Hi All,
Please Help!!!
I realise that there are other threads for this, however my situation is a little different in some ways.
First of all, I would like to say that I come from a family of cat lovers. I am 27, I live by myself, and work from home so I can spend a good 20 hours a day with my cat. I got her as a replacement (that sounds harsh - long story) for my ex girlfriend.
I got her (kitty) from a shelter about a year ago. I asked to see the cat who had been there the longest, and this skinny little 5 year old black moggy was presented to me, rubbing her head against my hand in affection. I fell in love, so I gave her a home.
Since having her, I have had problems with her ripping my expensive Danish furniture, curtains, carpets, etc etc but hey.. she's a cat, I can genuinely forgive her for that!
But there is another problem, weeing on the floor.
She has 2 boxes, which I clean out thoroughly, literally as soon as she has been in them (she is very spoilt). They are in a quiet place in the house, and I use a brand which is recycled paper "bio-catalet", and the boxes are without lids.
The problem seems to be at night - she uses the boxes absolutely fine when I am near to her, but when I am upstairs in bed, she seems to prefer going to the toilet on the floor. I have tried all sorts of techniques - putting physical objects in the way of where she goes, putting her food where she goes to the toilet on the floor, I've even bought a third box (told you she was spoilt) and had been putting that in place.
She doesn't have one "favourite" spot though, she has about half a dozen. My bathroom is carpeted, and she has started going in there over the last few weeks.
It seems to be so intermittent - she will go through a run where everything is fine for a week or so, and then she starts doing it again.
I think the problem comes from outside - there is a cat that she is petrified of, and has attacked her a couple of times. I think the issue is that she is able to sit at the front window, and can see this cat, which scares her. I have had a word with the owners of the cat, but they work all day and can only let her out at night. That cat has also been here for years so I dont think it is fair to ask them to keep her in.
I am very limited of space in my house, and there isn't really a room I could keep her in at night time, to avoid her being able to see outside. I also cant leave the window open, as I live close(ish) to a main road, and although she never wanders that way, it means that it would be too noisy to sleep. I also can't put a cat flap in, as I rent the house.
She isn't really that friendly also since she got back fromt he shelter - I have been trying really hard with her to bond, but she just doesn't seem to want too. If I whistle at her for long enough, then she does jump on my lap, but she cant stand being stroked (I've tried all the techniques with that too!) She just seems to be really distant, and I have given her now about a year and 3 months, and I just feel like she would be better off in a home without other cats around, and where she can be more independent.
I really got her, as I wanted some comfort, a nice friendly cat, who I could stroke and have some companionship with. I seem to have a cat which is a homewrecker, and who pees everywhere, and seems to prefer a quiet life.
I live in rented accommodation, and I am going to have to now replace the carpets, and the wallpaper from where she has been peeing. I just know that if I replace the carpets, and she starts weeing again, then I am going to start to resent her, which is what I really don't want to do.
Am I harsh to want to take her back, or do you think it would be in her best interests? The thought of returning a cat is mortifying to me!
Please Help!!!
I realise that there are other threads for this, however my situation is a little different in some ways.
First of all, I would like to say that I come from a family of cat lovers. I am 27, I live by myself, and work from home so I can spend a good 20 hours a day with my cat. I got her as a replacement (that sounds harsh - long story) for my ex girlfriend.
I got her (kitty) from a shelter about a year ago. I asked to see the cat who had been there the longest, and this skinny little 5 year old black moggy was presented to me, rubbing her head against my hand in affection. I fell in love, so I gave her a home.
Since having her, I have had problems with her ripping my expensive Danish furniture, curtains, carpets, etc etc but hey.. she's a cat, I can genuinely forgive her for that!
But there is another problem, weeing on the floor.
She has 2 boxes, which I clean out thoroughly, literally as soon as she has been in them (she is very spoilt). They are in a quiet place in the house, and I use a brand which is recycled paper "bio-catalet", and the boxes are without lids.
The problem seems to be at night - she uses the boxes absolutely fine when I am near to her, but when I am upstairs in bed, she seems to prefer going to the toilet on the floor. I have tried all sorts of techniques - putting physical objects in the way of where she goes, putting her food where she goes to the toilet on the floor, I've even bought a third box (told you she was spoilt) and had been putting that in place.
She doesn't have one "favourite" spot though, she has about half a dozen. My bathroom is carpeted, and she has started going in there over the last few weeks.
It seems to be so intermittent - she will go through a run where everything is fine for a week or so, and then she starts doing it again.
I think the problem comes from outside - there is a cat that she is petrified of, and has attacked her a couple of times. I think the issue is that she is able to sit at the front window, and can see this cat, which scares her. I have had a word with the owners of the cat, but they work all day and can only let her out at night. That cat has also been here for years so I dont think it is fair to ask them to keep her in.
I am very limited of space in my house, and there isn't really a room I could keep her in at night time, to avoid her being able to see outside. I also cant leave the window open, as I live close(ish) to a main road, and although she never wanders that way, it means that it would be too noisy to sleep. I also can't put a cat flap in, as I rent the house.
She isn't really that friendly also since she got back fromt he shelter - I have been trying really hard with her to bond, but she just doesn't seem to want too. If I whistle at her for long enough, then she does jump on my lap, but she cant stand being stroked (I've tried all the techniques with that too!) She just seems to be really distant, and I have given her now about a year and 3 months, and I just feel like she would be better off in a home without other cats around, and where she can be more independent.
I really got her, as I wanted some comfort, a nice friendly cat, who I could stroke and have some companionship with. I seem to have a cat which is a homewrecker, and who pees everywhere, and seems to prefer a quiet life.
I live in rented accommodation, and I am going to have to now replace the carpets, and the wallpaper from where she has been peeing. I just know that if I replace the carpets, and she starts weeing again, then I am going to start to resent her, which is what I really don't want to do.
Am I harsh to want to take her back, or do you think it would be in her best interests? The thought of returning a cat is mortifying to me!