Our Beautiful Sweet Daughter Is Leaving Us........and Its Completely Destroying Us

Thank you for sharing your story. Mew Mew was indeed lucky to have you in her life. My heart hurts for those poor sweet babies who did nothing wrong being thrown out like trash. My Cricket and her sister were seen being "thrown out of a car" in a very rural part of the area. Fortunately they were taken in by a woman who fosters dogs for the shelter where we got her from. I hope you and your wife do adopt other kitties. There is no end to the cats who need loving homes and you'll find you really do have enough love to go around, while never forgetting Mew Mew. You might also think about volunteering at a local no kill shelter. That has helped me, and is helping me, tremendously. It is my therapy.

I feel your pain. My cat was my baby & my whole world. The only reason I have a new cat is because he just showed up in my backyard. He's great but he can't hold a candle to Sophie. Miss her so much. If you do get a new kitty, we want pictures!

Art Print Cat's Last Will and Testament

I was hoping for more than just a link, but it's more than worth clicking. Have tissues handy. I needed a lot.

What a beautiful "Will" that was. Absolutely heartbreaking but such a true statement. I hope everyone who loses a cat can do as that "Will" suggests. Speaking of which:

Lionheart22 said:

I feel your pain. My cat was my baby & my whole world. The only reason I have a new cat is because he just showed up in my backyard. He's great but he can't hold a candle to Sophie. Miss her so much. If you do get a new kitty, we want pictures!

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We adopted 3 new kittens. Initially we were only going to adopt 2. But it turned into 3. It started off with talking to a co worker who is a huge cat lover. He is part of a network that rescues strays off the streets, puts them in to foster homes and then eventually gets them adopted. We always talked and were friendly with each other but he never knew how much I cared about cats and animals in general. A few days after Mew Mew passed away I talked with him at work and told him how I felt. When he realized I was a genuine animal lover he offered to let me have a pair of kittens.

He told me he had the perfect pair in terms of what I was looking for. They were two 8 week old brothers that were bonded, were people friendly and well behaved. Also, he told me that one of the brothers was extremely unique. He was almost all black with two spots of white. But the unique part was that he also had silver fur mixed in with his black. When you get close you can see it. He said he has rescued over 50,000 cats over the last few decades and this was the most unique kitten he has ever seen (as far as looks). Apparently, Massachusetts has a shortage of adoptable cats. So his network pre-screens people and then lets them adopt the strays they rescue. Sometimes the stray's are so desirable that they actually have people getting into bidding wars over them.

Usually only pure breeds are the one's that cause bidding wars. However, this domestic short hair mix was so unique that he already had a bid of over $850! When he offered me the pair I thought he was asking me if I would pay the current bid and that he would just let me have it without taking anymore bids. Apparently I was wrong. He told me that he wants me to have them for free because he could tell that from talking to me that we (wife and I) would give them the best home possible. His network cares about the quality of a cat's life first. So he said he didn't care about the money they could get from the bids and prefers to know for sure that the brothers get a good home. I was blown away by his generosity of letting us have this highly desirable kitten for free. I also felt good/honored knowing that he could see just how big of an animal lover we were to trust us with giving these kittens a good home.

So I told him that as long as the wife was okay with them that we would take them. My wife fell in love just from the pictures so we went to pick them up. So that's where the third kitten comes in. While we were there, a little baby girl started to give me an unusual amount of attention. The foster mother said that this kitten is not really friendly and never seeks out attention. Yet, she came up to me, started nuzzling me, purring and wanted to be petted. She reminded me of Mew Mew in a way because she would also always want my attention. When I got up to leave she meowed at me to stay. That's when I knew that there was no way I could not adopt her.

I have always been a planner who thinks things through and takes his time in making a decision. But after the interaction with this baby girl I just knew that she was meant to be with us. So I made the decision right then and there to adopt her as well. That was just this Tuesday. Right now they are all happily at the house. As soon as I get some pictures from the wife I will be sure to post them for you guys.

Mamanyt1953 said:

Let us know how you are doing when you feel able. You are one of us now.

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Thank you for your kind words. Unfortunately, even with the new kittens the loss of my daughter hurts as much as before. I felt ok for a few days after she passed but then it started hitting me all over again. Now, I think about her all the time and wish so badly that she didn't have to leave us. I'm happy that we have new babies in our lives and will love them just as much as Mew Mew. However, Mew Mew was so special that I don't think the devastation we feel from her loss will ever be gone. I know that with time I will have less "down days" but she held such a dear place in our hearts that the "down days" will never completely go away.

Congratulations on your new family Jason! You will still grieve, we all do. But Mew Mew is most likely watching over these new little angels with you. It will get easier in time, but you will never forget her or the pain. I know I don't. Can you post pictures at some point?

SIGH...the thing is, we don't really get over the loss, we just get through it. And, with time, the sharp edges become dull. And the sweet memories outweigh the last, painful ones.

I am so happy that you have these new little lives in your home! Start a brand new thread for them soon, and PLEASE link it here so we can find it! We'll want to share the joy of them with you, as well.

That's wonderful, Jason. Can't wait to see pictures of your 3 new little ones. That's so sweet about the little girl kitty. I hope she will help ease the pain.

I am just seeing this now and think it is wonderful that you are opening your hearts to several in need! It is a BIG jump and adjustment, and you still are very much in the early grieving stages for sure, but slowly, ever so slowly, taking care of the new ones will start to take over your mind, and the pain of the loss of your beloved Mew Mew will lessen somewhat, and as time goes by you will transform into the role of taking care of these guys and you will start to see their personalities come into play on a daily basis; you will never forget Mew Mew but you will grow to love these for who they are, and life will go on in a different way.

Congrats on the new family, be patient and let things play out how they must! I have a feeling the little girl cat will find her way into your heart if she hasn't already.....

I'm so glad you gave a wonderful loving home to new cats who need it. There's nothing like kittens to help with grief and depression they're so cute and silly and loving and comical. Maybe that special little girl kitten was sent to you by Mew Mew to help you.
Years ago in 2005 I had lost my childhood cat at age 20 just 2 months and 3 days after losing my college cat at only 12 to cancer. The 3 of us lived in my first apartment after college on my own together and moved a few times and were a little family for over a decade just me and those 2 cats and the 20 year old I'd had since I was 11 so to lose them both in 2 months was devastating.

At the time my mom became disabled and had moved in with me and her 2 cats were living with us and both became depressed and stopped eating when the other 2 died. So a month later my mom and I went to a shelter to get a kitten or 2 to cheer the other cats up. I got one kitten who reminded me of my childhood cat he was 5 months old and was born around her birthday but had his own personality. Still have him he'll be 13 in September and is a sweetheart. Then there was a 5 year old cat that nobody else was looking at that my mom pointed out and said pet this poor cat no one wants her. I only wanted a young cat after all the vet bills of senior cats but I petted her and she was the most loving sweet cat who chose me. So I adopted her and had 10 great years with her, no problems until she suddenly got sick and died of a mysterious infection 2 years ago at age 15 or 16. But she had a good healthy happy long life with me and gave me so much love and joy.

Mew Mew is always going to be in your heart in a special place. Of all the cats and few dogs I've had. I still miss each one that has died and their unique qualities and my special memories and relationship with that one special pet. No other pet replaces another even though some remind me of past ones or I feel that maybe one will be sent to me for a purpose at times. But so many animals suffer and due never having a loving home or bond with a good person or enough to eat that I believe it's only a good thing to take in and love as many pets as you can emotionally and financially handle.

Part of me would love to get a kitten or cat since I'm so used to having 3 or 4 cats. But I don't have a new job yet, the three pets I have all have medical issues that need continuing care. So I can't take on any new expenses until I have a good job, get out of debt and treat the pets I have.

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Mew Mew is always going to be in your heart in a special place. Of all the cats and few dogs I've had. I still miss each one that has died and their unique qualities and my special memories and relationship with that one special pet. No other pet replaces another even though some remind me of past ones or I feel that maybe one will be sent to me for a purpose at times.[/QUOTE]

Very well said, Sylvester is a constant "subliminal" reminder to me of Simon and Sebastian, but when I look at him I see Sylvester. Then he'll look a certain way, or do a certain thing, and I think or say to Deb "who does that remind you of?" and she'll say one of the boy's names and it will bring back fond memories of them but he is his own cat, not a replacement, but it sure is nice to always have that subliminal memory in our heads!

And I remember talking to my pastor and a pyschologist friend after Sebastian died suddenly in my arms, and they said it would take about 1.5 years to pretty much get over that incident and they are right, that time is up and while I still don't like to look back and replay that day in my head if I do I can now handle it, it is not pleasant but the horrible pain has lessened with time, just as it will with you and Mew Mew.

And your friend should be highly commended for the rescue and adoption work that he has done and is doing, over 50,000 cats rescued? God Bless him and the work he and others are doing to help God's little creatures!!!!

And when I just read your story to Deb she said "I have a feeling his little Mew Mew had something to do with it!", you KNOW she did!!!!

Take care of this new little family now, and remember you went from 1 to 3 so it is an adjustment!

To the both of you who are in such pain.I am Omelette's person.You can read her story in this forum.I am kittylove53.Five months have passed since she died.She had cancer also.I did not know it until it was too late to save her.I am sure that even if I had the money to try she would have died anyway.I am still heartbroken ,and I still am crying daily over her loss.Yes she was like a daughter to me also.She meant everything to me.My life will never be the same without her precious love.I know exactly how you feel.I have had and lost many darling kitties in my life,Omelette was the light of my life! I think about her all day long and even talk out loud to her!Spend every beautiful moment with your precious Mew Mew that you may have with her.Omelette died in my arms at home.I could not put her down! I know that one day I will be reunited with her!She was the total joy in my life.I only had four years with her.She was only six when she died!She was a rescue from another girl who could not care for her.I am still so hurt from her loss.I am sending out hugs and understanding to you both.You are not alone and everyone here totally understands.They helped me through Omelette's loss.Keep posting !

I have been reading your story Jason. We had to have our little girl "Motu" put to sleep in aug 2015. She died in my arms at the vets. I cried for days. But like you we adopted 2 cats soon after. The hole she left was too big and sad to leave empty for long. Greg and Arnold have brought joy into our lives, as im sure will your new loves.

We dont forget, but thankfully time takes off the edge. We planted a Japanese maple tree beside Motus grave in our yard. It helps us remember and gives us a lasting connection to her as we still arent ready to "let go" of her.

I try to take the love I had/have for her and "give" it to our new boys and make their lives special and happy...it works.

You will feel better....give it time.

I am so sorry for you. Losing a baby hurts so bad that it feels like life suddenly is too heavy a weight on our shoulders and we cannot go on, we cannot breathe, we cannot sleep, we are going mad, we want to run away from reality, from ourselves... We want someone to hold us tight and take that pain away from our heart, because madness doesn't quite come and death is still our enemy, the villain who took our baby away, who dared touch his or hers fur of velvet and stain it with darkness. I know how it feels and I cannot tell you you will be ok, because you probably won't. The loss of a cat leaves a wound that never heals, but I can assure you time will numb it a bit more and more and when you feel less lost, you will be able to realise that your baby will always be about. They don't really leave us. Not quite. A big hug.

Kittylove53 I feel like you're the only person I've ever seen post in a cat, dog or horse website about not being able to put a beloved pet to sleep but still being able to inform them and be with them every second and keep them as comfortable as possible til the end and be with them if at all possible.
I think it's so incredibly brave and courageous to be able to have such a bond with your beloved animals to feel confident that you're making the right decision at the right time to euthanize them, please I hope no one misinterprets anything I type as any kind of negative judgment because it's not at all!!! I think it's one of the greatest gifts you can give your furbaby/animal soulmate, and I honestly believe that I had some of the greatest soul/heart connections with some of my pets that I was truly closer to them than most people and was able, at least temporarily, to form such a bond with them that I could read their thoughts and knew when it was time.

With my mom it was so easy on some ways. She told me loud and clear for years and months that she didn't want machines or life support and that she hated cancer and being so disabled and was fully ready to gp, and that I'd better be ready to follow her wishes. I still struggled and couldn't make the decision until a large team of doctors told me there was no other choice but the machines she hated, and the terminal incurable cancer she'd already fought and beat for years. It was still awful.

But some of my pets, like my beloved Inky who just died a little over 2 weeks ago now, or my earlier 2 cats, or my last dog, kept fighting, and eating and drinking and purring and interacting and loving me til the very end. With Inky, Tigey, Mandy, and my dog last year I literally had vets bullying me telling me I had to euthanize them and not wait another week, or day or two. These pets all wound up in the hospital at the very end because I knew they weren't eating and they needed more round the clock care and intense treatment than I could give. Maybe they wouldn't eat or look great for staff, but they improved with treatment and most importantly to me, they ate and drank and were affectionate and happy to visit with me for hours if allowed. I feel like vets that I've dealt with today make a huge inappropriate push to euthanize too soon. I had the whole medical staff and directors all ingredients me several times a day about Inky the last week he was in the hospital. But not one director addressed the fact that he went rapidly downhill after being abruptly taken off his pain meds and left in the hospital with no treatment for 2 days by his horrible oncologist who also left him with bloody dirty bandages. Great for a cat with diabetes and age who's prone to infections. But sure euthanize him after they caused his suffering even though he's happy and uddly for me and eats his tuna juice.
Same thing with my last dog, he got a massive infection from too much steroids so I wanted to be conservative and just stop the steroid but nope they said keep it and stop the pain meds which helped. Basically forced me to either do surgery which I knew he was too weak for or immediately euthanize do I did surgery which I knew he couldn't do. Sure enough he died of cardiac arrest just after I got home after seeing hom and he was completely nonresponsive. I just wish I could have held him.

Ivypostma, as my mom used to say, your whole post just "touched my heart". The part about death being evil and reaching out to plant a dark stain on our beautiful pets' coats, particularly came looking for trouble.

Emotionally it is so hard to come and read these posts, I cry and hurt for everyone's story and the loss of my dear baby feels fresh again. It's always there ready to overwhelm me, It's only been 2 months. When I come to this forum and read other's posts, I see that I am not alone in my grief and my love for my pet. It's something that can only be understood by those who have experienced the deep love for and pain of losing a dear friend.

The world often seems like a very cruel place, but the people who enter here are loving, caring souls. Jason, your story is amazing and touching. I hope that you and your wife will find another one as special as Mew Mew. We love all our pets, but there are some that we bond with especially.

You okay, Jason? Haven't seen you post in a while. How are the new kitties? We would love to see pictures when you feel ready to share...

Yes, please. You are a part of us now, you know.

I am so sorry about your baby. It is heartbreaking to lose a pet you are so close to. I lost my sweet girl Murphy at age 19 following a long bout with lung cancer and paw cancer. As she grew sicker I vowed that she would be my last cat, knowing that it would not be possible to love anywhere close to how much I loved her. But then I began to realize that the best way I could honor her life and memory was to give a loving home to a cat who never had this opportunity. Two days after her death I walked through a high kill shelter and found my girl Willow, a cat who was close to being deemed unadoptable because she had one failed adoption, wouldn't have anything to do with anyone and had been there for over a month. For the first year or so I cant say I loved her, but I took good care of her and dealt with her fearfulness and lack of socialization. Six year later I just adore her. It's not the same as with Murphy but she is much loved, pampered, spoiled and waited on, as every cat should be.

les26 said:

And your friend should be highly commended for the rescue and adoption work that he has done and is doing, over 50,000 cats rescued? God Bless him and the work he and others are doing to help God's little creatures!!!!

And when I just read your story to Deb she said "I have a feeling his little Mew Mew had something to do with it!", you KNOW she did!!!!

Take care of this new little family now, and remember you went from 1 to 3 so it is an adjustment!

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Yes my friend and his network are an amazing bunch of people. They truly love cats and are doing everything possible to help each and every one of them they find. Their recent project involves trying to buy up several acres of property. They plan to turn it into a cat sanctuary. They plan on taking stray's off the street and giving them a forever home.

As far as Luna (the female we adopted) I feel like Mew Mew sent her to us. She resembles her in so many ways in terms of personality. It seems like too much of a coincidence that we could find another cat with such a rare personality after Mew Mew's passing. This is especially true since we didn't even go to adopt her, yet she came up and chose me as her owner.

Having these 3 is quite a bit of work especially since we are trying to do things perfectly. One example of that is the fact that we have three litter boxes but because they eat/drink so much that we have to clean each box 4 times a day! And that’s just one task.

kittylove53 said:

To the both of you who are in such pain.I am Omelette's person.You can read her story in this forum.I am kittylove53.Five months have passed since she died.She had cancer also.I did not know it until it was too late to save her.I am sure that even if I had the money to try she would have died anyway.I am still heartbroken ,and I still am crying daily over her loss.Yes she was like a daughter to me also.She meant everything to me.My life will never be the same without her precious love.I know exactly how you feel.I have had and lost many darling kitties in my life,Omelette was the light of my life! I think about her all day long and even talk out loud to her!Spend every beautiful moment with your precious Mew Mew that you may have with her.Omelette died in my arms at home.I could not put her down! I know that one day I will be reunited with her!She was the total joy in my life.I only had four years with her.She was only six when she died!She was a rescue from another girl who could not care for her.I am still so hurt from her loss.I am sending out hugs and understanding to you both.You are not alone and everyone here totally understands.They helped me through Omelette's loss.Keep posting !

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Kittylove it seems like we are going through the exact same experience. Your post literally mirrors how we feel. I'm sorry for your loss and I KNOW that you will be reunited with Omelette one day.

Purr-fect said:

I have been reading your story Jason. We had to have our little girl "Motu" put to sleep in aug 2015. She died in my arms at the vets. I cried for days. But like you we adopted 2 cats soon after. The hole she left was too big and sad to leave empty for long. Greg and Arnold have brought joy into our lives, as im sure will your new loves.

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Thank you for your support. So far the kittens help but Mew Mew is in my mind every day. The only way I found to not feel depressed is to not think about her, look at her pictures or look at anything that reminds me of her. I don't think I will truly ever get over her loss because she was such a big part of our life. The best I can do is distract myself so I don't think about her too often.

IvyPostma said:

I know how it feels and I cannot tell you you will be ok, because you probably won't. The loss of a cat leaves a wound that never heals, but I can assure you time will numb it a bit more and more and when you feel less lost, you will be able to realise that your baby will always be about. They don't really leave us. Not quite. A big hug.

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Thank you very much for your kind words. That part of your quote is exactly how I think I will feel about this tragic event in our life. We will never get over losing Mew Mew at such a young age. The best we can hope for is less moments of sadness as time passes.

dorymb said:

The world often seems like a very cruel place, but the people who enter here are loving, caring souls. Jason, your story is amazing and touching. I hope that you and your wife will find another one as special as Mew Mew. We love all our pets, but there are some that we bond with especially.

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No Dory you are not alone. I'm truly sorry for your loss and understand what you are going through. To me Mew Mew was that special one. I love the new kittens just as much as Mew Mew but I know in my heart that none of them will ever hold that same part of my heart that she did. All I think about is that day when I will be reunited with her again so we can spend eternity in each other’s company.

susanm9006 said:

But then I began to realize that the best way I could honor her life and memory was to give a loving home to a cat who never had this opportunity. Two days after her death I walked through a high kill shelter and found my girl Willow, a cat who was close to being deemed unadoptable because she had one failed adoption, wouldn't have anything to do with anyone and had been there for over a month.

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I really appreciate your support. We felt the same about honoring Mew Mew. That was the main reason for us adopting these kittens so quickly. I think you did a wonderful thing by adopting Willow. I'm sure Murphy is looking down on you and is happy that you were able to cope with her loss by giving Willow a home.

maggiedemi said:

You okay, Jason? Haven't seen you post in a while. How are the new kitties? We would love to see pictures when you feel ready to share...

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Mamanyt1953 said:

Yes, please. You are a part of us now, you know.

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I'm really sorry for not being active for the last few weeks. With Mew Mew's loss our daily life shut down for quite a while. So for the last few weeks I have been playing catch up with my duties, responsibilities and "must do" life activities. Some days were unbearable because of thought of her not being in my life anymore. This was to a point where all I could do was eat, sleep and kill time. Meaning my responsibilities got pushed back even more.

We also have been super busy caring for the 3 kittens. They are a lot of work because we are trying to make sure all their needs are being met 100%. We also started to volunteer with the network that rescues stray cats. This is the same one that we adopted our 3 kittens for. We now feed a colony of 55 stray cats. That has also been taking up a lot of my free time. Anyway without further delay here are our newest family members. Hope you guys enjoy the pictures

Our 3 New Babies!