Apollos Leaving :(:(:(

FlawlessImperfection · Mar 4, 2018

Praying for your safety. :hearthrob:

Don’t be afraid to call the police at even a hint of trouble, that’s what they are there for and they would ask that you do to be on the safe side. I would think about filing a complaint about him hurting you immediately, that way it’s been documented and you can get a protective order for you and the babies. No more abuse!! You can do it, you are important and you are loved! We believe in you! :hearthrob:

LokiNApolloMami · Mar 4, 2018

FlawlessImperfection said:
Praying for your safety. Don’t be afraid to call the police at even a hint of trouble, that’s what they are there for and they would ask that you do to be on the safe side. I would think about filing a complaint about him hurting you immediately, that way it’s been documented and you can get a protective order for you and the babies. No more abuse!! You can do it, you are important and you are loved! We believe in you!

Thank you for the advice!! Will get something done about it tomorrow.. it just really sucks, we have been together 6 years, we just got married in July, I don't understand where this is coming from with him, it all started when he lost his job 5 months ago, started running around with the wrong people, got into drugs, and he just lost it when I was telling him we need to spend sometime apart so he can get his life together , get off the drugs& get a job and to stick with it, to prove me that he is an adult... this was all supposed to be temporary, he has never physically hurt me before, has gotten mad enough a couple times to threaten, but after today I can't go back to that, he's lost everything, I know it sucks but I'm not letting him drag me down too.. I'm 30 years old with a 13 yr old son, and all my furbabies, I have priorities, and I can't get over that he cannot see that, but the temporary phase of whatever this is, is over especially after threatening to brake all my animals necks and elbowing me today. It's going to be a permanent decision now, and I'm fine with it. I have been through this before and once they start and u stay with them, they seem to think it's OK, and it's not. I have had bad luck with men and believe it or not until recently this guy has been the best to me. Never again, I do not mind being alone, my fairy tale is real and doesn't consist of a man! it's me, my son, my kitties, my puppy and my gliders. They are all I need.

raysmyheart · Mar 5, 2018

LokiNApolloMami , I am glad to hear and strongly sense that you have a strong personality and you know "what's what". Please know that you are still in my prayers for your safety and some relief and comfort for you. Marianne and Speedy.

verna davies · Mar 5, 2018

Hi

LokiNApolloMami . How are things today. Are you all safe. Please keep us updated

LokiNApolloMami · Mar 5, 2018

Today is a good day!.. he came by to grab some more of his stuff, he was civil, and showed me paperwork on a job at a warehouse that he's starting at tommorrow, also said he has an interview for an oil rig job in texas, but will stick with the warehouse work until he gets that forsure. I told him that's awesome and that to keep it up. He didn't try to beg to come home or threaten anything. So I hope for his sake he does keep it up, I do care for him, we have been through alot together, and he has taken care of me quite a bit in the past. I just have to stand my ground with this.. I was proud of what I seen today, but I also know that can change in an instant!.. I just talked to my new landlord also, he said the inspected found a couple minor electrical issues that he is fixing right now, and that the inspector will come back tomorrow to check it out, and that everything should go OK after that, and I can start moving in!

dustydiamond1 · Mar 5, 2018

I just now ran across this thread and I'm sorry I haven't been here offering my moral support until now! Thank heavens the wonderful others were here for you! :vibes:

LokiNApolloMami · Mar 5, 2018

dustydiamond1 said:
I just now ran across this thread and I'm sorry I haven't been here offering my moral support until now! Thank heavens the wonderful others were here for you!

Thank you!! Yes I've gotten alot of support and I'm so very thankful for everything. Me and All the kitties just watched Thor Ragnarok , Cali sitting on my chest and a bigboy on each side of me.. was the best feeling ever!..** more news, landlord cAlled back a couple hrs later to say he finished what needed to be done, called the inspector to let him know, and he came back then to check it out! I'm good to go to put down my deposit and first months rent, & grab the keys Wednesday after work to get things started.. I have everything carefully planned out on what's going to be done, Wednesday I'm bring all laundry and cleaning supplies( I have the bottom apartment, which has a basement, and a washer and dryer already hooked up for me!).. getting started on laundry, blankets bedding towels everything and cleaning the whole place, comming back to me old place when I'm finished, staying there for that night, go to work in the morning.. after I leave work come back to my old place to grab boxes and bags that are already packed, plus all the animals and their things and we will all campout that night on the living room floor!.. go to work the next morning, when I leave come back go the old house grab some more boxes and bags of things packed, probably will have to spend more time packing, take it to the new place, stay there again, then Saturday I work a 12 HR day so I will take a break from moving that day, Sunday I'm off work,get a uhaul AnD hopefully by then it's just the big stuff! And hopefully by Monday, I'm off again, I have everything all moved in and am unpacking and setting everything up!

verna davies · Mar 5, 2018

Sounds like you have everything organised. Well done. I hope it all goes to plan and that you and your kitties are happy in your new home. Look forward to hearing more news.

dustydiamond1 · Mar 5, 2018

LokiNApolloMami said:
Thank you!! Yes I've gotten alot of support and I'm so very thankful for everything. Me and All the kitties just watched Thor Ragnarok , Cali sitting on my chest and a bigboy on each side of me.. was the best feeling ever!..** more news, landlord cAlled back a couple hrs later to say he finished what needed to be done, called the inspector to let him know, and he came back then to check it out! I'm good to go to put down my deposit and first months rent, & grab the keys Wednesday after work to get things started.. I have everything carefully planned out on what's going to be done, Wednesday I'm bring all laundry and cleaning supplies( I have the bottom apartment, which has a basement, and a washer and dryer already hooked up for me!).. getting started on laundry, blankets bedding towels everything and cleaning the whole place, comming back to me old place when I'm finished, staying there for that night, go to work in the morning.. after I leave work come back to my old place to grab boxes and bags that are already packed, plus all the animals and their things and we will all campout that night on the living room floor!.. go to work the next morning, when I leave come back go the old house grab some more boxes and bags of things packed, probably will have to spend more time packing, take it to the new place, stay there again, then Saturday I work a 12 HR day so I will take a break from moving that day, Sunday I'm off work,get a uhaul AnD hopefully by then it's just the big stuff! And hopefully by Monday, I'm off again, I have everything all moved in and am unpacking and setting everything up!

LokiNApolloMami · Mar 5, 2018

verna davies said:
Sounds like you have everything organised. Well done. I hope it all goes to plan and that you and your kitties are happy in your new home. Look forward to hearing more news.

To be honest, all this stuff that's been happening, I have just recently learned about thinking and planning on the decisions I'm going to make, I was always one to just do whatever without thinking, and I would always get knocked down with whatever decision I made.. it feels so good now to really think, I think turning 30 really did something to me, I was slowing getting better since 25, but I feel different now, good different, smart. And before was always dreaming big dreams of what I wanted to be and do, too big, stuff that really could not be, now I have accepted my life will be ordinary and I have to do to make the best of that, and I'm totally fine with it, I'm happy with it. I don't have any real friends, I don't want any, especially the kind of people I used to know, had to cut them from my life, and it has never been better!..you all are Really the closest thing I have to a real friend anymore, I know we may not for real know each other but we all are here for eachother, and it says so much! And does more for me than any of the people I have hung around with have ever done!.. so thank you all again!

verna davies · Mar 5, 2018

I firmly believe that we have to go through bad times to be able to appreciate good times and this upheaval that you are going through will make you stronger. Enjoy settling into your new home, doing things just for you and your kitties and take pleasure from little 'nice' things that will come your way.

catsknowme · Mar 6, 2018

Glad that you are moving forward with your life & that Apollo and crew are safe

You have found a very supportive internet family - several of my closest friends I have met here at TCS. We support each other in so many ways. Please never feel alone; while many of us are as cautious as ferals, we have safe ways of establishing good friendships and you can PM any of us at any time. Thank you for the updates. Sending prayers and vibes from California for all of you - kitties, pup, sugar gliders, your son,
you :vibes:

FlawlessImperfection · Mar 6, 2018

LokiNApolloMami said:
Thank you for the advice!! Will get something done about it tomorrow.. it just really sucks, we have been together 6 years, we just got married in July, I don't understand where this is coming from with him, it all started when he lost his job 5 months ago, started running around with the wrong people, got into drugs, and he just lost it when I was telling him we need to spend sometime apart so he can get his life together , get off the drugs& get a job and to stick with it, to prove me that he is an adult... this was all supposed to be temporary, he has never physically hurt me before, has gotten mad enough a couple times to threaten, but after today I can't go back to that, he's lost everything, I know it sucks but I'm not letting him drag me down too.. I'm 30 years old with a 13 yr old son, and all my furbabies, I have priorities, and I can't get over that he cannot see that, but the temporary phase of whatever this is, is over especially after threatening to brake all my animals necks and elbowing me today. It's going to be a permanent decision now, and I'm fine with it. I have been through this before and once they start and u stay with them, they seem to think it's OK, and it's not. I have had bad luck with men and believe it or not until recently this guy has been the best to me. Never again, I do not mind being alone, my fairy tale is real and doesn't consist of a man! it's me, my son, my kitties, my puppy and my gliders. They are all I need.

I’m so proud of you. :hearthrob:

You’ve managed to turn your fear and hurt into action and purpose, and that makes you simply amazing and special. Not only are you helping yourself and your babies, but it sounds like your husband was very positively affected by your wise decisions and steps. It’s hard to have to separate yourself from someone you love, and with Gods grace he may get real help and show you a REAL change. No matter what happens, if you simply focus on standing loving ground you both will better for it. I love that I haven’t heard a bitter word from you, you are putting your energy into positive change. Continued prayers and love, you are amazing and a child of God- never forget that! In the end, we are all brothers and sisters meant to love and support each other on this earth, that’s how it should be.

LokiNApolloMami · Mar 6, 2018

FlawlessImperfection said:
I’m so proud of you. You’ve managed to turn your fear and hurt into action and purpose, and that makes you simply amazing and special. Not only are you helping yourself and your babies, but it sounds like your husband was very positively affected by your wise decisions and steps. It’s hard to have to separate yourself from someone you love, and with Gods grace he may get real help and show you a REAL change. No matter what happens, if you simply focus on standing loving ground you both will better for it. I love that I haven’t heard a bitter word from you, you are putting your energy into positive change. Continued prayers and love, you are amazing and a child of God- never forget that! In the end, we are all brothers and sisters meant to love and support each other on this earth, that’s how it should be.

OH.MY.GOSH!!.. I'm seriously tearing up right now, u have no idea how much it means to me to have all your support, I really mean that! A person can try to be so strong on their own, but to know u have so many people to back u up, reassuring you, that you are making the right decisions about things, really helps a tremendous amount! So again, I sincerely thank all of you from the bottom of my heart, for being here for me and the kitties during this rough point in our lives.. you all are the kindest people for checking up on us everyday, and giving me advice to better our situation, I so wish we all lived near each other so we can have a kitty playdate, and I can take you all out for dinner! Thank you all very much, I just can't say it enough!

FlawlessImperfection · Mar 6, 2018

LokiNApolloMami said:
OH.MY.GOSH!!.. I'm seriously tearing up right now, u have no idea how much it means to me to have all your support, I really mean that! A person can try to be so strong on their own, but to know u have so many people to back u up, reassuring you, that you are making the right decisions about things, really helps a tremendous amount! So again, I sincerely thank all of you from the bottom of my heart, for being here for me and the kitties during this rough point in our lives.. you all are the kindest people for checking up on us everyday, and giving me advice to better our situation, I so wish we all lived near each other so we can have a kitty playdate, and I can take you all out for dinner! Thank you all very much, I just can't say it enough!

Take this (my favorite) with you always: “Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” (‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭31‬:‭6‬ KJV)
I hope it will help you like it has me! With that promise you are never alone, always loved and you can move mountains. :hearthrob:

kashmir64 · Mar 6, 2018

I learned this a long time ago....take a roll of TP with you on the first day. It's something you don't think about, until you wish you had.

Thor Ragnorok, best movie yet. I give it 10 out of 10 Goldblum's.

Mamanyt1953 · Mar 6, 2018

LokiNApolloMami said:
you all are Really the closest thing I have to a real friend anymore, I know we may not for real know each other but we all are here for eachother, and it says so much!

Some of the best, dearest friends of my life I have made here on TCS. We truly are a community, in all of the best senses of the word!

kashmir64 said:
I learned this a long time ago....take a roll of TP with you on the first day. It's something you don't think about, until you wish you had.

LORD YES! I've had a couple of neighbors moving into our complex knock on my door and ask if I had a spare roll.

Now, I have to tell you how very proud of you I am. I know, from sad experience, how hard this is. And how painful. I think of it this way...birth is never without pain, and in a real sense, you are giving birth to yourself right now...All of the insights, the growth, the realizations of self are coming to fruition, and you are now at the beginning stage of being the strong, independent, savvy, smart woman that you are meant to be. HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Darlin! NOTHING can stop you now!

Furballsmom · Mar 6, 2018

Mamanyt1953 said:
you are now at the beginning stage of being the strong, independent, savvy, smart woman that you are meant to be. HAPPY BIRTHDAY

And from me as well, I'm so glad those critters have you!!

LokiNApolloMami · Mar 6, 2018

FlawlessImperfection said:
Take this (my favorite) with you always: “Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the Lord thy God, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.” (‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭31‬:‭6‬ KJV)
I hope it will help you like it has me! With that promise you are never alone, always loved and you can move mountains.

Whenever I feel I just can't take it anymore, I promise I will go back to This, but I can feel the maturity flowing through me, I know what's important and what doesn't matter& it feels good to not have to question myself, to just know. And things I don't know, I don't worry so much anymore because I know I can always figure it out! Things are rough right now, but I know, things will be OK

LokiNApolloMami · Mar 6, 2018

kashmir64 said:
I learned this a long time ago....take a roll of TP with you on the first day. It's something you don't think about, until you wish you had.

Thor Ragnorok, best movie yet. I give it 10 out of 10 Goldblum's.

Thank you!!! That defiantly would've been something I forgot, especially since my mind will be on grabbing cleaning stuff and laundry tomorrow,.. it is noted **BRING TP!**

and OMG that movie was the best, probably the best out of all the Avengers Movies!!!!!!!

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