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We made the difficult decision to rehome Dexter. after speaking with our vet and another behaviorist we knew we had to do what was best for all 3 cats. Dexter now has a family that can let him be himself and free, and our two boys have returned to normal. It was the hardest decision we’ve...

Thank you both for your insight. Are you able to provide guidance on when we should intervene? If Dexter is biting the back of the neck, andJasper cries out but does not run away do we let them be? We watch the ears and the tail, but I think we are too sensitive if we react every time Jasper...

We adopted a Dexter 2 months ago, and are struggling to integrate him into our household. Dexter is an 8 month old neutered male that was rescued as a stray. We have 2 older males (Inky, 8 years, and Jasper, 4 years) that have formed a close relationship with each other. We did the usual...

We definitely look the most like the first video. The giveaway is the ears being pinned back. It doesn’t start that way but turns quickly. The blanket tip has definitply helped, but Dexter is relentless. He just keeps going and going and doesn’t stop until we separate. We’re trying the...

No real change Catnap. Dexter managed to escape today, and we pretty much had the usual results. He instantly went for Jasper, and then Inky (although he wasn’t mean). He did nip a jaspers neck, but Jasper swatted him away and made a little noise. He then went for inky. No physical...

Thank you both for your comments. We agree about the well being for all of the cats. We’ve tried to find a home within our circle for Dexter to no avail. I am not willing to just hand him over to anyone, so we did make an appointment to surrender him to the Humane Society on 2/8. They can...

Hey Catnap. I waited to send a note because I thought we may have turned a corner (but I don’t think so now). About that fight……. We live in a townhome, and we have a landing on the stairs going to the 2nd floor. This landing is where we have the stacked baby gates, and Dexter likes to lie...

Thank you again CatNap for your words of wisdom. I will start a new thread in a few days if I can get some video. We had the most violent fight between the 3 of them today, so they will be isolated for a while. I’m also going to make that vet appointment tomorrow. I am praying something can...

We’re still trying with Dexter, but at our wits end. We have been able to have the cats in the same room for short amounts of time, but Dexter continually goes after the other two cats, sometimes instantly. We try to distract him with feather wands and toys to no avail. Usually we try a 5...

Also, Dexter is almost the same size as the two adults (Inky is a chub though). We‘ve tried the harness with Dexter, but he just rolls around like he’s having a seizure or something trying to get it off.

Thank you again for your insight Cat Nap. We are going to start over again. I am wondering something though. When they are allowed to see each other behind the baby gates there is no hissing or posturing of any kind. Dexter will try to play through the gate, and the other two will sit next...

We seem to be going backwards and do not know what to do. It seems that Dexter is getting more bold and is now full on attacking Inky. Inky growls, and that used to deter Dexter but no more. We still keep Dexter separated from the other two, but when we have tried to integrate this happens...

Jasper is more playful than Inky, and he usually instigates the play. Inky will play a bit, but Jasper gets too aggressive and we have to break it up. 99% of the time they coexist happily, laying by each other, grooming each other, etc. when we swap rooms we make sure to have them separated...

Dexter does carry around his toys, but I have not seen him destroy anything. He’s always up for play and will literally go anywhere he can. we haven’t had him with the other two cats all weekend, and it was somewhat peaceful. Today we did a room swap so Dexter could be with both of us, and it...

I should also note that there is no posturing or warning shot. Dexter just pounces on their necks.