My Jack is gone

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Wondering still what happened he was only 10 1/2 . My beautiful ragdoll baby is gone. Blood work showed low blood platlets and his pancreas was almost 4 times than normal. Said pancreatis. He totally stopped eating except fluids. He had off and on eating issues for 4 years. But always got better but not this time. Than he started getting weaker. We had to let him go he was so sick. I'm broken, tormented, guilty, and want another chance but he's gone. How long do I grieve
 
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Wondering still what happened he was only 10 1/2 . My beautiful ragdoll baby is gone. Blood work showed low blood platlets and his pancreas was almost 4 times than normal. Said pancreatis. He totally stopped eating except fluids. He had off and on eating issues for 4 years. But always got better but not this time. Than he started getting weaker. We had to let him go he was so sick. I'm broken, tormented, guilty, and want another chance but he's gone. How long do I grieve
 

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We are dealing with the same issue right now, but we're fortunate enough to still have a bit more time with our girl, but the last few days have been hell, both my wife and I bawling at the drop of a hat and just not ready to let go of our precious little mate. So we know fully what you are going through and are reaching out to say, be kind to yourself. It is so unbelievably sad when we have to say goodbye to these amazing beings who do nothing but enhance our lives. You did the best you could, and Jack loved you as you loved him. I am sorry for your loss. Please do not beat yourself up over this. The grief will be enormous because his presence in your life was immeasurable. You would not be you if it hadn't been for him and that connection will always be with you. Light a candle for him every day until you are done doing that and allow yourself to grieve as long as you feel the need to do it. And reach out whenever you wish and share your recollections of him with us. We would love to share that with you, as well as to share your grief with you.
 

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Rest you gentle, Jack, dream you deep. Your pawprints are on someone's heart forever.

Darlin, you grieve until you don't. There is no set "right time to grieve." It sets its own pace, and can come back to kick you in the head YEARS later..but it won't last as long then. You have done the hardest thing we ever do...you held your baby while he took those first steps along the path from This Adventure to The Next Great Adventure, and you sent your love with him to guide his way. Now, he will send his love for you, now translated and purified into Love, back again to comfort you and someday, one day, guide you Home to him. My heart with yours.
 

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So sorry for your loss, I may have not met him but your words made me cry and now I feel like a lost a friend.
Weeks prior to this day I thought my 9 y/o cat was leaving this world and I'm not sure he's not going to if I'm being honest, and that thought breaks my heart, so if just a thought can hurt like that I can't even wrap my head around what you are feeling right now. But I just wanted to tell you: take it easy, one breath at a time, remember the good things and don't rush your healing time. Is ok to be sad sometimes. Wishing you the best.
 

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I fall along the same lines, if just the thought of such a loss can paralyze us, we can't even begin to comprehend what you are going through right now. I can only say that this community is amazing in how it understands and supports, and that is something for you to hold on to. I agree with this quote about sadness. I believe in the power of sadness. Sadness invariably gives way to a joy that is indescribable, but first you must allow yourself to be as sad as you need to be for however long. In praising Jack, praise your own sadness and grief, honor those feelings as you would honor your dear boy. They will flower into gifts just as Jack did during his life. It is brutal right now, I know from losing my cat Myxye in 2001, my companion for over 16 years in Milwaukee where I lived then. Never have I cried and cried like that. In fact, I totally believe that you are a blessed soul for even being in touch with your feelings of grief and sadness. Think of someone who can't feel things like this, and how you would pity them. Take good care.
 

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So sorry for your loss of Jack💔😿 It is so hard when they go so suddenly and I hope in time you get some answers and find peace if possible. Hugs💕 He is still with you watching over you. I hope you have another furbabe to help your grief. He was so gorgeous💕

As far as the time it is different for everyone, I don’t think I ever stop really, but the pain gets better and you carry on. I never stop missing them though and I communicate with them ,their love is still always with me. Some people feel better to get another right away, others wait. We never imagine the day they will leave us on the day we meet them, but it comes, sadly they have such relatively short lifespans for the most part. Run free sweet Jack ❤💕🐾🌈🐈
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Im sorry for your loss, stay strong, I wasnt, I developed severe anxiety attacks and ptsd after my boy died in 2015 ended up in therapy which didnt help, I lost like 25 pounds

Ill miss him till the day I die
 
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So sorry for your loss, I may have not met him but your words made me cry and now I feel like a lost a friend.
Weeks prior to this day I thought my 9 y/o cat was leaving this world and I'm not sure he's not going to if I'm being honest, and that thought breaks my heart, so if just a thought can hurt like that I can't even wrap my head around what you are feeling right now. But I just wanted to tell you: take it easy, one breath at a time, remember the good things and don't rush your healing time. Is ok to be sad sometimes. Wishing you the best.
I hope your baby is ok. It's hard. I just read Steven Woodward's book. Biblical proof animals do go to heaven. Helped alot. But grief is horrible. I should have's and guilt are pretty rough. God bless you
 
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I fall along the same lines, if just the thought of such a loss can paralyze us, we can't even begin to comprehend what you are going through right now. I can only say that this community is amazing in how it understands and supports, and that is something for you to hold on to. I agree with this quote about sadness. I believe in the power of sadness. Sadness invariably gives way to a joy that is indescribable, but first you must allow yourself to be as sad as you need to be for however long. In praising Jack, praise your own sadness and grief, honor those feelings as you would honor your dear boy. They will flower into gifts just as Jack did during his life. It is brutal right now, I know from losing my cat Myxye in 2001, my companion for over 16 years in Milwaukee where I lived then. Never have I cried and cried like that. In fact, I totally believe that you are a blessed soul for even being in touch with your feelings of grief and sadness. Think of someone who can't feel things like this, and how you would pity them. Take good care.
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So sorry for your loss of Jack💔😿 It is so hard when they go so suddenly and I hope in time you get some answers and find peace if possible. Hugs💕 He is still with you watching over you. I hope you have another furbabe to help your grief. He was so gorgeous💕

As far as the time it is different for everyone, I don’t think I ever stop really, but the pain gets better and you carry on. I never stop missing them though and I communicate with them ,their love is still always with me. Some people feel better to get another right away, others wait. We never imagine the day they will leave us on the day we meet them, but it comes, sadly they have such relatively short lifespans for the most part. Run free sweet Jack ❤💕🐾🌈🐈View attachment 318734
The picture looks like him. Thank you so much. Guilt, pain, sorrow, emptiness is horrible
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss. There isn't any set time I always say give yourself time to grieve. Like you I let my boy go in August so I understand the would've should've could've. It's part of grieving try to see you did all you could for Jack and you stopped his pain. I'm sure he knows that. Try to remember the good things about him. R.I.P Jack :rbheart:
 

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The one thing I have found to be true is you never get over grief, you learn to live with it. You forge ahead because nothing can ever change the past and the future comes whether we are ready or not. I have learned that dwelling on all those could haves, should haves, just brings more hurt and changes absolutely nothing. They ALWAYS come with grief, in fact are a big part of grief, because we are human and noone is perfect. We will always have something to haunt us and regret.
I have also found it helps during those first draining days to reach out and help others through acknowledging their own grief. I have found comfort through comforting others just by listening and empathizing, because I have stood there in their shoes. To know there are others who have been through what you are going through and have survived helps tremendously. I also found that donating a small amount or food and litter to your local shelter in your beloved's name helps to make you feel a little better about yourself. It also keeps your little one's memory alive by passing on their legacy of love. To be remembered and thought about after death is one of life's greatest honors. To miss them so terribly is a testament to the love you shared.
The hole they leave in our hearts takes a long time to fill. And time is the only thing that truly helps to mend a broken heart. One day at a time.........RIP sweet Jack.....
 

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I am so sorry to hear this. :(

These are the threads that make me weak & scared to ever love a pet. But I know that in loving we become a better person and we need face the reality of mortality in our kitties' lives and our own. It makes you realize what is important. May you find peace and comfort knowing Jack and you will reunite one day, and he awaits you in the afterlife, I know this.

If not for this belief I'd never again be able to care for a pet as the hurt is deep, but the reward of their unconditional love far outweighs the chance we must take. I am truly sorry Jack is not with you still today but please believe he is ok and watching you til you meet him again.
 
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