The "what's On Your Mind?" Thread -2019

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So, I ended up in the ER last night. Really painful cramps. Never felt anything like that before. I was afraid I was having a miscarriage caused by stress.
Little one is fine. I overreacted, I guess. Possibly still caused by stress, but the labs and everything came up normal. And they did an ultrasound. The tech wasn't supposed to let me see, but she did. That little thing is quite the wiggler.
I felt a little silly afterward and the cramps eventually stopped, but if I hadn't gone, I would have been even more stressed. And seeing that little one somehow made me feel better. About everything. I'm still upset and devastated, but I actually slept last night. I needed it badly.
The memorial service is going to be on the 30th. Shane was cremated and they want to have the urn and his ashes. Personally, I've thought it was a bit callous to expect family to plan a funeral within a few days. They're grieving and their world was just turned upside down and they're still expected to pull it together enough to plan this whole big thing? I mean, it used to be necessary but now we have embalming and cremation. Give it a little more time.
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So, I ended up in the ER last night. Really painful cramps. Never felt anything like that before. I was afraid I was having a miscarriage caused by stress.
Little one is fine. I overreacted, I guess. Possibly still caused by stress, but the labs and everything came up normal. And they did an ultrasound. The tech wasn't supposed to let me see, but she did. That little thing is quite the wiggler.
I felt a little silly afterward and the cramps eventually stopped, but if I hadn't gone, I would have been even more stressed. And seeing that little one somehow made me feel better. About everything. I'm still upset and devastated, but I actually slept last night. I needed it badly.
The memorial service is going to be on the 30th. Shane was cremated and they want to have the urn and his ashes. Personally, I've thought it was a bit callous to expect family to plan a funeral within a few days. They're grieving and their world was just turned upside down and they're still expected to pull it together enough to plan this whole big thing? I mean, it used to be necessary but now we have embalming and cremation. Give it a little more time.
Just my opinion.
You didn't overreact. You can't be too careful. I'm glad that you and the wee one are OK. Please take care of yourself. Shane would never want anything to happen to you or the baby. Your family is going through a true tragedy with his loss but he will watch over you with the same love and care that all of you gave to him during his life.

Funeral homes do try to be as sensitive as they can be. If he was cremated, the family can always choose to have the service at home or somewhere else. To my knowledge, you don't have to have something at the funeral home so you could do that when the time feels right for everyone involved. Shane will never be forgotten. That boy showed strength and courage that many adults wish they had. He fought as hard as he could for as long as he could and he touched more lives than he knew. RIP sweetheart.
 

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I've had a small lump at the back of my neck on the right side for years now. I totally forgot about it because it's not noticeable but the other day, I was rubbing my hand over my neck and I felt it again. Not sure if it's changed shape. But it's really on my mind.

Maybe I should see a doctor while it's still small? It's hard-is and doesn't seem to move a lot. Kind of embedded in my neck tissue. :(
 

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I've had a small lump at the back of my neck on the right side for years now. I totally forgot about it because it's not noticeable but the other day, I was rubbing my hand over my neck and I felt it again. Not sure if it's changed shape. But it's really on my mind.

Maybe I should see a doctor while it's still small? It's hard-is and doesn't seem to move a lot. Kind of embedded in my neck tissue. :(
Sounds like a cyst to me.Has it gotten any bigger? Is it painful when you touch it? If so. I'd have it checked for sure. You might want to anyway just to be safe.
 

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You didn't overreact. You can't be too careful. I'm glad that you and the wee one are OK. Please take care of yourself. Shane would never want anything to happen to you or the baby. Your family is going through a true tragedy with his loss but he will watch over you with the same love and care that all of you gave to him during his life.

Funeral homes do try to be as sensitive as they can be. If he was cremated, the family can always choose to have the service at home or somewhere else. To my knowledge, you don't have to have something at the funeral home so you could do that when the time feels right for everyone involved. Shane will never be forgotten. That boy showed strength and courage that many adults wish they had. He fought as hard as he could for as long as he could and he touched more lives than he knew. RIP sweetheart.
when the love of my life died he was cremated and I cried all the way home with that box with is ashes. Not until 6 months later did I have a celebration of his life and took his ashes out to sea with quite a few of his sailing buddies following in their sail boats. The ocean was full of flowers people had brought. When my daughter died I did the same thing, it was months later and by then it did not hurt so much anymore. The place where the ashes hit the water turned bright turquoise, it was as if she was telling me "everything is ok now, mom".
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I'm not trying to scare you here, but go get checked.
About 6 years ago, my sister found a lump on her neck. I guess it was on her thyroid. They scheduled a biopsy and by then - a week later - there was a second lump. The biopsy came back inconclusive but suspicious. They gave her the option of just having the lumps removed or her whole thyroid. She had 4 kids at that time and didn't want to take any risks so she had them take the whole thing. They got it out and it was full of cancer. Fortunately, it hadn't spread yet and a single round of radiation put her in complete remission and she's been fine ever since - other than having to take medication to supply the hormones that her thyroid made.
 

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M maggiedemi There is no sulfa in Neosporin so you are probably having a reaction to one of the other things in it. Triple antibiotic is a generic Neosporin.I am highly allergic to Sulfa and Penicillin, adult onset. Can't use any of the two. Last time I had a sinus infection, in 2000, I took Zyrthomycain (sp?). Very small amount of tablets but by day three I had diarrhea and stomach cramps. Sulfa and Penicillin worked so well, but my mother was allergic and Nicole is as well.
 
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