Had he been to the vet recently? A friend's senior cat stopped asking for pets and it turned out she had arthritis. We guess petting was hurting her. She got medicine for her and she would lay with her again, but only accepted pets on top of her head.
I'm a bit confused as to why you think all shelter cats aren't good pets. Three out of the four cats I've had have been from shelters, and they were lovely pets. The shelter I got Neko-chan from frequently let the cats and kittens out of their cages and played with and handled them. I'm sure...
Besides the space concerns (and it sounds fine) you should also think about the financial concerns of 2. Can you afford double the food, toys, litter and vet care? I got one because we wouldn't be able to afford 2 if something happened to one of our jobs or us.
Neko-chan doesn't like car rides. She cries the whole way to the vet, is quiet at the vet, and then cries the whole way home. She doesn't love the poking and prodding she gets at the vet, but associated the vet with the nice man who gives her treats there.
Neko-chan had never been outside, except in her carrier. She doesn't seem to suffer from it. She has toys, a bed, a tunnel, and three different sized climbers. She has a spot on our bed, 2 nice sized windows to look out of, and play time every day. She goes to the vet every year, her...
I only have one cat right now (can't afford the pet rent for a second) but when I had two, if Precious was on the armchair and Felix wanted to lay there, Felix would jump on the arm and grunt at Precious until he moved over so they could share.
Your boy is beautiful! Neko-chan sometimes does that too. I found she prefers a stuffed toy on the end of the string rather than a feather or something. I'm guessing it's more satisfying, more like a mouse. Try different lures on the end to find out what Toebean likes best.