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Hi I wasn't sure were to post this so move is needed please.
new here I thought it may help if I give you a little background info so you will be able to understand a bit better and hopefully help with giving advice
I am an animal lover I love all animals but cats and horses are both my number 1's I love both equally and for a long time I've been waiting till the right time to get a cat , my dilemma started in 2019 when I , with the help of my sister left an abusive relationship and I had no were to go so I moved in with my sister who lived at the time on her own and I moved in with her and still to this I live with her as I am unable to live on my own due to how the abuse affected me I can't live on my own but I also will never go into another relationship and I've felt the safest I've felt in a long time with my sister and we're both the same we both don't want kids ( more my sister can't and I don't ) and we both have no interest in relationships ( she was in a long-term relationship and he was her soulmate but he passed away a few years ago and she is loyal to him and knows no one will ever be as perfect for her as him and she always tell me it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all) so what I'm trying to say is were both going to be living together for ever.
Now the issue is I'm a huge cat lover my sister is on the other side she loves dogs their her favorite and she finally is in a position to get one and has spent years researching the right breed and the right breeder and when I moved in , in 2019 she made sure I was happy to live with a Golden retriever and being an animal lover my awnser was yes and she will be bringing her puppy home next year and I asked her if she's ok to live with a cat as like her I'd planned to get a cat for awhile and she said yes she would be she is scared of cats and if she could get over that then she would be ok and she knows nothing about cats unlike dogs were she's read book after book on dog behavior and training she's new to cats and knows nothing and the fear comes from being scratched and bitten by a neighbors cat when she was a child and the misconception that cats are evil and attack for no reason ect so I was hoping you could help with advice on what cats are really like to live with and how I can help her with her fear
I was also thinking a more laid back breed would be better I read Ragdolls and British shorthairs are laid back and that British shorthairs are less likely to scratch as quickly than other cats?
Then my sister likes the look of Maine coons as she's read their dog like?
I will be getting an adult cat from rescue but I would prefer to pick a breed and even prefer going to breed rescues
I look forward to hearing from you all
new here I thought it may help if I give you a little background info so you will be able to understand a bit better and hopefully help with giving advice
I am an animal lover I love all animals but cats and horses are both my number 1's I love both equally and for a long time I've been waiting till the right time to get a cat , my dilemma started in 2019 when I , with the help of my sister left an abusive relationship and I had no were to go so I moved in with my sister who lived at the time on her own and I moved in with her and still to this I live with her as I am unable to live on my own due to how the abuse affected me I can't live on my own but I also will never go into another relationship and I've felt the safest I've felt in a long time with my sister and we're both the same we both don't want kids ( more my sister can't and I don't ) and we both have no interest in relationships ( she was in a long-term relationship and he was her soulmate but he passed away a few years ago and she is loyal to him and knows no one will ever be as perfect for her as him and she always tell me it's better to have loved and lost than never loved at all) so what I'm trying to say is were both going to be living together for ever.
Now the issue is I'm a huge cat lover my sister is on the other side she loves dogs their her favorite and she finally is in a position to get one and has spent years researching the right breed and the right breeder and when I moved in , in 2019 she made sure I was happy to live with a Golden retriever and being an animal lover my awnser was yes and she will be bringing her puppy home next year and I asked her if she's ok to live with a cat as like her I'd planned to get a cat for awhile and she said yes she would be she is scared of cats and if she could get over that then she would be ok and she knows nothing about cats unlike dogs were she's read book after book on dog behavior and training she's new to cats and knows nothing and the fear comes from being scratched and bitten by a neighbors cat when she was a child and the misconception that cats are evil and attack for no reason ect so I was hoping you could help with advice on what cats are really like to live with and how I can help her with her fear
I was also thinking a more laid back breed would be better I read Ragdolls and British shorthairs are laid back and that British shorthairs are less likely to scratch as quickly than other cats?
Then my sister likes the look of Maine coons as she's read their dog like?
I will be getting an adult cat from rescue but I would prefer to pick a breed and even prefer going to breed rescues
I look forward to hearing from you all