Dad, Lucy, don't leave him in the dark.

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Thank you, everyone. It's a great comfort to have a place to turn to for understanding. I always said that she was the light at the center of my universe.

Your kind words always make me cry.

Missing my girl so much this holiday season. On Christmas night I was relating to my sister about the terrible decision to have to let my Lucy go, and the tears started flowing. One year and nine months now. Time has eased the grief, but I still have my moments.

This photo is from our last Christmas together. She was gone three months later...

You are not alone, if I let myself think back to that last day, the ache in my heart is almost too much to bear, 6 years later. I feel my love, and hers, just as strongly........

Lucy seemed like such a wonderful cat and I can tell you two had an amazing bond. It breaks my heart to read about how much you miss her. I have an 18 year old cat with kidney disease and IBD and do everything I can to make him feel happy, healthy and loved but I know our time together is limited. It really isn't fair how short of a time we have with them.

Earlier this month was the special day to remember Marmite. I lit a candle, sat down in her special place & cried. As I type this, Coojee is asleep on the pillow next to me. She's snoring a little, which is cute. I was thinking how I have let Coojee into my heart, yet Marmite is still there. I seem to have room to love them both deeply at the same time.

That's very nice to hear...But I have sealed off my heart to another pet. I had three cats that all lived to be quite old. Lucy was my first, and she became my last. I'm not saying "never", but for me, losing her was like losing my child, and I have no desire to have another. It's a lifetime commitment that I am unwilling to take on at this point. Her pawprints have left an indelible imprint on my heart.

Seeing your photo reminded me when my Chrissy put hers in the fresh cement on the threshold of my garden shed. I was so mad at the time. Now that she is gone it brings tears of happiness to have a physical reminder of her every time I see it. It also reminds me that things we remember in the past can change entirely in meaning. what brings you so much suffering now may bring you great joy at a future time, just like that tiny paw print.....

wt1964 said:

That's very nice to hear...But I have sealed off my heart to another pet. I had three cats that all lived to be quite old. Lucy was my first, and she became my last. I'm not saying "never", but for me, losing her was like losing my child, and I have no desire to have another. It's a lifetime commitment that I am unwilling to take on at this point. Her pawprints have left an indelible imprint on my heart.

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I now exactly how you feel. For seven years after losing Marmite, I never listened to music, never watched comedy films, I didn't want to laugh as I felt that I didn't deserve it. Then one day after 7 years, I started listening to music again. Just a little at first, but then more regularly. There is an album I like, which made me think that I wanted to love a pussycat again. I looked on a breeders website & saw a lovely kitten who I fell in love with. Her name is Coojee & she's laying on my desk now asleep.

It can happen again, for me, it took 7 years of tears, sadness & a huge empty space. Now Marmite is still in my heart & I also have Coojee to look after. The big surprise for me is that I can love them both. They seem to strangely occupy the same place in my heart, I didn't know that my love could work like that, but it seems to be able to easily cope with two deep loves of my life.

Don't force it, but one day, you may be ready for a new love. I can tell you that your new love won't take the place of Lucy, you won't forget her & you won't change your feelings about her. One day, you may see a new pussycat who deserves & needs your love.

di and bob said:

Seeing your photo reminded me when my Chrissy put hers in the fresh cement on the threshold of my garden shed. I was so mad at the time. Now that she is gone it brings tears of happiness to have a physical reminder of her every time I see it. It also reminds me that things we remember in the past can change entirely in meaning. what brings you so much suffering now may bring you great joy at a future time, just like that tiny paw print.....

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When Lucy was a baby we got her her first cat bed. We were painting inside the house one day and she stepped in the white paint and left her paw print on her bed. It almost got thrown out some years later, but I managed to save it and to this day I treasure it. <3

biscuity said:

I now exactly how you feel. For seven years after losing Marmite, I never listened to music, never watched comedy films, I didn't want to laugh as I felt that I didn't deserve it.

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Time has kindly and compassionately allowed the grief to subside a good deal, but I can understand what you're saying. There are times when I feel so guilty for smiling or laughing. All I can do is take it day by day. A couple of weeks ago I was cleaning and blowing the dust out of some old micro audio cassettes, and inside of one I happened to find a single cat hair. I knew it was hers by the coloring. I actually smiled.

wt1964 said:

But I have sealed off my heart to another pet. I had three cats that all lived to be quite old. Lucy was my first, and she became my last. I'm not saying "never", but for me, losing her was like losing my child, and I have no desire to have another.

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Same here.
Sometimes I feel a void in my heart and in my home, I feel the desire to have someone to pet and take care of, but then I wake up from this daylight dream and I feel, I know, that I'm not ready yet.