The "what's On Your Mind?" Thread -2018

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I love that my cat is needy. The only problem I have is when she lies on my leg. With 25 lbs of her, my leg goes to sleep. Then I stand up, and fall on my face. And she just smiles and reaches over and grabs me with her huge paws...claws out. But I still love her.
Omg that sounds adorable.

Yes I love needy cats too. My furball loves to nap in my arms, as in me cradling her like a baby. But she is 10lbs and growing so it's a real workout.

Agree with the other posters too that the medical forums are difficult to read. But I find them very informational for things to look out for.
 

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I watched Bad Samaritan yesterday. I don't know why all the horrible reviews. It was actually pretty good. Granted, it was no Silence of the Lambs, but then, what is? I wouldn't consider it a horror movie though. More of a suspense/thriller.
That's the one thing about Tennant. When he plays a good guy, you fall in love. But when he plays a bad guy, you want to see the character seriously hurt and taken out.

Overall, it was an entertaining movie and I enjoyed it.
 

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Putting flea medication on the cats today really illustrated the difference in personality. Charlie got upset because I tried to hold him, and ran off. Selene cooperated and is likely now wondering why I'm not petting her.
 

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Putting flea medication on the cats today really illustrated the difference in personality. Charlie got upset because I tried to hold him, and ran off. Selene cooperated and is likely now wondering why I'm not petting her.
Whereas Hekitty would have left me bleeding on the floor and laughed at me. Don't ask me how I know this.
 

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Went to town today and checked the mail while I was there. Of course, I got a jury duty questionaire. I wouldn't mind so much, except the county seat is 30+ miles one way. And if I get called in the winter..I'm pretty sure the county doesn't own a snowplow. At least, the highway has never been plowed once since I've lived here. Neither has the highway going to the town where the courthouse is.
But, I'll do my duty.
 

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Probably not. I feel like she'd be better off here, but it's not up to me. John is afraid to go to court because in Missouri, the mother is heavily favored and it's likely he'd end up with just weekend visitations - if that, since her mother lives so far away. I can't blame him - he doesn't want to rock the boat and wind up with less time than he has now. On the other hand, I think we have a decent case. She often comes here dirty, she isn't disciplined there, her mother doesn't work, etc. But it's John's decision.
And I figured out why it's so hard to get her to eat. The other night, Aislyn asked why I was making so much food. "Because Daddy is off work and he'll be eating with us tonight." "Oh, Daddy eats a lot. He'll get fat." "Is that why I can never get you to eat? You're afraid of getting fat?" "Yes. Jordan said if you eat, you get fat." "Who's Jordan?" "Some kid." "What does your mom say about it?" "She says he's right."
The only way I can get her to eat more than a few bites is to bribe her with dessert. Maybe for some kids, it is better to feed dessert first, but with Aislyn, she would probably eat the dessert and then say she's full and never eat anything else. And this kid is far from being fat. I keep telling her she needs to eat to grow and be strong, but it's like I'm talking to a brick wall. I worry about this child.
 

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We have a new PetSmart coming in. They sent out ads with a coupon for a free bag of cat food. I'm gonna look at the ingredients of the brands they're offering and if the first ingredient isn't meat, I don't want to feed it to my boys - I can't afford the super expensive foods, but I figure if meat is at least the first thing listed, it's decent. I feed them Purina OneSource right now. If it's mostly filler, should I get it anyway and donate it to the Humane Society? I'd feel kinda guilty donating something that I wouldn't feed to my cats, but some food is better than none, right?
 

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Some food is definitely better than none. Think of it from the human perspective - Hamburger Helper is better than not eating at all, even if it's inferior to steak and fresh veggies.
 

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If it's mostly filler, should I get it anyway and donate it to the Humane Society? I'd feel kinda guilty donating something that I wouldn't feed to my cats, but some food is better than none, right
The tnr I got Lelia from requests Cat Chow - I do think it's mostly given to the ferals who supplement with hunting, but they know it's affordable and are just happy to keep the cats fed. A tnr may have different wants thsn an actual shelter, but you can't always afford or expect to be given the highest quality.

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I've been feeling like a terrible person lately because despite me being extremely privileged, I don't feel grateful for it.

Case in point - my seven years younger sister got engaged a few days ago and I know I should feel happy for her and I went through the motions, but in reality I'm not at all. I'm jealous and frustrated and now if my bf proposes in the near future it'll just look like a piggyback or that he only did it because my sister's fiancé did. And even if it didn't, it won't matter as much or there will be less joy from people like "you too, that's nice". She's been dating him less time than I've been with mine, they moved in together first, and we're all going out next month to see my dad's extended family and what will have been a meet and greet will probably now mostly be about her wedding. And then I just get to overthinking.

Like I feel like I've always been behind in my peer group and she does everything right. She gets a job right after college, making over twice what I made in my first teaching job (she's not a teacher), moved into a nice apartment and had been happy at her job since. Plus, everything with her fiancé has gone so smoothly. I couldn't get a job at first, have lost several, had abusive bosses and lived at home until I was 29. She has good friends from college and such that she still keeps in touch with. I have one old friend and I honestly have pretty bad social skills. Most people who start out liking me end up changing their minds. She's prettier. So even in non romantic relationship things she's always done better.

I know I'm so lucky in a lot of ways. I've been able to travel so many places she'll probably never get to. I should be a good person and be happy for her, but I'm not. I'm a negative small minded person who can't just be grateful for her first world life. I know I have it so much better than so many people.

I'm sorry I wrote so much. My negative voice has just been extra loud these past few days.
 
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We don't have a tnr group here. We have a humane society and a rescue group. I could donate to either place. The rescue is no kill unless the animal is too sick to be helped. The humane society says they're no kill unless they're out of space or resources.
It can be hard to not compare yourself to your peers, but it's something you should try to focus on. We're all different; we have different lives; we move at different speeds. If your bf does propose, it will be just as special. I'm sure people will be just as happy for you.
 

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I wasn't necessarily saying give to a tnr, sorry. Just that I noticed a group with limited resources knows that to get enough donations and get all the cats fed they don't ask for the highest quality, so your groups would probably be happy with whatever you gave.

If your bf does propose, it will be just as special.
See, I know I should believe that but I can't right now. We talked and he says I need to work on being more affectionate before it can happen, and while I understand that's what he needs and I want to make him happy and will work on it, the underlying message is that me who I am isn't good enough to get married and if it happens it'll be because I had to work to be something that wasn't natural to my personality to deserve it. I can't just be good enough on my own. And that shadow will always be there.

I'm sorry, I shouldn't be derailing your guys' normal discussion with this.
 

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The tnr I got Lelia from requests Cat Chow - I do think it's mostly given to the ferals who supplement with hunting, but they know it's affordable and are just happy to keep the cats fed. A tnr may have different wants thsn an actual shelter, but you can't always afford or expect to be given the highest quality.
You mean Purina Cat Chow? It may not be the feline version of filet mignon but it's not going to ruin a cat's health either. It'd be nice if we could all afford the very best for our cats (and for our kids and for ourselves) but for 99% of the people out there that just isn't possible. Realistic budget is what fills the belly, not the perfect food pyramid.
 

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Purina is what I give my cats. There are a few brands I'm not familiar with lifeli on the coupon but since they're free, they probably aren't great.
There's never anything wrong with trying to improve yourself but if you each need different things, you need to decide if you want to change or end the relationship.
 

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Same here. I've switched recently from Cat Chow to Kitten Chow to try and keep weight on Montressor, so of course Midway is plumping up. I should have named him Garfield. Anyone who wants to say how it's bad, I'd have to ask how much can it possibly shorten lives if one cat died at 20, one is 19 and still doing well, and one is 15 and his only nod to old age is more naps.
 

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Yeah, after trying all the mid-grade kibbles, I've settled on Purina One and Purina Beyond. I once read somewhere that Purina has the best vitamin/mineral premix in the industry, and that must be true based on my results. I feel like food coloring contributes to litterbox odor and barfing, so only One or Beyond for the indoor cats, but regular Cat Chow for the outside cats (since I don't have to smell them or clean up after them ;)). Canned Friskies for everybody. My childhood cats lived on Cat Chow and Fancy Feast and lived to be 21 so it can't be too terrible.

The last time Petsmart did a free bag of food promotion, Pro Plan was included. It's nearly identical to One so you could get that and mix it with their One so as not to disrupt anything.

If Kitten Chow doesn't get the results you want, try Purina One Kitten. I've had excellent results with it.
 

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Lari Lari This sounds a bit like two of my nieces. Younger niece was always the more popular, pretty, successful of the two. First to marry, first to buy a house and first to have a child of all of my nieces and nephews. She would also point out her older sister's faults and would make the older sister feel bad. Well, older sister has now hit her stride and is more confident and happier than she has ever been. She loves her job, is now married and has a great network of friends. Give it some time. :hugs:
 
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