Ditto. Though she doesn't like the length, it must feel so much better.
Well, you and your cats live there. You've BEEN living there. So any new person would have to deal with that. No way would I stand for anything that would make my cats' lives or mine even more stressful.Shes complained of pet allergies these past few years. But i am worried because she has a slight fever. My niece also had a slight fever after the christmas party. My nephew was congested too. I'll insist she go get the covid test if she keeps feeling bad.
The bathroom is gross, i hope everyone leaves soon. Especially with 3 men in the group.Just one more week and they will be gone.
Im glad your christmas was good.I know some people didnt bother celebrating with family.
Shes taking Benadryl. I offered my own non-drowsy allergy meds, but she says shes scared of gaining weight.To be honest, i sometimes think my sister creates her own illnesses. She lived with animals for years, and then suddenly has breathing issues. Shes constantly sick with different things. Even my mom thought she was making things up. If you spoke to her of your health issues, she would tell you she has or has gone through the same illness. LOL I remember she told me i was lucky my back pain isnt as bad as hers. While i was in severe pain.
I pray i am wrong. I think thats why i dont feel panicky when she complains about her allergies. My sister and husband were saying someone asked to buy their home, and they were hinting about doing a business with my brother. I think my sisters husband knows i cant stand him. He says they might move in soon and i will be stuck being annoyed with him. This house is about to be lost and they arent doing anything to save it, and they want to move in. lol
I pray they dont move in. He isnt paying bills here (occasionally replaces/repairs things) but he still thinks he has a voice. He was telling me if they move in that we had to do something with the cats.
My sister doesnt hate the cats, she hasnt even asked me to lock them up due to her allergies. I was expecting her to do this. But i dont like the thought of my cats locked up in a small space. Even less do i like this guy coming in here and making demands. My niece thinks they wont move down for a few years. But thats not what it sounded like to me. I might need to start really trying to change jobs, even though i didn't want to take that risk. I cant stand the thought of living with this guy and the house being so full. Its been stressful having everyone here this past week.
Anyway, i do have positive news about my niece. Her hair is finally cut!!!!This has been a constant worry of mine. My sister said there was so much buildup on her scalp that she had to wash her hair 8 times.
She had to cut off three huge balls of hair. My niece hates the haircut, but hopefully it will grow quickly. My SIL tried to insist that she was eventually taking her to a salon, but my brother put his foot down. Her hair used to be waist length.
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I'm so relieved. Been such a worry for me.
Its crossed my mind. But i love watching crime documentaries and I'm terrified to pick a person that would hurt my cats. I don't mind risking myself, but they're going to be alone in an apartment with a stranger when I'm not home. I will look around to see if anyone i know is looking for a room mate tho. I do still need more money tho. Miami has very expensive rent.
I know. But it's my sister's home and she's being very extra about not being able to breathe near the cats. Even tho she lived with them for years just fine. Before she left with this guy she was fine with the cats downstairs. Only getting allergies occasionally.
i asked my sister what she wanted me to do. And i asked her not to send him to tell me what to do. He ended up explaining that he doesn't hate cats but he's worried about my sister.
Yes, it sounds like it's time, and then some.I'm so relieved. Been such a worry for me.
Its crossed my mind. But i love watching crime documentaries and I'm terrified to pick a person that would hurt my cats. I don't mind risking myself, but they're going to be alone in an apartment with a stranger when I'm not home. I will look around to see if anyone i know is looking for a room mate tho. I do still need more money tho. Miami has very expensive rent.
I know. But it's my sister's home and she's being very extra about not being able to breathe near the cats. Even tho she lived with them for years just fine. Before she left with this guy she was fine with the cats downstairs. Only getting allergies occasionally.
He came up to me today telling me if i was willing to do something with the cats when they are here.
Call me awful but i think she's putting on this act to get his sympathy. She just let me know to put them in my room next time she comes. I just told her i don't like him telling me what to do and prefer that she talks to me herself. I get hes worried, but i don't want him meddling.
I need to move out of this house. I put up with the complaining about the cats from my blood relatives, but this guy and i will have huge problems if he comes here to order me about.
I've never had a room-mate and I'd be nervous sharing with someone I didn't know. But I'm sure it works for most people, and really, most people are likely decent people. At least I hope so.
*Jumping in unasked* Well, actually, to be honest, most people in this society are NOT 'decent people' by a long shot; and desperation breeds more of all kinds of bad people and behavior. Roommate tales of horror abound. Even my roomies, who were my neighbors, are far from perfect. They DO love cats, and all in all, they're pretty good. But there are times I wish I'd never asked them if they wanted to move in with us. Friends are astounded that we're doing so well. They have stories they haven't told; but bottom line, it is very, very difficult to get a good match. People have to be very careful. For a woman, I would strongly encourage looking for a female roommate of the person's own age or older. I guess people are limited in what they can ask/require on roommate search sites (I've never done this so I don't know) but I'd request female, middle-aged or older, stable financially, non smoker/drinker/drugs/parties, quiet, and responsible. I would NOT ask on site for cat lovers -- I'd definitely work that into an in-person interview.
Not the virus that destroys lungs, its the cats! I'm so sick of my families sick obsession with the cats.I feel the same way, i cant handle seeing animals hurt in crime shows. I always look away. lol I can handle it against humans. But it breaks my heart to see an innocent animal/child getting hurt. Since they are so weak and dont have much of a voice to defend themselves. Its devastating.
Theres apparently many cheap places in florida. The commute worries me. I used to work at doral, and would drive to homestead. Its normally a 33 minute drive. It would take me 1.5 hours in the morning, and the night. Driving three hours per day for a $13 an hour job.
I am going to look for places that are cheap to live and maybe see if i find any jobs nearby.True. I will start asking around. I have to figure out what i can actually afford. I dont have much money left over at the end of the month. I definitely need a better paying job.
Thats my worry. i have read horror stories about roommates. I dont mind risking myself. Just scared to leave the kitties alone with strangers. I dont even feel they are safe here either with my crazed nephew.
i dont think i have ever heard of a basement in florida. lol but i can definitely look into it. thank you!
"...rather than having me rehome them"??? WTH??? That's not a decision for her to make!Update: my sister tested positive for COVID. But guess what? Her bronchitis that she struggles with changed to actual ashthma. Instead of blaming covid, her and her husband are saying the cats made her get asthma.
I feel horrible shes sick, and i am sure her allergies to the cats made things worse. But COVID causes lung damage even in healthy individuals. She would have had damage even if she never went near my cats.
I found out that shes planning to go into business with my brother and they apparently want to move down here very soon. I have to figure something out soon because i cant live with her bossy husband and the constant complaining about the cats. I dont get why she wants to live here knowing she has this health issue. I dont want to be the reason that they lose out on whatever opportunities they want to have. I dont want to be selfish. But i do hope i can figure out a way to move out. Her annoying husband wont shut up about the cats.
Health update: i had a biopsy done a couple of weeks ago. Just got my results. Doctor says the cells are changing and improving. But after its been over a year he had wanted things to be completely cleared. He wants me to get an IUD and increase my meds. I am not sure if i should get a second opinion. I was excited to get off these meds that have caused me so many problems. Now it looks like this is going to continue.
I feel the same way, i cant handle seeing animals hurt in crime shows. I always look away. lol I can handle it against humans. But it breaks my heart to see an innocent animal/child getting hurt. Since they are so weak and dont have much of a voice to defend themselves. Its devastating.
Thanks for the advice on finding a roommate. I will look into all the options i have.
Theres apparently many cheap places in florida. The commute worries me. I used to work at doral, and would drive to homestead. Its normally a 33 minute drive. It would take me 1.5 hours in the morning, and the night. Driving three hours per day for a $13 an hour job.
True. I will start asking around. I have to figure out what i can actually afford. I dont have much money left over at the end of the month. I definitely need a better paying job.
Thats my worry. i have read horror stories about roommates. I dont mind risking myself. Just scared to leave the kitties alone with strangers. I dont even feel they are safe here either with my crazed nephew.
Dont worry, i will be careful about anything i do. As much as i dont want to be stuck here, my sister is the one that defends the cats the most. She even insisted that my niece watches her son better with the cats. My niece actually listened to her and shes being more strict about how he treats them. She wants to build them a catio rather than having me rehome them to protect her health (Since she now has asthma.)
But i know people can change their tune rather quickly so i need to be making plans.
i dont think i have ever heard of a basement in florida. lol but i can definitely look into it. thank you!
Thank you. Having a baby is tiring work, but I just want you to know I still care even if I can't think right now.I feel fine so far.
I hope everything is okay with you.
Its her home after all. if someone has a pet in your home that you believe is giving you asthma, you have the right to ask the tenant to leave. She is being kind because im her sister. I never forget that this isnt my home as much as she claims that it is. She doesnt need to let me stay here, or my cats. Shes threatened us many times with us moving out so she can rent the place. Since the bills are so behind. Because she doesnt want to lose her property.
What bugs me is that she says she doesnt want her husband paying anything here so he wont feel he has any rights to the house. I hope she is joking. All the bills are behind as is, and shes being ridiculous.I told her my plans of wanting to move. So she wont be taken by surprise. Even though shes always known i dont want to live here.I can imagine, i have a lot of nieces and nephews so i've seen how rough it can be. Try to rest, you and the baby need it desperately. Thank you for checking in, it means a lot to me.
Your cats are your FAMILY and NO ONE has the right to tell you to "rehome them", period, end of story.Its her home after all. if someone has a pet in your home that you believe is giving you asthma, you have the right to ask the tenant to leave. She is being kind because im her sister. I never forget that this isnt my home as much as she claims that it is. She doesnt need to let me stay here, or my cats. Shes threatened us many times with us moving out so she can rent the place. Since the bills are so behind. Because she doesnt want to lose her property.
Shes thankfully leaving in the morning. Everyone else in the house is being stupid and getting close to her. Im going to try to get tested soon to make sure i dont have it.
She was telling me she wants to still move back soon. And she keeps repeating what the doctors told her. That she cant be near animals or she can get COPD.
Honestly, i dont care what happens to this house, since my sister doesnt care enough to fight for her own property. I was informing her that i would be looking to change jobs. She actually thought i was doing that so i could help pay for the catio to lock up my cats.
I can imagine, i have a lot of nieces and nephews so i've seen how rough it can be. Try to rest, you and the baby need it desperately. Thank you for checking in, it means a lot to me.
I know, i wouldnt rehome them even if they demand it.
They don't seem to know from one day to the next, WHAT they are going to do. It's a mark of dysfunctional people that they cannot stick to plans and will not commit to things they say they are going to do. Not that that helps you any, though, unfortunately.I know, i wouldnt rehome them even if they demand it.
My niece was telling me that my sisters husband was demanding that i build a catio before they move in. Because the cats cant be in the house when they move in. This loser isnt paying a single bill in this house and he is making demands. I might need to start calling my brothers, but none of their houses are ideal.
My oldest brother offered me help before. But he just moved and used up all his money renovating the main house.
My middle brother has a crazy wife, they cheat on each other all the time and have a very toxic relationship. We are close but i asked him for help before and he refused. He has two apartments that he rents out and refused to help me by renting me a place at a lesser price. its his property and right, but no help there.
The youngest of my older brothers is the one i had problems with. He owns our childhood home and he hates my cats.
Not sure what i will do. I will start by talking to my oldest brother. Besides my cats, i really dont want to put up with my sisters husband. Hes demanding and whiny, and i told her i wouldnt put up with his need to give people orders. She has a lot of excuses for him but i dont have the patience for it. I can put up with it from blood relatives, but not from this random guy.
My sister jumps from one thing to the next. Just yesterday she was telling me she was renting the place out because we cant afford the bills. But supposedly they are moving in here soon. So im just confused. They want to retire and do a business between them and my brothers. She tells me she doesnt want her husband paying bills so he wont feel entitled to give orders. But then shes also not working. Not sure how she expects the house to be paid.
Absolutely nothing,"family" is just a word. Our relatives are just as capable of screwing us over as some random troll on the internet.
So right you are,
Talien
, unfortunately. I have personal experience of that. I guess that goes back forever. *Cain and Abel*
My sister is definitely not well. Today she was sending me a message that because of some dream she believes i wont be saved, and that im going to fail some test. I do believe in God and consider myself a christian. But my sister uses her religion to manipulate people. She told me God had let her know no one in the family would get COVID, and then she supposedly got it. lol Oddly enough she took three tests, only one came back positive, the rest negative. So who knows if she actually had it.They don't seem to know from one day to the next, WHAT they are going to do. It's a mark of dysfunctional people that they cannot stick to plans and will not commit to things they say they are going to do. Not that that helps you any, though, unfortunately.
The oldest bro sounds like the better bet; but that's a real shame that the middle bro won't rent an apartment to you at an affordable rate. What makes family different from random people? They are supposed to help one another.
Not that it would do any good with people who are determined to make and keep making problems, but Purina now makes a food that is designed to eliminate or lessen cat dander and "allergies" -- it's called ProPlan LiveClear.
Sadly, i agree with you. I will continue to be there for my family because i feel my mom is watching over me. She always expected better from me. But i have seen what family can do to you.
