Baby Cakepop, A Fighter Til The End

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Roughly seven weeks ago I missed my streetcar stop on the way home from a movie. I've never been so thankful for my inattentiveness. That lengthened midnight walk led me through a parking lot where a tiny orange kitten stood alone in the dark, crying for help. Cradled in one hand, I rushed him home, making slightly panicked phone calls.
No, the only person I knew with a nursing cat was just about done weaning her kittens, and besides, who knows what diseases the little feral city cat could carry?
The ASPCA may take him, but its kitten season, and I saw posts from my local shelters looking for fosters daily. No, I had decided, this guy was my responsibility. At least until the morning.
In a mildly hysteric phone call I asked my confused boyfriend to get to the store and get kitten formula.
I bathed him, and slowly discovered a plethora of issues. He was constantly sniffly. Under the kitten fuzz, he was mostly bones and fleas. Something was wrong with his skin; his tail was swollen and scabby, and his feet and ankles had big dirt-colored scabs too. Some of you guys know this part of the story.
Its the part where I join TCS and ask about skin conditions.
A vet visit later confirmed ringworm. And upper respiratory infection.
My plans of handing him off to a more experienced individual evaporated. I couldn't pass my walking fungus vehicle off to contaminate the animal shelter.l or a foster's home. I signed off my free time and much of my sleeping time as round the clock syringe feeder, medicine doser, anti fungal dipper, and kitty butt wiper. It helped that I was already getting attached to him, despite vet warnings that he may not make it through the week. He mostly slept at this point, and he has always been a deep sleeper. I loved playing with his toes and petting his newly round tummy while he dreamed. Sometimes he would twitch his legs and ears and purr in his sleep.
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Other times he would jolt awake from heavy sleep, hissing madly until he remembered where he was. I wondered, then, what his life must have been like before I found him. It seemed like he had bad dreams, especially at night, and sometime he would hiss at nothing and arch his back at shadows.
He was growing faster than I could even comprehend. Within 5 days his body had doubled in size, catching up to the big round head that earned him the Cakepop part of his name.
Every weekend I packed up all his supplies and took him to my sister's house, where my nephews and sister could continue taking care of him until I got home from work each day.
Her doberman, Bella, was slightly frightened of him. She has anxiety, especially about unfamiliar things. The little dog, though? She loved him. The minute Sandy saw him she wanted to take care of him and lick his scabs. We had to keep her away so she wouldn't catch his ringworm, but that was an endeavor we eventually gave up on, opting instead to give her an antifungal bath every once in a while and let her immune system do the rest.
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Cake grew into a feisty little monster. We knew from a very young age that he was a fighter. He never forgot where he came from, I think. A wild streetcat through and through.
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He endured far more baths and dips than any kitten deserves, and he took it like a champ. Every time I bathed him I was surprised he didn't hate me after.
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He kept getting bigger, to the point where sometimes I would wake uo astounded at how much he could grow. And he got feistier too.
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His health was steadily climbing, and we learned that after so many car rides, he was used to it, liked it, even. I would put him in his harness and let him stand up to the windows or sit on my sister's lap. He was turning into an adventurer, and we let him run errands with us.
When he finally got a clean bill of health, negative FIV and FeLV tests and his first vaccines, I was ecstatic. I thought, we're finally out of the woods.
I got to pick up the kitten I had planned to adopt until I found my contagious little puffball and decided to delay it. At thirteen weeks, Steve could finally come home. Those two got along swell.
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But the /finally I have both of my boys/ phase didn't last. Cake lost his appetite, started vomiting. Even after he threw up everything in his tummy, he kept vomiting bile. I had my boyfriend come get Steve while i kept Cake at my sister's house to keep an eye on him. The vet was closed already. He went to sleep in bed with me. I found someone to take my shift and slept, worried, but hopeful about a vet visit the next day.
When I woke up, he was in the closet, very lethargic. He wouldn't drink, so I spooned water into his mouth and wrapped him in a blanket to get to the vet after we dropped the nephews off at school. The vet wasn't open yet, but at 8 I called them and told them the situation, and they agreed to see him immediately. When I got there he was worse, barely able to summon the energy to open his eyes. They rushed off and left me panicked and confused in a waiting room.
I had been half-convinced he had swallowed sometjing and had a foreign body blocking his tummy.
They warmed him up and got fluids into him through an IV, got him on oxygen, stabilized his blood sugar. They told me that he had fought them about the IV and in general, like he just about always does. I laughed, relieved that he was feeling better.
But x-rays revealed nothing, and further tests showed his white blood cell count was low. He fell back asleep soon. They left me with him for a little while. He was so weak and lethargic, and he seemed unable to see me, though he responded in hoarse, weak little mews when I talked to him.
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After a little while he seemed to have trouble breathing and I called the vets back in.
They explained that they didn't think he was going to get better, he wasn't responding to stimuli, his condition was getting worse again. We had been there for four hours. They offered to refer me to a veterinary hospital, but warned they would be expensive and may not be able to help. Sobbing, I asked them what I should do, and my vet just shook her head and said she didn't then he was going to make it. I signed the papers and wailed when they left me alone with his body. It felt - still feels - unreal. He was doing so well, and in a day he was torn away from me. They think it was panleukopenia.
I took him home and buried him in his fox blanket in my back yard.
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Sometimes I wake up at night and want to go lie by his grave. He was afraid to be outside at night. I am irrationally guilty that he's alone out there.
I loved him. I was obsessed with him. I spent so much time researching which kitten foods were best, and how to teach him good manners and getting him used to walking on his leash. If I wasn't at work, we were inseparable. I don't know if I would have made it through my first two months in my apartment without throwing in the towel and breaking my lease if it hadn't been for him. My roommate situation isn't great, most days I'm still the only one cleaning up and I feel isolated a lot of the time, but my baby brightened my day, every single day. I miss waking up to him resting in the crook of my arm or stretched out under my chin.
...or pulling my hair and screaming at me. I even miss that.
I can hardly bare his absence.
I did my best to save you, itty bitty.
 
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Things Cake taught me:


Bend Rules
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Or ignore them outright
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Climb trees
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Take it easy
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Get up when you fall
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Be brave
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Be sweet
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It's okay to be ridiculous
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What a beautiful story, what wonderful memories you have of that precious baby! You DID save him, you showed him what love and care is all about, he gained the time he spent with you and so much more. You tried so hard, and it still wasn't enough, I don't understand why things like this have to happen. My heart cries for the injustice of losing this little fighter, one so loved, so wanted. It doesn't make sense.
Fate brought you together, and fate took him away, but in the meantime you gained something so precious, so rare, Baby Cakepop's heart. Yours is broken now, but the bond you have with that sweet baby will remain until the end of time. Know he loved you above all else, and he shared his life's journey with you for a little while. You gave him everything he ever wanted, and he loves you for it. He would never want those wonderful memories full of sadness, he wants only the best for the one he loved so much. Be proud of what you did for him, you were his world. Don't let this shut your heart from accepting love in the future, what you gain from helping these beautiful little ones is more precious than any jewel. He leaves you a precious legacy to be passed on in his name. It is tragic beyond comprehension to die alone and unloved, and your very soul will be blessed for your preventing this.
Little Cakepop was sent to you to care for, it was meant to be, but now he was called home and you are left with a shattered heart. Try to celebrate having him in your world for a little while, he has created beautiful memories for you to treasure.
We will all mourn the loss of one so innocent, he deserves no less. I'll cry with you for the injustice of losing a little one, I'll pray that he is kept safe safe and warm until you meet again. He was an angel here on this earth, and now an angel at the Rainbow Bridge. Thank you so much for your beautiful tribute to that tiny warrior, you both fought so hard, and now he rests in peace. Take care...........RIP Little Baby Cakepop, you will never be forgotten in this world, you will leave your mark in the next. You will forever hold a special place in a loving heart and in the memories of those who love and miss you so very much. Good night, sleep tight, little warrior!
 

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I'm so sorry! I loved seeing the photos of Cake going for car rides in his harness. How did he get Distemper?
 

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Roughly seven weeks ago I missed my streetcar stop on the way home from a movie. I've never been so thankful for my inattentiveness. That lengthened midnight walk led me through a parking lot where a tiny orange kitten stood alone in the dark, crying for help. Cradled in one hand, I rushed him home, making slightly panicked phone calls.
No, the only person I knew with a nursing cat was just about done weaning her kittens, and besides, who knows what diseases the little feral city cat could carry?
The ASPCA may take him, but its kitten season, and I saw posts from my local shelters looking for fosters daily. No, I had decided, this guy was my responsibility. At least until the morning.
In a mildly hysteric phone call I asked my confused boyfriend to get to the store and get kitten formula.
I bathed him, and slowly discovered a plethora of issues. He was constantly sniffly. Under the kitten fuzz, he was mostly bones and fleas. Something was wrong with his skin; his tail was swollen and scabby, and his feet and ankles had big dirt-colored scabs too. Some of you guys know this part of the story.
Its the part where I join TCS and ask about skin conditions.
A vet visit later confirmed ringworm. And upper respiratory infection.
My plans of handing him off to a more experienced individual evaporated. I couldn't pass my walking fungus vehicle off to contaminate the animal shelter.l or a foster's home. I signed off my free time and much of my sleeping time as round the clock syringe feeder, medicine doser, anti fungal dipper, and kitty butt wiper. It helped that I was already getting attached to him, despite vet warnings that he may not make it through the week. He mostly slept at this point, and he has always been a deep sleeper. I loved playing with his toes and petting his newly round tummy while he dreamed. Sometimes he would twitch his legs and ears and purr in his sleep. View attachment 196178 Other times he would jolt awake from heavy sleep, hissing madly until he remembered where he was. I wondered, then, what his life must have been like before I found him. It seemed like he had bad dreams, especially at night, and sometime he would hiss at nothing and arch his back at shadows.
He was growing faster than I could even comprehend. Within 5 days his body had doubled in size, catching up to the big round head that earned him the Cakepop part of his name.
Every weekend I packed up all his supplies and took him to my sister's house, where my nephews and sister could continue taking care of him until I got home from work each day.
Her doberman, Bella, was slightly frightened of him. She has anxiety, especially about unfamiliar things. The little dog, though? She loved him. The minute Sandy saw him she wanted to take care of him and lick his scabs. We had to keep her away so she wouldn't catch his ringworm, but that was an endeavor we eventually gave up on, opting instead to give her an antifungal bath every once in a while and let her immune system do the rest. View attachment 196168
Cake grew into a feisty little monster. We knew from a very young age that he was a fighter. He never forgot where he came from, I think. A wild streetcat through and through. View attachment 196179
He endured far more baths and dips than any kitten deserves, and he took it like a champ. Every time I bathed him I was surprised he didn't hate me after. View attachment 196183

He kept getting bigger, to the point where sometimes I would wake uo astounded at how much he could grow. And he got feistier too.
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His health was steadily climbing, and we learned that after so many car rides, he was used to it, liked it, even. I would put him in his harness and let him stand up to the windows or sit on my sister's lap. He was turning into an adventurer, and we let him run errands with us.
When he finally got a clean bill of health, negative FIV and FeLV tests and his first vaccines, I was ecstatic. I thought, we're finally out of the woods.
I got to pick up the kitten I had planned to adopt until I found my contagious little puffball and decided to delay it. At thirteen weeks, Steve could finally come home. Those two got along swell.
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But the /finally I have both of my boys/ phase didn't last. Cake lost his appetite, started vomiting. Even after he threw up everything in his tummy, he kept vomiting bile. I had my boyfriend come get Steve while i kept Cake at my sister's house to keep an eye on him. The vet was closed already. He went to sleep in bed with me. I found someone to take my shift and slept, worried, but hopeful about a vet visit the next day.
When I woke up, he was in the closet, very lethargic. He wouldn't drink, so I spooned water into his mouth and wrapped him in a blanket to get to the vet after we dropped the nephews off at school. The vet wasn't open yet, but at 8 I called them and told them the situation, and they agreed to see him immediately. When I got there he was worse, barely able to summon the energy to open his eyes. They rushed off and left me panicked and confused in a waiting room.
I had been half-convinced he had swallowed sometjing and had a foreign body blocking his tummy.
They warmed him up and got fluids into him through an IV, got him on oxygen, stabilized his blood sugar. They told me that he had fought them about the IV and in general, like he just about always does. I laughed, relieved that he was feeling better.
But x-rays revealed nothing, and further tests showed his white blood cell count was low. He fell back asleep soon. They left me with him for a little while. He was so weak and lethargic, and he seemed unable to see me, though he responded in hoarse, weak little mews when I talked to him. View attachment 196192
After a little while he seemed to have trouble breathing and I called the vets back in.
They explained that they didn't think he was going to get better, he wasn't responding to stimuli, his condition was getting worse again. We had been there for four hours. They offered to refer me to a veterinary hospital, but warned they would be expensive and may not be able to help. Sobbing, I asked them what I should do, and my vet just shook her head and said she didn't then he was going to make it. I signed the papers and wailed when they left me alone with his body. It felt - still feels - unreal. He was doing so well, and in a day he was torn away from me. They think it was panleukopenia.
I took him home and buried him in his fox blanket in my back yard.
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Sometimes I wake up at night and want to go lie by his grave. He was afraid to be outside at night. I am irrationally guilty that he's alone out there.
I loved him. I was obsessed with him. I spent so much time researching which kitten foods were best, and how to teach him good manners and getting him used to walking on his leash. If I wasn't at work, we were inseparable. I don't know if I would have made it through my first two months in my apartment without throwing in the towel and breaking my lease if it hadn't been for him. My roommate situation isn't great, most days I'm still the only one cleaning up and I feel isolated a lot of the time, but my baby brightened my day, every single day. I miss waking up to him resting in the crook of my arm or stretched out under my chin.
...or pulling my hair and screaming at me. I even miss that.
I can hardly bare his absence.
I did my best to save you, itty bitty.
I feel your pain. You did all that you could, and your feelings of guilt for wanting to lie by his grave are not so irrational. Many of us struggle with our grief and feelings of guilt. I lost my Lucy six months ago and I still feel the grief and the guilt, as all I have left of her is a small box of cold ashes. I feel your pain, my friend.
 
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Rest you gentle, little Cake, dream you deep. Your tiny life touched more hearts than you can ever know, and your footprints are on your mama's heart forever.

Oh, my Darlin, having shared a tiny bit of this journey with you, my heart is breaking a bit, right along with yours. This is what I know, deep inside my being. That within us which allows us to love never dies. Although Cake's tiny body may be in your backyard, his enormous spirit is right inside next to you. He isn't alone in the dark, I promise. You gave so much to that precious little scrapper, and because of you, he knew what it was to be loved, and warm, and just...a kitten. I will never forget him, he walks in my heart forever, too.
 

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Such a short life for such a lovely little one. You can tell in the photos that he was so full of life, confident and beyond measure loved. I am so sorry for your loss but at least in his short life he knew what it was to be loved and cared for. Rest in peace little Cakepop.
 

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I am so sorry for the loss of that sweet little one, for some reason it was his time to move on even though you wanted differently, so so sad. But I will tell you something that someone said to me once "it is better to have a good short life than a bad long one"; I know it doesn't help much but it is true, for some reason God needed a little Angel and he needed yours.

I am sorry, I hope your heart heals a bit more each day, God Bless you.....:alright: :grouphug2: :rbheart:
 

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What a lovely kitten. I'm so sorry that he was only with you for a short time. I hope you can take some comfort from the fact that he had a happy life with you and that life was so much better than it would have been if you never found him.

It sounds like you learnt a lot from taking care of him. I've had cats that were with me for way too short a time, but each one of them taught me something. I think they come into our lives for a reason. I know your heart is broken now, but I think in time you'll be able to use what you learnt from taking care of Baby Cakepop to help some other cat in need.

Rest in Peace little baby, you will be missed.
 

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Wow your story was really touching. I can completely relate to what your going through with the nostalgia of missing cakepop, wanting to rest by her grave etc. When you love someone so much its only natural to feel these things. I think you have a wonderful soul and went beyond what most people would do to try to help cakepop. So don't let yourself feel like you didn't do enough. I think part of his recovery and living that long had to do with your love. I'm sure he felt it and it kept him from giving up. Although his time on earth was short, it was also wonderful because you were in it. You will miss him and those feelings take a long time to lessen their hurt. You just have to take it a day at a time to get through these tough times.

My Mew Mew passed away 3 months ago and not one day goes by when I don't think about her. And each time I do think about her, the pain hits me hard as if it was the first time. But when this happens I try to remind myself that she is not in pain anymore. I try to remind myself that she had an amazing life because of how much love and time I put into her care. Most importantly I remind myself that one day when I leave this world I will see her again and we will never be apart again. These thoughts are what keeps me going and dulls the pain. So please remember this when the pain hits you especially hard. Hopefully it will help ease some of the pain you feel from losing your precious cakepop.
 
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Thank you all so much for the sweet responses. It helps my heart a little to know he will be remembered fondly by so many, and to talk to people who understand how important a little kitty can be.
We don't know how he got sick. From my research it seems like the virus is everywhere, it lives for years and is very hardy. Maybe Cake didn't have enough antibodies from his mother to keep him safe before he got vaccinated, and it sat quietly in his system before revealing itself. Or maybe he had antibodies from his mother that prevented his vaccines from working, but weren't adequate to fight the real thing. We don't know. (These are real scenarios by the way, which is why it's very important for kittens to get booster shots).

I am aching for all of you who have also lost kitty companions. The last time I've experienced the loss of a cat, I was a little kid. I think I was about seven years old. I remember in class the next day, I drew a picture of myself on my bed, afloat in an ocean of tears. I wasn't even old enough to fully process my grief then, though. It hurts much more now.

If anyone would like to revisit pictures of my little one, his old locked thread is Kitten Skin Issue
He also had an instagram, I never mentioned it because it felt like self-promotion, but there's a good little pile of pictures and videos there if anyone wants to look back on him. Cakepop (@cakepopcat) • Instagram photos and videos

My grieving has been strange. Mostly the bargaining stage. Did you guys know, for instance, that it costs $25,000 to clone a cat? Or you could have a cat cryogenically frozen until science is capable of resurrection for a few thousand. Or you could freeze dry, which is basically like very lifelike taxidermy, for a couple of hundred dollars.

I would never do any of those things, of course. It would defeat the purpose of the whole thing, I think. Cake was a little kitten who needed help, and there are still so many little ones in similar situations. If I spent so much money trying to hang on to a memory of him or somehow recreate him rather than help living animals, it would be disrespectful to his memory and to other animals in his position. That said, some urge still drove me to look all of those things up.

I've been getting a little better every day. It still hurts more than anything, but I've reached a point where I'm not crying at work anymore. I can go most of the day without crying now, in fact.

I bought a big bag of catfood for the neighborhood strays. I'm going to borrow some traps and try to have them neutered myself. The local spca is spread too thin to come pick them up, but they do TNR if we bring them in. I don't want more little ones sick and starving out there like Cake was when I found him.

My other kitten has been doing well. He is sweet and snuggly and gentle. I'll make a post about him on New Cats On the Block soon. I worry about him, though, since he's young too. I bleached and steamed the floor in my house, and I threw out the boxes Cake used to play in.
I wanted to collect his toys and keep them locked away somewhere, but my boyfriend threw them away before I could. It's probably better that way, even though it pains me to get rid of all the traces of him.
 

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I have his Instagram page bookmarked so I can go back and visit him and watch all of the videos. :hugs:
 

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What a beautiful tribute to a gorgeous little boy. I know you're hurting. I'm so sorry. You did everything humanly possible for him. It's awful but sometimes, even with all efforts, they just don't make it and no one is to blame for that. Look what you did for him. You gave him a home, you gave him a family and so much love and friendship.

He loved you then, he loves you now and he will love you forever. He knows how hard you tried to save him. He will watch over you until the day comes for you to be reunited and when that day comes, your friendship will pick up like nothing ever happened. The two of you have a bond that nothing- even death can break.

Thank you for everything you did for Baby Cakepop. His life was too short but it was one that knew so much love. That love will last forever. Please talk about him all you want. We are here for you. :hugs: :alright:

RIP Baby Cakepop. You will never be forgotten and you will always be loved. :rbheart:
 

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My heartfelt sympathies go out to you. You did everything in your power to give Cake a chance and loved him dearly. My deepest regrets and sincere condolences. RIP sweet baby boy. :angel:
 
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Thank you so much, everyone. Your sweet messages make my heart fuller. <3
Im glad I took so many pictures, have some more!
Here's one from when the ringworm was still clearing up.
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Oh, what a wonderful thing you have done! If not for you, he would never have known joy and love, and those pictures show that he knew both, and in abundance!
 

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If not for you, he would never have known joy and love, and those pictures show that he knew both, and in abundance!
I couldn't agree more! You were his guardian angel. Now he can run free at the Bridge with all the other kittens. :hugs:
 
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